European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 3, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse Many of the activities Perry suggests in her Book came from her experience with her boys. She recalls one project that was a big Success Quot we made a Book of changes. We started when they were still v preschoolers. Wed take a simple camera and Wal around the Block and take pictures of things that would a lot where a building was going up a riverbed that was dry a neighbor a a All were Likely to be different a few months later. After some time go Back and take Quot after pictures to paste in beside the Quot before shots. Other suggestions from Perry a have your child close her eyes and imagine she is in a spaceship a Castle a hot dog factory. What does she see hear smell taste touch a help your child Start a journal encourage him to record emotions about a problem to write about what parents and friends mean to him or what makes him Happy and sad to record what he did today a variation is a Quot scrapbook journal a a a photos drawings and souvenirs share space with writings. Questions can include what Are you Reading today what a your favorite Book what do you eat on a typical Day a a create Quot photo the child thinks of a Story it does no to have to be funny and writes a script then plans photos to illustrate it. Friends or family members act out the Story while the child takes the photos. The photos Are then arranged on heavy paper dialogue added. A visit a cemetery. Talk about How names evolved from. Peoples occupations locate the gravestones with the Virost recent dates and the oldest note what diseases caused death figure out How Many people died during childbirth and How Many died in childhood. A make an event out of a walk. Go at Arru usual time a before others Are up or late in the evening. Or go on a Quot what s wrong Quot walk a find things along the Way that need to6e fixed or changed. On a Quot what a right Quot walk find pleasing scenes or objects. A have some fun with excuses. Encourage children to come up with Clever excuses such As Quot i did t do the dishes because there were Sharks in the sink Quot a older children can observe the psychological dynamics of others after a visit to a store or other Public place talk about the exchanges you saw. Who was being bossed around who was the Boss did the employees act the Way with customers they would with their families a have a positive whenever a negative thought enters your mind make it a child resists an idea for a game or project drop it Perry says. Quot it it feels Tike a task you re not doing it right Quot Perry says. Quot go on to something else. It should be by Mary to Kochakian Hartford courant a i i 20-month-old boy sees sunlight on his bedroom floor. He gets Down on his hands and Knees and looks at it. He touches it then puts his Mouth to it a at that moment his Mother returns and sees him a writes or. Daniel n. Stern. Quot she shouts a done to do that a Joey stops abruptly. He stares at the spot of sunlight then looks up at his Mother. She bends Down puts her Arm around him and says reassuringly even with Ais pile that s just Sunshine Honey. Its just to look at. It s Only Light on the floor. You can to eat this Sunshine. It s dirty Quot Joey looks at her a Long while and then Back at the Sun. Patch. He disengages himself from her Arm and walks out of the a a. A l it is Clear what the Mother is thinking. How about Joey As Stern sees it Quot the morning glow is there again with its slow dance on the Wall. And on the floor it is a Pool Bright and Beautiful and deep. It is warm like a Blanket. It _ vibrates like music glows like Honey. And it tastes like a Quot Mommy s voice slaps me. At once it freezes my Bright space. It chills the warmth stops the music houses the glow. Why Quot i search her face. I see it metall pinched around her nose. It turns quickly into anger then both expressions flow out together and Loving rushes in. She holds me and says soft lilting words. Yet each of her words is a muffled blow that cracks my space into pieces. When she stops the pieces lie All around. That world is gone. I feel naked and sad. I m All by myself.�?�. Joey is the subject of Sterns diary of a baby Basic books $18.95. In it Stern a professor at the University of Geneva Switzerland and infant psychiatrist describes the thoughts of an average child As he grows to 4 years. How a Reader May ask can he be so certain of what an infant is thinking surely he would not think in the words Stern uses they Are meant to convey a feeling to parents. This construction of the baby a world Stern says invites parents to become More aware of something they already do All the time. 7.�. Quot a Quot i wanted to stimulate their curiosity As to what a going on inside their baby s mind Quot Stern also wanted to make it Clear that it is not Only of to imagine what s going on it s very helpful and we Haven t paid attention to the fact that its one of the acts of . Parents often perceive a baby s behaviour through a filter their ideas of who the baby is when a Parent fixed idea of what the baby should be it can stunt their relationship a a for example a Parent who prefers an Active exuberant child might have trouble with a More passive quiet baby Stern says. If the Mother makes faces to try to make the baby laugh the infant May Well turn away the Mother May be disappointed and wonder what wrong with the baby. V y y. Quot there a sort of a negative evaluation whereas if she can Stop and imagine what is this like for him a then 1 think she would act rather differently Quot Stern says. The interpretations of Joey s experience Are by no Means fiction Stern writes but Quot part speculation part imagination part fact a All emerging from our current knowledge of a to write the episode of Joey and the Patch of sunlight Stem says he Drew upon two bodies of research a the Way infants perceive events and How children acquire language a a and the fact the two really Are not there a a Quot clash of worlds Between the categorical realm of language and the Meitl sensory Way infants perceive experiences researchers have observed that Quot infants do frequently get into these Peculiar kinds of trouble and they Are struggling with putting their experiences into words a which they very much want to do but find sometimes absolutely bewildering and they can t do getting Andea of what 20-month old is struggling with can help parents be More empathetic it is inevitable that with a toddler there will be episodes like the one of Joey and sunlight Stern says but by understanding a Cal lots capabilities and paying attention to what the child is thinking the less children like Joey will Quot feel naked and a a. 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