European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 24, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes a Page 11ann Fances letters a offis a to com Mon place. Every Day we read and Jar hair raising stones describing Many a inhumanity to Man and woman. Recently a newsletter put out he a croup that takes care of Bat lured women published some excellent information. I would like to share it with you. Helping someone who is abused if you think you know someone who is being abused the first Steo is to Contact your local battered women s program for information on How to help her. When you have a Good understanding of the problem use the following guidelines. _ allow her to Tell her Story. Listen carefully without being judgmental. Let her know that you believe her and that you want to help. Be sensitive to her feelings. Fear ambivalence anger denial and helplessness Are All Normal reactions to battering. Inform her that there Are Laws to protect her and shelters for women who have her problem. Allow her to make her own decisions. Help her prepare for an emergency. Suggest that she Contact a battered women shot line to develop a safety plan. Be patient. Done to convey disappointment if she decides to return to the violent relationship. Let her know that you still care about her and that she can always come to you if there is a problem. How do 1 know if someone is being abused unless you witness physical abuse it is sometimes difficult to know when a Friend or relative is being abused. Abuse is any behaviour that is used to intimidate or control another person. Here Are some guidelines. Does her husband or Boyfriend a throw objects at her or destroy her property a threaten to Hurt her or her children a restrain her a consistently ridicule or insult her a express extreme jealousy t undermine her sense of Power or Confidence a make her account for every moment she is away from him a manipulate her with lies or promises t Force her to have sex with him a accuse her of having an affair with another Man a abuse the pet to punish or frighten her How does this abusive behaviour affect her a does she feel she does no to have the right to say a no Quot a is she afraid to disagree with him a has she stopped seeing her family and friends a does she feel responsible for the abuse a is she unable to get out get a Job or go to school without his permission if you know someone who is being abused suggest Ca Domestic violence hotline at 1-800333-Safe. Gem of the Day even when Opportunity knocks a person has to get off his rear end and answer the door. C creators Syndicate a Apo worker is tired of angry dispatches its that time again. On june 15, 1988, my first letter was printed in the stars and stripes concerning my a two cents  just As in a sure that there Are Many people still Here who can recall the other letter there will probably be another individual who will write a letter to protest this one. My last letter was not intended to spark All the criticism that began shortly after publication. It has been almost two years and in a still in the Apo but now at another location. I am convinced that there Are people living just to complain about the Apo. In a not complaining just presenting the facts. Call this round 2 if you will. Read on. A the letter i dropped in the collection Box yesterday had a wrong address on it. Can i have it Back in a in a  a what is a a training Holiday a answer i done to know. In a air Force a a Why Are you closed on holidays that a the Best time for me to Check my  a a in a like to mail this package to Seattle. In a posing and Here Are my orders. Can it go free a a can i mail this six pack to my brother he drinks exported Beer  a your service leaves a lot to be desired. I wrote a express on my letter and it took almost two weeks to get  a can you Tell your customs people to leave my Mother alone every time i Send her some Crystal she has to pay duty on  a i can see what it costs but what does your computer display show it can to be As much As this  it never ends a consistent Apo abusers and disrespectful patrons. No matter How Long and hard Wco what about the planet now we the people who faithfully read the stars and stripes can say that we know what some Peoples ideas Are on the beginning of the Earth. I would like to take this Opportunity to say that neither Side has changed my views on the subject nor would i expect them to do so. I would also like to add that i find the entire subject useless. Instead of All this literary bickering about How this once Majestic world began Why done tall these people try to think of ways to save it our Ozone layer has holes in it. Our Waterways and air Are polluted. People Are living on the Street in cardboard boxes without even the Basic necessities of life. Our children Are not Safe outside or inside the Home. Crime and drug abuse Are rampant. Enough about the beginning. Does it really matter now i can Tell what does. The certainty that if we do not change things for the better this once Beautiful planet we Call Home will no longer exist. All that will be left arc cockroaches and do you honestly think they care How about some feedback on the planet Earth i m interested to see if the response is As great As that on creationism is. Evolution. A Cynthia j. Cook Amberg West Germany reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. We do not read unsigned letters but we will withhold your name on request and protect your privacy. All tetters Are subject to editing. Work they still complain. We could be androids and work at it 24 hours a Day and nothing would change. I Hope you had a wonderful Christmas vacation. Did you forget who was putting mail in your Mailbox while you were gone do you know what it really is like inside a Post office docs that mail move automatically from the truck to your Mailbox do you realize that you Are a few thousand Miles from Home that you can to expect it As fast As across town another upsetting area is a a junk mail. Oops in a not supposed to Call it that. Its called bulk mail. We put plenty of it in Many mailboxes. But the heartbreaking part is what happens to it in the end. We arc obligated to empty those trash cans in the lobby. That a where it ends up. From our tedious work into the trash can if you done to want it Why done to you Tell the person who sent it do you people read All those newspapers no you find the first trash can nearest to you before you depart the lobby right Many people must think that Apo personnel Are flunkies from other jobs that we were put in there because we  handle anything else. Well if i were them i certainly would not want someone like that to handle my mail. Think about it. You must have to Trust Many types of people to handle your mail in such a Way As you expect. We Are your most important link and most important service organization on most installations. We done to understand How we Are taken so literally by most. Sure we make mistakes. If you done to you re a robot. We cannot even apologize straight up without being considered wrong and useless first. Give me a break will you in be once again had my two cents Worth. Have a Nice Day he a name and location withheld pen pals my hobbies Are watching television listening to Beautiful music and dancing. I am 19 years old. A Evelyn m. Gloria 23 b. Bonefacio St. Pagasa Olon Gapo City 2200 Philippines i am an English girl interested in american pen friends Between the Ages of 25 and 35. I have a Good sense of fun and adventure. I love ail the latest pop music and going to discos. A Ros Long 5 Dartmouth close Bracknell Berks. Rg12 3hg England please publish my name in your pen pal Section because i would like to have friends in other countries. A Esterlita Aghasian 1308 Bolocboloc Tibulan Negros Oriental Philippines i will be moving to England in May and would like to correspond with people from the United kingdom. I am 22 years old. My hobbies include swimming outdoor sports and Cross stitching. I will be moving to Raf Lakenheath. A Tracy Armstrong pc Box 3795 Beale fab Calif. 95903 i would like to have More friends especially from outside the country. I am 22 years old. A Maria Arlene d. Lagazino 3541 Baya Nihan St. P 10t, so Sogon so Sogon Philippines 4700 i am a 40-year-old divorced woman with three children. Enjoy dancing quiet nights at a pub or evenings at Home listening to music. I enjoy mixing with people and having a bit of fun. A Linda Smith 71 Chester St. Whitmore reans Wolverhampton West midlands wv6-Opx England i am 21 years old and Hope to to an accountant one Day. I enjoy dancing Reading Riding motorcycles and outings. A Jugin a. Callao 363 Cabutotan Tarasan Negros Oriental 6211 philippine the so Rani of ropes european edition col. Gene e. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col. Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Mer Proctor Deane b. Mcdermott this manager managing editor circulation manager be Mii Mitru is an a Quot in red unofficial publication for members of necessarily Iklo c�3 overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are not department in n j views of. Or endorsed by the . 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