European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 28, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this letter will sound bizarre and in a sure most of your readers will think it was made up by a student at Yale. Every Sorais True so help me. I am praying that you will it Rint it because my wife refuses to Isten to me and i need some help with this problem. She respects you Ann. A a Susan and i have been married for seven years. We have a 6-year-old son and cannot have any More children. She was hoping for a girl and was deeply disappointed when a a Jack was bom. Susan has treated our son like a girl from the Day he came Home from the Hospital. She dresses him in frilly Pinafore and puts Ibbons in his hair. My family thought Susan was nutty at first and told her so. She threatened to keep them from seeing Jackie a if they continued to be critical so they caved m and now they even buy him Tea sets and dolls. When Jackie started kindergarten last year he was registered As a girl. No one at school knows he a a boy. He wears dresses with fancy underwear and plays with dolls sems quite comfortable As a girl and loves to go Friday september 28, 1990 the stars and stripes i e 11 he seems quite comfortable As a girl it my he pcs to go shopping with his mom. In be told Susan that she is ruining Jackie for life but she says several famous men in history a Afa Faich a my tic to in i j a a. �?7 a a of via i Wurum men i Imury were raised As girls citing Ernest Hemingway one of her heroes As prime example. Is this True Ann my wife insists that i Shn nmn to no in such. Pm Senua  do you believe that what my wife is doing will cause a problem to our son later in life she insists not but i need some help. �?mr.t.b., , Santa Ana Calif. First a bit of history it is True that Ernest Hemingway smother dressed him in girls clothes. Actually she attempted to create the impression that he and his older sister were twins. Although Hemingway was regarded As one of the Foremost writers of his time his personal life was a mess. His Mother was a bizarre woman and he despised her. His father a physician whom he also loathed was an angry bitter Man trapped in a nightmarish marriage. He committed suicide As did Ernest his sister Ursula and his brother Leicester. Your wife is in desperate need of counselling and your son needs plenty of help too especially if his ditzy Mother insists on Bolliing up his sexual identity. I urge you to enlist the cooperation of the child a paediatrician his teachers a anyone who will help you Rescue that unfortunate boy from this sick situation. Dear Ann Landers every night my father in Law comes Over at 8 . Sharp and stays until 10. This has been going on for two years. My wife keens Savins. A dad in no i Amend or mrry Home life Back change. How can i get my riled in Redlands debarred since its your wife a father its up to her to make the move. If she needs counselling to become More assertive i recommend it. She is being unfair to you and to herself. Its time she grew up and took control of her life. Gem of the Day sent in by g.m.k., Van Buren Ark of lord fill my Mouth with worthwhile stuff a and nudge me when in be said enough. C creators Syndicate letters taking exception to an Coa suggestion for years servicemen and their families have been drilled trained and hounded to use such anti terrorist measures As not flashing their id cards around learn the Host language and use it done to draw attention to yourself Etc. We re told to blend in and not stick out like a sore thumbs even our License plates have been changed to look More european. Now Walter w. Krueger president and chief exec Ohve officer of the Coa is asking us to display Small red White and Blue ribbons on our car antennae doorknobs and elsewhere a to show that we Are with our troops in spirit and prayer As a project dubbed a a Patriot a  we might As Well hang Large vivid signs around our j a 1 a. W do u4vuiiu Vui necks on our front doors and paint on our cars a take me terrorist blow up my car. In Man american a in mall for being patriotic and supportive of opera Lon desert shield. I think of and Pray for our troops Tion in the Gulf but i for one will not display the a a Patriot a Pride ribbon anywhere except in the Pri own Home. Pray for our troops f the a a Patriot a privacy of our a a Patriot a Pride is a Fine and Dandy idea for americans living in the Continental United states but definitely out of place if you Are living overseas. A Amy Hartman Wei Brincken a West Germany i am in the air Force and stationed in Southern Germany. We like other . Branches of service Are trained to defend our country and allies against those Una  -__11 f _. Ii a a Guirgi Ivou who threaten or invoke War upon us. We Are Well prepared and Many of us would jump at the going to the Middle East to show our colors. The problem i have with this article is that the americans arc in a time of crisis and there is a High threat of terrorism in Europe. In a sure that All units have briefed their people on the importance of being cognizant of suspicious individuals and to inform their families likewise. We have been told to change our daily routines and if possible do what we can to not openly display the fact that we Are americans so that we Are not an easy target for potential terrorist actions. How Are we to protect ourselves and families from this by product of War namely terrorism while driving through towns with ribbons on our antennas or sitting at Home with our doorknobs saying a there we Are come and get us a we Are All with our troops in spirit and prayer and Are very proud of them. What would even make us prouder is being with them physically. But before we go support the crisis War Over there lets take care of ourselves Here. Lets protect ourselves by deterring terrorism. Make yourself less obvious to the enemy and if you wish to hang the colors do it behind closed doors. The Coa is a great organization and they usually have Good intentions. In this Case the welfare of the americans in Europe slipped their minds. I think that it is great that the citizens of America Are showing their patriotism with these ribbons. I feel that the airmen soldiers and seamen and marines stationed overseas have shown their patriotism to their country the Day they signed up. We do not need any ribbons. We show our colors daily. A staff sgt. Luis e. Flores clip him a West Germany a observations on a Friend in need the Gravity of events in the Middle East has once again delivered americans to foreign soil a soil where Little is to be gained from our Domestic perspective but something significant from an International one. To Foster democratic tenets we americans Are compelled to assist other like thinking folks in their time of need. We readily Saddle up and energetically deploy our resources to Rescue or preserve. Yes such gestures of Friendship Are chivalrous but evidently of ephemeral value they Are frequently too soon forgotten by our a a Friend once he a achieved his goal. Think about it. As with any other recent crisis in which America has militarily participated its Only a matter of time after the scenario has ended that we a note of thanks to the american folks in Riyadh who donated their time to bake us cookies thank you. You touched our hearts with your care. And to the teenage mutant ninja Turtle fan Cowa Bunga dude. Yusaf Oreovac groups and medical ground forces saudi Arabi Apen pals please add my name to your pen pal column. I am 26 years old and my hobbles Are music sports netball and Cricket. A Carmen sales Knalls . St. Catherine Jamaica hear those All too familiar anti american denunciations. Incessant allegations claiming american corruption of this or that relentless verbal and graphic attacks against american presence Here or there. The irony of this is that it was our a a Friend who asked for our help and being a a a Friend we obliged a not for personal gain but preservation of something treasured. Hopefully this time around our a a Friend will recall who his a a Friend really is and realize that despite the obvious sacrifices that might occur we americans will go just about anywhere at anytime and do just about anything for a  a sgt. 1st class Ralph a. Bassett Wiesbaden West Germany gis mourn loss of Crew to All personnel of the military Airlift come yesterday the 608th Ord co received the news that the Crew of a c-5a had crashed. The greatest Shock was when we Learned that it was the Crew who flew us from fort Benning ga., to Spain. We wish to offer our deepest condolences and sympathy to the friends and family of our lost Servic Mcm Bers. During the flight the entire Crew was Able to make a stressful situation tolerable and treated us As part of their family. Again our sympathy and thoughts Are with you. You will be greatly missed. The troops of the 608th Ord co fort Benning ga., via saudi Arabi Aike St piss Klepes european edition circulation 170,000 col. Genee. Townsend Usan commander editor in chief it. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. 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