European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 24, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i was very much interested in the letter from the Man who signed himself a Don t want to be another statistic in Falls  his wife s anxiety attacks were exhausting his patience and he was considering an affair. I saw myself a dozen different times As i read what he had written. I have suffered for the past 29 of my 49 years with anxiety attacks and depression. It is like being in hell. In be been taking medication for so Long that i am terrified of what will happen one Day when the Medicine no longer works. A i live with a wonderful Man w to is some kind of Saint for putting up with me. The Man who wrote to conv Plain said he loves his wife but she is no fun anymore and he is tempted to have an affair to see if he is still alive. I Pray he does no to go that route. Cheating is never a solution. Invariably it leads to More problems. Islip . Dear Islip thank you for a letter that could have been written Only by someone who had experienced the problem. Rarely have i seen such compassionate and sympathetic mail As that which resulted from that column. Read on from Somerville mass the woman who had panic attacks in Falls Church va., was a wonderful wife and Mother during their 26 a dear Abby dear Abby sex for seniors Why not that s right up my Alley. In Mage 85, with a 71-year-old third wife and we make love frequently. I lost my first two wives to cancer after almost 20 years with each. I met my present wife when i a it As 79 and she was 64. She had been with the Only Man in her life a her husband of 37 years a so i should not have been surprised at her obvious Lack of experience. Being a made love to was hew to her As opposed to being an outlet for a Many a desires a once we got in tune with each other we made love 10 times in nine Days a once every Day and twice on sunday. I kid you not. We have slowed Down somewhat since 1 was Hospi a fixed for a month after surgery to remove a cancerous Colon. It was a month after that before we could resume our lovemaking. Notice i said a lovemaking a not having sex. There is a difference. By the Way i met my third wife in Church. After our relationship became serious we toured Europe together. Different names on passports done to bother hotel clerks or anyone else when two people travel As a couple a a after living out of a suitcase for six weeks we knew wed either love each other or hate each others guts. Monday. June 24, 19,91 years of marriage according to her husband. She had five children which suggests that her life has been pretty much devoted to chill rearing. When children leave Home a strange and frightening Gap remains. That woman should be encouraged to build a new life a become involved with Community work , groups. And she should get some counselling to help Tiei find what resources she has and How they can Best be used to find new interests. Any woman who can raise five children who turned out wonderfully Well must have intelligence creativity and strength. From new Castle. A so a Falls Church is toying with the idea of having an affair because his wife who was recently discharged from a psychiatric Hospital is to longer a cheerful and  Well Isnit that just peachy he should be told that nobody chooses to be mentally ill. I know what mental illness is about because 1 have suffered with it for several years. He  read everything he can Lay his hands on about his wife s sickness so he can help her get Well. He also should find a support group such As recovery inc. Please Tell him again and again and again. A. A from Kansas City after our first child was Lairn my Wile suffered from postpartum depression. It would never have occurred to me to find fun elsewhere. Seven years later i had a serious heart attack. That dear woman pulled me through by sheer determination and round the clock encouragement. This is what love is All about. A. A. A c creators Syndicate a. A 1 a a a we married As soon As our property Sale were completed. A my secret for a successful marriage take your time. Sex is a Quick Roll in the Hay. Making love is like an Ocean voyage half the fun is getting there. Older but no p poo old dear older you could write a Book. You certainly know what to do Between the covers. Hooray for you dear Abby please say something about the widespread use of pacifiers. They Are used mostly to pacify the parents who stick it in the child a Mouth to keep it quiet. Putting a plug in a child a Mouth whether its a genuine plug or a bottle when used As a pacifier causes the child to associate Comfort and Relief of stress with Oral satisfaction which May Lead later in life to smoking overeating or alcoholism. The child a instinct to suck is usually satisfied by breast or bottle when the child is hungry. And done to you hate to see a child who is old enough to walk still sucking on a bottle. Barbara Snader. Child development specialist dear Barbara yes. But the people who most love to see a child who is old enough to walk still sucking on a bottle Are the orthodontists. C Universal press a it. A. The stars and stripes today a crossword across 1 ancient. Syria 5 Bovine Mouthful 8 Mountain in a \. Thessaly 12 word in a Doris Day hit song 13 Matador s cheer 14 elevator. Man. 15 piece old Idle gossip 16 stalemate 18 god in. Hebrew Reading 20 herds 21 North african. Grass a a a 23 scribes need 24 reporters concern a 28 Large / umbrella 31 some Are. Classified 32 Island  Caesar 34 Jane or. John 35 swabs 37 Lazy person Quot a 39 labor org. 41 Pintail Duck 42 change. I togas a 45 Quot wit s an unruly. A _ a a a 49 kind of Imp 51 annoying. 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