European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 03, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                A thursday january 3, 1991 the stars and stripes Page it dear Ann Landers i was a Happy contented woman until five years ago. This is old news now but it continues to cause pain arid embarrassment. I found out that my husband was exposing himself to our next door neighbor while i was pregnant with our second child. She became frightened and reported him to the police. I was shocked and totally devastated. I had two Small children and Felt that had no Choice but to forgive him arid go on. No one told me about the potential dangers of this sickness. Our relationship was badly damaged and i have been an emotional wreck Ever since i found out. I try to forget but we still live next door to these people and it s a continual source of anguish and humiliation for me. I cannot look the woman in the Eye and try to avoid her whenever possible. It does not seem to faze my husband in the least. He flatly refuses to move. A a. We finally separated last year but we be been Back and Forth with each other six times. Guess who buckles under me. During the course of our separation my Story became known to family members and professionals. I now know that this problem requires intense therapy and sometimes even that fails to set things right. My husband refuses to have therapy the More in a around him the More i feel that something Isnit right. My problem is that 1 can to seem to make it emotionally without this Man even though i done to have any real feelings for him. I believe strongly in family life and he is a. Wonderful father. If i can to live without him How can i live with him desperate in a Southern City dear Southern City sorry i have no magic Wand Handy dear. What you have described will require a lot of hard work on your part. Get into counselling and find out Why you Are so dependent on a Man you do not love and cannot respect. Dear Ann Landers i am 30 years old and have had a cardiac pacemaker for 11 years. My husband and i love to travel but because of the Lack of consideration and downright rudeness of Airport Security personnel travel has become a nerve wracking experience for us. I refer to the a Ray machines and Metal detectors passengers must pass through before boarding. Pacemaker patients Are now allowed to show an . Card and be hand searched. _ _ the problem is the attitude of Many of these Security people. Recently while waiting in a Long line i told the Security person that i had a pacemaker. I was instructed to a go wait Over  i Aid As i was told and waited another 15 minutes. Then in the Middle of the crowded Airport the Security person yelled a wok whereas the pacemaker a naturally everyone turned to stare and i Felt like a criminal.  it be simple for airports to set up a separate screening area for passengers with handicaps and disabilities this Way no one would suffer the embarrassment of being pulled aside and hand searched while everyone looks to see if you Are concealing a gun. A dreading the next trip in . Dear dreading your Point sounds valid to me. Does anyone in the airline Industry wish to respond to this woman a letter i will be delighted to give you equal time. ? ,., c creators Syndicate. A letters to Ann Landers May be addressed in care of the stars and stripes Apo new York 09211, and they will be forwarded to her. My passes on As an author of three books a the Ranger digest a a a do it yourself warning amp operation order books a and a the squad leaders combat Field status pocket books a1 have received quite a number of suggestions and tips from our forces on operation desert shield they have written letters to my Book agents and were. Eager to share their tips and suggestions. 1 would like to pass on some of those tips and a few other ideas i acquired to our deploying forces to desert shield and to those who Are already there As some of these tips will no doubt improve your chances of survival in combat and the a boredom waiting game.�?�. A if you get hold of a . Whitney car Catalon you will find in it a device called a solar tar Battery Charger. It sell s for under $20. If you snip the ends of these wires and leave exposed about one Inch of Bare wire you can charge up a a rechargeable batteries in just a few hours of sunlight. Just connect the positive and negative wires to the positive and negative portions of rechargeable batteries with a rubber band. You never have to buy batteries again for the Field or desert. Note this will not work directly on a radio or cassette recorder its Only Good for recharging batteries. A order and buy a number of pocket hand held computer games. If they Are not available where you Are ask a family member to Send you one of a dozen computer games from the Sears Catalon. They will save you hours of being bored. Some Cata logs sell pocket size computer chess and other games. A when purchasing a radio cassette buy a Good one and not a Cheapo the cheaper it is the better Chance of its breaking Down. Buy one that takes the same size batteries As some military equipment takes. An example is the a Battery commonly called a military a 3058/u. That was for saving yourself from boredom. Now some a common sense survival tips that you Mill not normally find in any Field manual. A if the in cow can be seen and it appears to be in Range so Are you a leaders should avoid and minimize Oyer rehearsing their troops a just before the actual Mission Quot. You can never train enough but overdoing it just be Tore a Mission will cause tired troops to become fatigued and careless especially if their Mission goes beyond the Normal expected time. Give Max rest  possible. A the last three rounds in every Magazine should be tracer  will remind you when you Are about to run out of ammo. When in doubt change your mag. A tracer fire helps and can Vork both ways. It identifies targets on where to fire and also where the firing is coming from. ?.?. A a a. A keep loaded magazines facing Down and empty facing up the loaded mags facing Down will keep the Sand out arid the empty mags facing up will remind you that those mags Are empty. A military radios always seem to fail As soon As you desperately need them for Ai medevac or lire support. Plan for the worst. A no military plan Ever survived the first Contact intact so be prepared for changes and adapt quickly to the situation. A the most important tasks of a Mission always appear to be simple. Its those simple ones that always wind up being hard. A in a wide open desert Light and noise at night travels a helluva lot farther than anyone will imagine. Practice Light and noise discipline. Preach daily a you cannot clean your weapon enough each Day to ensure it will function when you need it the most. A if you Are Short of everything except the enemy then you arc no doubt in combat. A sgt. 1st class Rick Schyrrie Vicenza Italy a overseas publications have their say this is in response to a recent letter published by the stars and stripes. We at the of seas Post wish to let it be known that the Magazine which wrote that letter is not the Only publication being sent to operation desert shield members. I be have already shipped some 10,000 copies of our december Issue of the of seas Post to the soldiers sailors marines and airmen involved in operation desert shield and we will continue to ship approximately 10,000 copies of our Magazine to them every month. The of seas Post has not Only Bee shipped out to but received by and distributed to operation desert shield menders. Beginning in our february Issue we will be featuring an of seas Post mail Call letter Section to be published every month. This new Section will allow our readers to Send Valentines Day greetings notes updates or just a a a we re Fine Here. Hope All is Well with you and stay Safe a message to their friends relatives and loved ones serving in operation desert shield. The of seas Post has been in publication for almost 15 years and we have always supported the military members stationed throughout Germany and Europe. We will continue to do so for the military in saudi Arabia and the Gulf area now and throughout the length of operation desert shield. A Ray d. Fennell _. I _ Frankfurt Germany _ _ _ continuing in our 20-year tradition of serving the military wherever in the world they May be needed,.off duty Magazine initiated dedicated Mideast editorial and expanded saudi distribution in our november troop edition. Thanks to corporate sponsors off duty delivers thousands of copies of this special Mideast edition to the troops in the Gulf. Off duty is working with military Apo officials and editors around the world to continue this special saudi service. And that a where the stars and stripes readers can help immensely off duty welcomes any Reader contributions ideas for feature stories personal accounts or articles from free Lance journalists. Let us know what you want to read pass along helpful discoveries you be made to other get involved in reaching our forces in the Gulf. 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