European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 29, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Ann Landers dear Ann Landers am i too late to respond to the letter from a lesson Learned in Oneonta n.y.�?�? it was about the Man in an elevator who fondled a woman a breasts. She reacted by slapping him. He then beat her up so badly that she spent two weeks in the Hospital in traction. Your answer gave the impression that by slapping him she had been an a a enabler a in other words she gave him a legitimate reason to beat her up. I found your response to that letter extremely disturbing because you implied that the outcome was somehow the victims fault. Whatever happened to blaming the attacker the fact that by fondling the woman a breasts against her will the Man was assaulting her. She slapped him to defend herself. If i had been in that situation my first thought would have been that this Man might be planning to rape me and i would have fought Back like a Tiger. It is bad enough that . Had to endure such an indignity. She should not be made to feel guilty for bringing it on herself. The last thing a woman needs is for a Man to think that if he can provoke her into slapping him he can then do whatever he wants and it will be her fault. A it. Rape survivor in new York City dear new York hundreds of readers complained about my response and Many used language that was not printable. I agree that the woman should not have been labelled an a a enabler a but in my opinion she used poor judgment All the Way around. Dear Abby dear Abby my grandson ill Call him Stuart is a 19-year-old College student. A few weeks ago i noticed that a play was coming to town. Because Stuart had played the Lead in that play in High school i wrote to him offering to treat him and a Friend to two tickets. I asked him to let me know which performance he wanted to see so that i could Purchase the tickets and mail them to him. Two weeks went by. I did no to hear one word from Stuart then his other grandmother told me that Stuart was a a pleased a with my offer but he was a too Busy to accept. I told my son stuarts father that i was Hurt and displeased that his son did no to do me the Courtesy of giving me that message personally. Whereupon my son immediately came to his songs defense pointing out what a Fine lad he was a no drinking no smoking no drugs. I added a and no now in a the heavy everyone is angry at me and i am angry at my grandson. Your comments please. The heavy dear heavy. Your grandson should have personally acknowledged your offer of the tickets with thanks and regrets for his inability to accept. But since he failed to do so you should not have at wednesday May 29, 1991 not All assaults Are alike. In this instance the woman was trapped in an enclosed place a an elevator. There was no place to run. You say she shipped him to a defend what kind of a a defense was that what she actually did was enrage the creep. Remember he said a you Hurt me and now in a going to Hurt the woman was Lucky to end up in the Hospital. He could have killed her. Dear Ann Landers i think i might be Able to help Edna Anderson of Atlanta solve the mysterious disappearance of her husbands socks after she puts them in the washing machine. A \ a after several of my husband s socks vanished mysteriously and i went nuts looking for them i decided to ask an authority. The repairman who care to the House when the machine broke Down explained that when too Large a Load is put into a top loading machine a Lone sock often floats Over to the Side and slips Down Between the Central Cylinder and the Side of the machine. It remains there undetected and unreachable unless the machine is dismantled. I know this is an awfully prosaic explanation Ann but i have been in Edna s socks and i just could t let her go on being annoyed irritated and mystified. -., Arlington mass dear . The mail about the vanishing socks was fascinating. It appears that other garments also disappear via the same route bras shorts handkerchiefs and baby clothes. What a Relief to know you Arentt losing your mind and that you did actually put those things in there. Whew c creators Syndicate tempted to punish him by reporting his bad manners to his father. A 19-year-old College student is old enough to take his own lumps. Should Stuart have another lapse of bad manners sock it to him a not his father. Dear Abby a Friend of mine invited me out for an evenings entertainment. One of the places we went to had Quarter Slot machines my Friend handed me four quarters and said a there have a Good i put the first Quarter in. Nothing. The second Quarter nothing. Same with the third Quarter and ditto the last Quarter. I looked in my purse and found one Lone Quarter so i put it in the Slot machine and turned away when the Bells started ringing and Money began pouring out i believe it. This was the first time i had Ever won a Jackpot. I was so excited i was in a total fog for the rest of the evening. The next Day i told the kids at work about it and they All thought i should have offered to split my winnings with my Date. Why it Wasny to his Quarter i won with. Lucky lady dear Lucky even if you had won the Jackpot with your dates Quarter the Jackpot would have been All yours. When someone gives another gambling Money the winnings belong to the person who did the betting. Had you offered your Date part of your winnings Fine and Dandy a but you did no to owe him anything. A. C a Versal press a a. 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