European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 01, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse The reality of rape Usu ally it s not a stranger by Mary Corey Baltimore Sun a the breakup had been Messy. He wanted to a . She did t. So when he called months later pleading to see her she agreed a. Mostly out of guilt and sadness and pity. When she entered the apartment she immediately knew something was wrong. Her sex Boyne and was. Bolting the door shut. And when he turned around he a a a had a knife in his hand. Quot Robin Warshaw thought she was dead. A instead she was raped the knife held face his Arm pinning her to the bed. 7 Dawn he released her. She was alive but Alt she could to was feel angry Andvig Htenos and betrayed. For months and even years alter she kept asking herself readers action Lin extended toy for desert storm a i m hoping you la be Able to Clear up a finance related question Tor those personnel deployed As part of operations desert shield and storm.7/ a regulation states that if a temporary duty try extends past 179 Days it is considered a permanent change of station is True All Basic a. Allowances for quarters bad and variable housing. D allowances via for single officers will discontinue at 180 Days. This information was provided by a finance clerk at fort Hood Texas prior to departure for saudi Arabia. A subsequent conversation with another finances clerk claimed Thole no Validity to the fast statement. My question is who is right and will we be losing our bag and via if we re Here longer than 179 days7 a / How could the first Man she had Ever made love to have turned out to be a. Rapista a Quot Quot a it happened half a lifetime ago but Warshaw relived a bit of it recently when she spoke to teen agers at notre Quot Dame preparatory school in Towson my. About ,. A a a the myth of rape is the stranger in the r said Warshaw 40. Quot the reality is that most women ate raped by men they know people they meet at parties Irv bars Guys they know from their dorms Quot a a. ,, in part to women like Warshaw writ Tefft in the Book if never called it rape society is. Growing More. Sensitised to the Issue of acquaintance or Date Quot rape. From Ivy league scholars to soap opera writers people a Are now examining its causes and effects. But despite these efforts Date tape continues to be one of. The most shame provoking and least reported crimes in the United states / a fewer than one in 100 Date rapes is Ever reported and of those Only one Case in 10 Ever makes it to court said. Andrea Parrot a Cornell University professor and expert. On the subject. Some researchers in fact prefer to Call the crime Quot hidden a in a groundbreaking study of College women 25 7 percent said they had been the victims of Rapp or a attempted rape 84 percent of these knew their attacker. The 1985 study conducted by psychologist Mary p 7 d Koss is Magazine and the National Institute for mental. Health included 32 campuses. 7although Date rape is generally defined As forced sexual Intercourse without consent by an acquaintance. A Jan Sherrill Fine tune those words. Force said the director of Towson state University a Campus Quot i -. Violence prevention Center can take the form of physical or mental coercion -. A 7 v \ Quot men take silence As consent Quot he said. Quot one of the a a a More typical examples is that two people meet at a party. They go Back to his or her room. The men tries to initiate sexual activity. The woman says no. The Man then says a you be led me. On now you Stop and pull away in the end the woman May have sexual Intercourse but she has clearly been he cautions however about considering Date rape. Merely a College phenomenon. More than Ong third of. The rape victims in the is. Survey said they were. Between 14 and 17 when the crime occurred. Quot trying to understand the causes of Date rape is a complicated Endeavor. Researchers Point to several factors including the Way that men and women socialize and myths about sexuality a prominent among these Are the following ideas Quot Good Quot girls say no to sex when they mean yes Quot real Quot men never take no for an answer a woman who dresses provocatively or drinks to excess is Quot asking for Quot alcohol does figure into a disproportionate number of Date rapes said experts with fraternity members an athletes More than other College groups being charged with the crime. A ,. A Quot what s at the Root of it is that very often athletic teams and fraternities Are built around male societies that. -7 a emphasize women to be used As sexual objects Quot said Warshaw. Quot they View sexual scoring As the most a a important element of being with a woman Quot ,.7 i fraternity member Jim Cowan said that is an. A Over generalization. Women often Send mixed signals to v men said president of Towson state University a Phi Sigma Kappa i be had girls come up and ask me to leave a bar with them Quot he said. Its somewhat confusing to a Guy. What does this girl want you can t possibly know where she wants to Start and where she wants to Stop. Quot. A a of course that does no to give a Man the right to rape her. He added. And in this climate of Date rape awareness in the United states he and his friends done to press after a rebuffed sexual Advance he said. Quot in this Day and age it behoves you to play it Safe to take a person Art their word rather than infer what she Means Quot said Cowan a 20-year old senior. 1. Despite the growing concern about this crime some Call the statistics exaggerated. Controversial author. Camille Paglia whose wrote sexual personae termed the discourse on the subject absurd. Quot is portrayed As this melodrama of feminine male atrocity Quot said Paglia a humanities professor at Philadelphia a University of the arts. A a a. A a a she discounts the idea that a no Quot always Means no sometimes Means a you re asking too fast a Quot she said Quot that s where something called sexual arousal comes in. Sometimes you can come to a yes in an hour. Men know this. Its .7 j a. Sentiments such As those often complicate the a 7._ recovery of Date rape victims said Barry Burkhart a psychology professor at Auburn University in Georgia who has studied the Issue for 15 years. in these situations remind me of child sexual assault victims Quot he said. Quot they come to believe its their fault. That really plays havoc with victims Long term 7 l a schools in the United states Are trying to react to the crisis by doing everything from organizing seminars to taking More decisive in Eastres in dealing with reporting the crime. But experts agree that much More still needs to be done. A t. A a. A a. Quot the solution is not easy Quot said Parrot. Quot Jlas not a Quick fix. But if i had to give one suggestion to change All of this its that we Start aiming rape education at have to make men understand it s a human Issue not a a -woman�?Ts.Issue/�?T. .7 _ i m hoping you can find the Correct answer so we can Alt rest at ease. A. A 7 warrant officer Robin Ann Doran. Operation desert storm col. Duane g. Ingalsbe department of the army chief of program budget and compensation policy division Washington replies the majority of our soldiers assigned to Quot saudi Arabia in support of operations desert shield and desert storm Are assigned to try 7a. A your partially Correct when she stated that regulations joint regulation limit the a period a Soldier May be assigned to temporary duty to six months. However the a for also authorizes the services to exceed the six Mon la limitation when unusual or emergency circumstances dictate or unforeseen delays have been encountered a. Because of the uniqueness and Incerta in duration of the Gulf operations the Secretary of defense has Audi ionized the services to extend try assignment for More than six months on a Blanket basis for All soldiers try in theater and in direct support of the Gulf operations. 7 in answer to the soldiers question., a Soldier that Quot received bad prior to try deployment to operations desert shield and desert storm will not have his or her a bad terminated after six months. To write us. Readers action line is the readers Quot court of last resp to staying to answer some of the questions. Abou a overseas in a military environment or a. Get Tiosh about policies and guidelines when other. Avenue for answers Are not readily available. If you Nave a question and Don t know where to turn or the answer wite to readers action line. Co the stars and stapes. Apo 09211 -4211. All letters must be. Signed and preference Wilt be Given to those. Seeking information of general interest to our a readers. 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