European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 28, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers dear Ann Landers a woman wrote to you and said her husband had committed suicide Many years ago. When her children were Young. She never told them the truth and asked if perhaps she should. You said. Tell them but Don t be sur prised if they already you were 100 percent right. I am 19. And it was Only a Short Lime ago that i Learned my father committed suicide four months before i was born. My Mother never talked about him much. I grew up feeling there was some thing about death that was being kept from me. I used to make up wild stories about the Way he died. My schoolmates were mystified when they compared some of the tales i had told. A few Days before i left for College. I decided i had the right to know the truth. 1 demanded of my Mother thai shr id me exactly How dad had died. She said. He had a nervous later when i asked a teacher How this could be she said. People do not die from nervous 1 went Back to Mother again. She said. Well. Dear Actu ally your father had a heart attack after nervous i knew then thai she was hiding something and i decided to go Sec the woman my lather had been engaged to before he married my Mother. She said our dad committed since thai disclosure my life made a lot More sense. I no longer feel that there arc missing pieces. I urge All parents who arc withholding from their Chil Dren the fact that a mate died by suicide to Tell them. They arc entitled to that information and it s your Dun 10 give ii no name dear . Think of for letter that will help More people than you will Ever know. Dear Ann Landers this is a belated response to Southern who was honest enough to admit that she had no maternal instincts and was feeling guilty. I have always had an intense dislike for children and can barely stand my own. The boys now 11 and 16, Are excellent students and have never been in any Trou ble. I must have been born under a Lucky Star because i married a Man who is not Only a terrific father but a wonderful Mother. He told me Many limes that i should t feel guilty about my Lack of maternal instinct because he enough for both of us. I hate always worked downtown. After our first son was born. I could t Wail to get Back to my Job. I found a competent woman to care for the baby and my band rushed Home after work to take Over. Why i had the second child. I la never know except that my band thought we should give Joey a brother or Sis Ter. He promised if i had another baby he d take care of it. And he Kepi word. I spend Many weekends away on my motorcycle and nobody complains. The household functions a Little haphazardly Al times but we Are Happy with the Way we have worked things out. I m sure Many of your readers will think i am some kind of screwball but i am truly Content which is More than most of my friends can say. Free to be me Minn dear Krak you be written i very Frank letter for which you de want lob complimented. Tike Rood care of your band Deir. Thit Man a jewel. Creators Syndicate worker responds to cafes complaints i am writing in response to the Large Quantity of letters that appear constantly in your column with complaints about cafes. As an cafes employee i thought it was about time that someone said some thing positive in their defense. 1 work at the Shoppe the in Frankfurt West Ger Many. I find it really annoying that so Many people feel the need to complain about All cafes facilities. People need to Stop generalizing and putting All facilities and employees into the same categories. Contrary to popular belief not every store is under stocked and not every employee is rude. Maybe if some of your readers would put them selves in an cafes employees shoes for a moment they might realize that not All of their hostilities arc justified. When we place orders for merchandise we try to anticipate sales in Advance and order accordingly. But it is not always possible to anticipate accurately and we do not always receive All that we order. If our customers would just understand that we arc Here to serve them and if it is within our Power we will do whatever we can to help them. A lot of times people ask for things that we simply cannot order because our facility docs not Stock them. Our sales floor is limited and we can c ily Cany so much merchandise. But we do make an honest Effort to accommodate our customers and keep the most popular and requested items in Stock. Being an cafes employee is not the easiest Job in the world no matter which facility you work in and no Mailer what your Job. Our modest wages and Long hours make it very difficult to be inspired about our jobs. But not All of us dislike our jobs so much that we arc rude to our customers. I think All of us As customers have had an experience with a rude cafes employee somewhere. But i run into rude customers a few times every Day and nothing Ever gets said about them the complaints 1 hear Range from having to use a ration card to buy a pack of cigarettes to standing in line on a saturday or sunday afternoon. It seems pretty useless to Lake your aggravations out on a cashier when there is absolutely nothing she or he can do to solve your problem. Please do our employees a favor. Remind your read ers that we work hard to provide them with a convenient pleasant facility for their use. Even though i we try not to be Grumpy sometimes it s not easy. Please take into consideration when you come through our lines that we be had to be on our feet for about seven hours our lines Haven t seemed to gel any Shorter All Day and the person in front of you just finished telling us How stupid we arc because of something we can t control. One smile from a customer who appreciates our service can change an employee s whole Day. Carl Vance Fec Henham West Germany Reader discusses other Side of censorship this is in reference to the letter if books movies help they also the writer Points out some very valid facts in letter. There Are some people who have watched splat Ter movies and copied them. There Are some people who have watched porno movies and then raped women and girls. There Are some people who play dungeons and dragons and turn toward satanism. And some people win read a Book and go on a murder ing spree. The key word in the above sentences is some. A very very Small group of people is responsible for this paranoia which 1 might add seems to be spreading like a cancer. I must charge this writer with sensationalism just like the newspapers and to stations which publicize unfortunate or Freak events to boost ratings and sell More papers. When you take it upon yourself to inform people you must Wear the shroud of objectivity even if it hurts. Readers understand that even though there arc literally Over a million current players and sex players of dungeons and dragons and related games the handful of people who arc driven to satanism and violence arc inconsequential. There Are huge numbers of a rated videos rented. I do not understand the motivation but i must argue for the fact that people do have the right to watch Pitburg . Reunion set the 1990 Pitburg High school reunion we bal held july 26-29 at the Haon hotel on Jitney property m Orlando. Fie. This it Lor he ensure Larm Lyt there re special prices Lor Hole end attune. Lots of entertainment and a special reunion package the rooms Are available on a Lisl crime. Nest serve basis and we do have some deadlines. Please Send me any current addresses of students or teachers irom Tilburg High school even it you think we have them we Don i want anyone to rms this. Richerd f. Cart Boi 1055 Apo 09112 these films. Before the Reader can make a decision they must compare the number of sexually related crimes to the number of rentals. Also Lake into account that rape is a violent crime not the result of excessive lust. Violent books and movies Are also popular. They Are also quite often blamed because a couple of peo ple copy the atrocities to be found within the film or pages of these mediums. If these people never saw this Book or movie most would find something else to trigger their irrational behaviour. The unbalanced who cannot separate fantasy from reality Are the weapon that this writer uses to persuade you the readers that such products should be banned. Whal he is in essence saying is that someone like let us say Charles Manson would not have gotten the Manson family to Gelhar and killed All those peo ple if he had not heard the beatles White it is a naive Assumption that a person can be that influenced by one movie Book song or whatever to such a degree As to completely change their Basic personality make up from god fearing Christian 10 serial killer. It is True that i have swung to the Complete oppo site Side of this writer s argument and have presented about As much objectivity As he . I am repulsed by this Side of myself however he inspired me to erase inc Scourge of the intelligent world censors. Bret Fledderjohn Giessen West Germany asian Pacific week All sons and daughters of Samoa Are invited to attend a meeting saturday to Roganue the Observance of me net asian Pacific week. The meeting will to held Al the Hessen Chapel at Homburg West Germany. 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