European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 27, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Saturday april 27, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Arm Landers dear Ann Landers i have been dating a Man twill Call him Earl for almost a year. He is 40 and has always lived with his Mother. Ten months before i met Earl he and his Mother bought a House. She does not work and depends on him for support. I have never met the woman nor have i been to their Home but she telephones me periodically for no Good reason and gets extremely Nasty. I have asked Earl to please Tell her to Stop bothering me but he becomes defensive and says i am trying to drive a wedge Between him and his Mother. Believe me Ann that is not True. A a a a. A a a a a a a. Earl wants me to marry him. I know it would be difficult for him to contribute to two households because he never has any Money As it is. Earl says he would like to move in with me but be Able to help much with the Bills at first. He offered to look for a Job that pays More. Earl admits that his Mother Bosses him around and he says he hates it but claims its too late to change that now. 1 feel sad because i done to see any future with Earl until he realizes that he must get out from under his mothers thumb. Do you have any suggestions As to How i can help him so we can be Happy together and make his Mother Happy too or am i fooling myself unsure in Newark today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby you published something in 1977 that i thought was so meaningful i kept it posted where i could see it daily. I Hope you think its Worth running again it could give today a parents something to think about As they raise their children in today a society. Ton y Lilgerose Denver dear Tony its Well Worth the space and Here it is children learn what they live by Dorothy Law Nolte if a child lives with criticism he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance he learns to be patient. It if a child lives with encouragement he learns Confidence. If a child lives with Praise he teams to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness dear Newark you done to say How old you Are if you be been married before or Why you would consider marrying this Man who is so dependent on his Mother. There is no hint of love in your letter. Its mostly about finances and Earl s domineering Mother. Unless you Are really crazy about this Man and Are wilting to put up with a lot of garbage i d say forget about Earl. Sorry to be so hard boiled but somehow your letter did not read like the greatest love Story in be Ever heard. Dear Ann Landers this is for the woman who wrote about her panic attacks. Having suffered panic and anxiety attacks for years i am very sympathetic. There is a lot of information out there on this subject and 1 want to plead with her to educate herself. Relaxation techniques and breathing exercises alone helped me enormously. She can get Over this hellish problem. It bothered me that this woman Hasni to told anyone including her husband. I w ant to stress How important it is for recovery to verbalize your feelings and thoughts. I want people to know there is help but they must seek it. The key words Are a seek . G Rass Valley Cali f. Dear . Thanks for saying it for me. C creators Syndicate he learns Justice. If a child lives with Security he learns to have Faith. If a child lives with approval he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and Friendship he learns to find love in the world. Dear Abby i am a 40-year-old woman who has finally met a emr. we Are discussing marriage. It will be my first. My Mother a widow lives in another state where i grew up. She a financially comfortable and has considerable savings. I make a very Good salary have a secure Job and some savings. At this Point in my life who should pay for my wedding also should 1 be married Here or Back in my Home state Lucky in Georgia dear Lucky since your Mother is financially a a comfortable and has considerable savings if she offers to pay for your wedding let her. If she does no to ofter pay for it yourself. If you have family and friends in your Home state and want to be married there do so. Additionally consider a air. if his friends and family live in Georgia that a another Good reason for being married there. All the Best to both of you. 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