European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 28, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Fin Landers dear Ann Landers Cardinal Cushing so a prayer for bad times Quot helped me pull myself together when you first ran it several years ago. I need it More than Ever now. Please try to find it and run it again. Thank you. A Woodland Hills Calif. Dear Woody Here it is a favorite of mine too. Thank you for asking. Prayer for bad times dear god help me be a Good sport in this game of life. I Don t ask for an easy place in the lineup. Put me anywhere Yon need me. I Only ask that i can give you 100 percent of everything i have. If All the hard drives seem to come my Way i thank you for the compliment. Help me remember that you never Send a player More trouble than he can handle. And help me lord to accept the bad Breaks As part of the game. May i always play on the Square no matter what the others do. Help me study the Book so ill know the rules. Finally god if the natural turn of events goes against me and i m benched for sickness or old age help me to accept that As part of the game too. Keep me bom whimpering that i was framed or that i got a raw Deal. And when i finish the final inning i ask for no laurels. A i want is to believe in my heart that i played As Well As i could and that i did t let you Down. A Richard Cardinal Cushing. Dear Ann Landers last May my husband asked for a separation. At the same time he said he wanted to build our Home so that we both could stay Here and maintain a comfortable Standard of living. I agreed. I should Tell you that a a calving was a psychologist who decided he would rather teach ballroom dancing. For the last several years 1 was his partner. We did Public appearances together and had a wonderful time. Now i have been replaced. His new dancing partner is a Young married woman who comes to his studio in our Home three times a week for lessons. Calvin gives her a great Deal of time for which she pays nothing. As 1 see it divorce is the Only sensible solution. However this diabolical charming controlling Man who has alienated his two children and has never seen his grandchildren refuses to leave the House or even the bedroom. I find this situation enormously painful and feel the need to get As far away from him As possible. Please Tell me what to do. A Long Island heartache dear . You need a Good lawyer. Under no circumstances should you move out or he will get you for abandonment. Nothing says you must share a bedroom with this creep a cot in the Kitchen would be preferable to sleeping with this Case of arrested development. Dear Ann Landers i am a 19-year-old who is confused about whether or not i need to see a gynaecologist. My Mother says if there Arentt any problems there is no need to go. 1 argued with her because i have read about undetected diseases such As ovarian cancer and some forms of venereal disease in Young girls. Mom says Only women who have already had their first child need an annual checkup. Is she right a confused in Lakewood Colo. Dear Lakewood. No. She a wrong. Both gynaecologists with whom i checked agree All women 18 years or older should be checked annually. Those who become sexually Active earlier should see a gynaecologist promptly and not wait until age 18. The stars and stripes Page 11letters a readers offer proposals on military cuts in be been Reading in the paper every other Day or so about troop cuts and How to accomplish them without hurting our country a defense. An adequate Way to Cut Down on the armed forces without hurting the defense of our country would be to Force All enlisted soldiers with Over 20 years in and All officers who have been passed Over for promotion to retire. Mandatory retirement would open up positions for the younger or Junior soldiers getting amp Quality management program action who cannot get promoted because of an overage in their military occupational specially. The amp should still be used for soldiers who Are overweight or can to pass set skill qualification test and physical training it tests Etc. I know a lot of people will say that this plan would mean we would lose a lot of our expertise. But the older soldiers have had the Chance to serve their country for 20 years and should have trained the Junior soldiers to take Over these positions if they have been doing their jobs As leaders. Many higher ranking soldiers Are just paper pushing a a forming quire current on common task soldiering that keeps soldiers desk jockeys and figureheads who Are just performing managerial tasks. They have not been required to keep prepared for conflicts. They Are not out there with the Quot worker bees and wont really be contributing to the actual fighting Force in the Field during a conflict. Forced retirement is just another Avenue of approach that should be considered in the decisions of troop reduction. A name and location withheld i am appalled Over All the discussion concerning compensation for military personnel expected to be involuntarily separated from the service. Severance pay extended use of Exchange and commissary privileges and medical care Are not Only inadequate substitutes for a suitable career but a shameful breach of Trust. The unspoken but fully understood Promise made to career military personnel has always been that if you worked hard produced results and received promotions at a reasonable rate you were guaranteed an Opportunity to Complete at least 20 years of service and receive retirement benefits commensurate with ones rank and time in service. Now we arc facing a situation whereby Only the Best will be assured of retention opportunities. We have superstars in the military and we also have substandard performers. There to however a Large cadre of professional people who fall in Between these extremes. These arc the people who arc responsible for the High standards of Mission support that our leaders have become accustomed to receiving. If our leaders were to turn their backs on these serv  and separate them As proposed they would Send a loud and Clear message to All other members. That message is that we could never again regardless of career status reel secure in our military occupation. Throughout my entire career i have been constantly reminded of the importance of integrity and Honor. If we really believe in integrity and Honor the dialogue about and search for adequate compensation should Stop. The real Challenge and moral goal facing our policy makers is to find a Way to continue the military careers of our hard working and deserving personnel. Honorable commitment is a two Way Street that should not be compromised. We should not even consider replacement of the cold War with the cold shoulder. The Only adequate compensation for honorable service is the Opportunity to continue Pursuit of an honorable career. A chief master sgt. Harry j. Strope Span Dahlem a West Germany a thoughts on where tax dollars go with All the budget cuts and Federal deficit spending going to the Moon your tax dollars May be supporting the list below. Keep in mind military cuts maybe a 3 percent raise in january 1991, and most of All your retirement pay. Think about it. Maybe you done to have your 20 years but we had better think and write letters to our congressmen senators and anyone else to find out what the entitled cents Are. You May get the Chance to retire. There is an election year coming. Vote. 1. Savings and loan bailouts 2. State taxes increasing 3. Defense budget cuts 4. Poland 5. Panama 6. Nicaragua 7. Romania 8. Czechoslovakia 9. Hungary 10. Trade deficit with Japan just to name a few. Think about it. You May be the next one forced out. A name and location withheld pen pals i am 20 years old and my hobbies Are cleaning cooking and Reading. A Alice b. Sabanal mag Yuhao. T Avasan Negros Oriental. Philippines i am 33 years old and i enjoy Reading listening to music sports travelling photography and watching movies. A Joseph Addae Bohnhof sir. 96 7144 Asper. West Germany i am 21 years old and my hobbies Are singing dancing and sometimes i enjoy biking. A Marites Sald Onido Claro m. Recto St. Banawan Negros Oriental Philippines 6221 i am 23 years old. My hobbies Are dancing singing and collecting Stamps. A Melanie p. Llenos Pioneer insurance 4 surety corp. 108 pase de Roxas Legaspi vill Makati. Metro Manila Philippines i i am 21 years old and my interests Are swimming keeping it Reading going to the Cinema. Heater clubs discos and listening to music pop and classical. A Angela Fowler 8 Whitland Road Fairfield Liverpool l6 sir England i am 42 years old and my interests Are Tho Cinema theater eating out pop music clubs discos gardening and Home decorating and travel. A Sheila Bruce 139 Rock Lane mailing Merseyside l31 1ew England i am 23 years old and i enjoy watching movies travelling listening to music swimming and cooking. A Maria Luz Catalonia a amp no subdivision Mensi Lingen Bacolod City. Negros Occidental Philippines my hobbies Are Reading magazines and Pix Kel books and collecting irions i am 23 years old a Brenda Montano West Negros co logo l a department Bacolod City. Philippines i am 16 years old i copy a Jort. Music and having a Good limn a Tiffany r. Brown b co 498th spa in Apon v 09355 i am 26 years old i on of a wide Range no music irom Punk to soul and blues but especially  music. I also enjoy concerts travel and Gurnig nut on Tho weekends with founds a to Murloy Holmas 35 Limey Road Beaumont Loys Leicester le4 due  european edition col. Gene e. Townsend. Usan commander editor in chief it. Col. Suzanne l Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in Chiel Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b. Mede Mott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication Lor members of the military services overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . 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