European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 6, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday december 6, 1990 dear Ann Landers my husband and i have been married for several years. Our friends often describe us As the Ideal couple. We have a 2-year-old child and get along Well together. So what a the problem i suspect that my husband is Gay Quot. In a suspicious because there has been very Little sexual activity for most of our marriage. When we go to bed we Are like strangers. I retire to my Side and he to his. There is no touching no cuddling no conversation. We May As Well be in different cities. When i try to get close to him he pushes me away and says he is tired. My ego is in tatters from so much rejection. It. I once accused him of having an affair. He became upset and denied it. Later i asked him if he was Gay. An Odd expression crossed his face but there was no denial Only  resent being deprived of a Normal sex life which i feel is my right. At the same time in a terribly sorry for my husband. In a afraid he is a confused and unhappy Man unable to be honest with me. What shall i do Ann. I can to go on pretending that everything is wonderful when in a miserable and he must be too. There is no one else i can talk to. Please give me some advice. Dreading the night. In the Midwest dear Midwest from the scant information you have shared i believe your suspicions Are Well founded. 1 a have a Frank talk with your husband. _ and done to be surprised if he is relieved and eager to unburden himself. A a a a. You la both be a Jot happier once the charade is Over and ail the cards Are on the table. Dear Ann Landers yesterday 1 was having lunch with three colleagues at a restaurant near the office. In a self conscious about my eyeglasses. They Are very thick. I took them off and put them on the table. Suddenly my friends began to take turns trying them on. A a it a a a it. A. One said a wow these glasses Are thick Why not just get Coke bottles a another said a you need a seeing Eye dog a. The laughter got very loud. No one noticed that i was on the verge of tears. This Isnit the first time this sort of thing has happened Tome. When a fellow i work with saw me in contacts for the first time he went on and on about How ugly my glasses looked thinking i would be pleased said a a you Are a totally different person without those hideous glasses Quot please Tell me How to Deal with this problem Ocean Springs miss. . A y., a. First never place your glasses on the table. Put them in your purse. When those clods tried them on it gave them a perfect opening. A a a v a v if anyone comments about the thickness of your glasses or How much better you look without them simply say a a in be heard All this before too Many times in. Fact. Lets change the  7 Quot v. C creator Syndicate a a a a 7 a drunk Driver tale has moral Happy end a few welts ago i wrote a letter about Drunken drive a few things occurred since then that May be of interest Many Miry tales have Happy endings. A Good fairy tale has a moral. My brother a Story has both. First lets talk about the ending. My brother s artificial foot works pretty Welt. He a had his fair share of adventures with it like getting up in the Middle of the night and forgetting to put it on before heading off to the bathroom. That he s laughing about it is Good to know. He a going on with his life. The drive on the other hand finally has things going against him. He had skipped bail twice and had a can hauled Back twice. He made his trial this month because the judge got tired of his shenanigans. He pleaded guilty. He was to go Back in november for sentencing. Good things really do happen. One must be willing to wait Long enough. Lets go on to the moral. None of this should have happened. In spite of tremendous efforts on the part of Madd mothers against drunk driving lawmakers judges and police departments we have along Long Way to go in making americans highways Safe. In More than one Community its still entirely too easy to get Back on the Road after a drunk driving arrest. We cannot must not allow anyone Back on the Road after the first conviction. We do a pretty Good Job of this in Europe because we can withdraw the driving privilege when a Servic Mem Ber violates his Trust by drinking. We need Laws to allow this in the United states. We cannot allow the Opportunity for a second offence. We cannot allow Drunken Drivers to be charged with a lesser offence we cannot allow plea bargaining. We cannot be Quot Nice  one loophole in any state s system is too Many. To those who know me and mentioned their interest and concern thank you. To those who do so much to publicize the problem and legislate solutions thank you too. To organizations like scouting and Madd who stand at the front lines in alcohol awareness you already have my Active and monetary support. To commanders who make the hard decisions and revoke licenses in a with you. To you out there who drink and drive you a better worry. It May take time but Well get you eventually. To the gentleman who answered my letter i m an alabamian too no one loves Alabama a mountains farms history people political pluses and yes minuses More than i to. I never said a word about Hicks or bumpkins. I did not say the problem is exclusively Alabama a. Rather 1 brought to your readership a problem that we must solve. The problem exists everywhere and affects everyone. It May interest you to know that prior to submitting my letter to the stars and stripes i sent a copy to my parents they discussed it with my brother a attorney. 1 followed his advice in not publishing my name. Now that the trial is Over the stars and stripes is free to use my name. In fact id like it to. In be never wasted a Chance to let Drunken Drivers know precisely where 1 stand. A David Hulteen Kaiserslautern Germany a writer feels army themes important i wish to express my concern Over a recent Story a army plays taps on a 10-year  an official is quoted As saying the army theme a a is not an Issue that has lived on in the consciousness of the  this begs the question does the Secretary of the army or his staff care about soldiers i think not. I have been a Soldier since Jan. 21, 1980. Over the past 10 years i have watched the Quality of life in the army improve by leaps and Bounds. Much of this is attributable to the highest Levels of leadership. Or. Marsh is personally responsible for implementing Many Soldier support programs command emphasis on family support building Pride and professionalism in the noncommissioned officer corps and Quality training has built the Quality army of  Stone and the current staff were hired to dismantle the army while protecting As Many defense contracts As possible. In this environment less tangible programs like family support recreation centers morale support and army Community services lose funding an emphasis. A a a. Your reporter states Quot the themes were never a big hit with  Well maybe. I have sometimes laughed at relate programs and have often seen misunderstanding toward the themes. Command emphasis toward the themes have produced Good results. The a year of physical fitness1 brought the army out of the dark Ages in conditioning programs. The a year of the army family gave birth to Many formal family support programs and informal support chains that have made the army a Good place for families. Although the themes were often misunderstood they have left lasting imprints on the army lifestyle. With the current attitude toward the army where themes do not matter we have a dark future indeed.�?1st it. John p. Sheridan l operation desert shield. It editors note a the stars and stripes editorial staff is now judging Mure than 404 entries in its own contest to give the army a theme. The winners will he announced later this month. You had a piece recently titled a a history Laden 7th Cay begins arriving in Gulf in which it was stated a the division is the fourth elite . Army unit deployed in operation desert shield. The 82nd airborne 101st airborne and the 24th much inf div sent earlier All have storied pasts Awell my unit has a storied past and is a very elite unit too. The 3rd army Cav regt is the second oldest Active unit in the army. We re from the desert Tel paso Texas if any unit Here Are desert fighters we Are Patton was our 28th commander -. He used the 3rd car to spearhead his March across Europe. We Jook part Tittlie Indian wars the civil War the Spanish american War Wei and Wii. We would like to hear something about our unit too thc3rd acr1 a.  -1-operation desert shield Quot a All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. We do not read unsigned tetters but we will withhold your name on request and protect your privacy. The w european edition circulation 190.000 ?. Col Gene e. Townsend Usan. Commander editor in chief. It. Col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor. Circulation Lanager. The newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication Tor members of the military services overseas. 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