European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 23, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after yet another letter in your column about abusive men id like to ask for equal time. What happens when its the woman who does the battering and the Man ends up trapped by feeling of helplessness what does a husband do when the pretty pleas ant sweetheart he married turns out to be physically and emotionally abusive toward him and the children thousands of fathers simply give up and leave the kids with their miserable mothers. These men need to be told to hang in there and that they can win. I know it is possible because i did it. You Are Well aware of How difficult it is for a woman to leave an abusive husband. Welt Ann for men its even worse. Once a Man decides to leave he faces an Uphill Battle for custody of his children. Imagine if you can How painful it is first to decide to divorce the woman and then to Buck a court system that is stacked against you. The Prospect of leaving my daughters with their Hal crazy Mother was unbearable so i decided to fight. I found an excellent lawyer worked with him closely and now have full custody of my three daughters. Please Tell men that they can win. They must not abandon their children because they believe they have no Chance. They must simply plan better work harder and have the can do spirit. V Houston dad dear Houston thanks for presenting a Point of View that we hear tuesday april 23, 1991 the stars and stripes Page 19 dear Abby dear Abby one recent sunday morning i went to the grocery store to do my weekly shopping. I was selecting some bananas when i noticed a Small Billfold lying among them. I picked it up and looked around for the owner but not seeing anyone i took the Billfold directly to the _ front desk of the store then returned to my shopping. Soon afterwards a woman came up to the desk and asked if anyone had turned in a Billfold. The clerk returned it to her then pointed to me out As the person who had found it. This woman marched Over to me and said a i need the Money you took out of my Billfold a for a moment i was too shocked to speak then i told her i took her Billfold directly to the clerk when i found it. She said opening the Wallet for effect a Well i had $48 in Here and now its gone a. I said a a in a sorry but i did no to take your Money a she gave me a dirty look and then . But upon reflection i then concluded that that was no excuse for her accusation. What do you think. Honest shopper a a a a a in Charleston . Dear honest shopper you re right her accusations were based on All too Seldom. Unfortunately custody suits Are sometimes used to punish the divorcing Parent and have Little to do with the welfare of the children. This is Why we need Wise compassionate judges to make sure fus Tice is served. Dear Ann Landers a a. A. Recently you tried to explain How much a billion of anything really is. This letter to the editor appeared in the Providence r.i., journal. It makes the Point Verv Well. Will you please print it longtime Reader dear longtime you bet. Here san edited version in the interest of space. It was written by John w. Wall. Thanks for sending it my Way. What a in a billion several articles in Trade journals warned about the burgeoning problems at insureds amp is which they said could end up costing taxpayers the frightening sum of $10 billion. Nothing was done for several years we now know that the Bill will run at least $500 billion. We Are also Reading about a Federal deficit of $200 billion or maybe $300 billion. Because these figures Are tossed around so casually the average Reader May get the impression that there is not much difference Between $200 billion and $300 billion. I wonder How Many readers appreciate what to Bil Liport really is. The following might help if you were Lucky enough to have $1 billion and invested it in government Bonds today at 9 percent you would Cam $250,000 a Day in interest including sundays and holidays. A. It 7.a a a a. A a a a a. A. A a. C creators Syndicate a a a a circumstantial evidence which is All she had to go on. In All probability someone had found her Billfold containing the $48, removed the Money and tossed the empty Billfold among the bananas where you found it. Her anger was misdirected. Dear Abby i am the Mother of a Large family i have several children and grandchildren too. I have never interfered in any of their marriages or gone to anyone s Home  cited. I am always ready to help them out if they need me. My oldest granddaughter is getting married in june. In a not even sure i will be invited. But frankly since she Hasni to spoken to me in a year and a half i really done to care to go. I have never said an unkind word to or about her nor have 1 Ever forgotten a birthday or Christmas. I have never received a word of thanks i can to go to her wedding and pretend to have a Good time i will go to the Church for the ceremony. Some of my children Are in agreement others Are not. Please advise me. My daughter and i have a very Good relationship. Nameless grandmother dear nameless grandmother you will probably receive an invitation to the wedding so if you want to avoid the reception and go Only to the Church that a your privilege. Suit yourself. The Bride will probably be too caught up in the excitement of the occasion to take notice of your presence or your absence. A. C Universal press Syndicate. Today a crossword across 1 Trig function 5 half a ballroom dance a targets in quoits 12 Micro wave a 13 actor Chaney 1 14 away from the storm 15 computer printout 17 network 18 Yoko a 19 Black Bird 20 mystery writer s award 21 hasten 22 Small. 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