European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 11, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Crossword Page 14ann Lander the stars and stripes dear Ann Landers this is the fourth letter in be written to you. And i am going to mail it. The others i Tore up. I am desperate. I was a widow for eight years Content with my accounting Job my Home Aiu my Only granddaughter. That Sall i thought i needed until this Man came into my life. If there is such a thing As love at first sight that s what happened to us. This Man is 20 years my senior and extremely handsome. We dated for a year. He live tout of state and i flew nearly every weekend to Sec him in South Carolina and stayed in his Home. When we were apart he called every night to Tell me How much he loved me. When he asked me to marry him 1 was thrilled. I sold my Home and moved to Charleston. After a year of honeymooning. I wanted to go to work. He said absolutely no. So now 1 am stuck at Home with no car and no Money.  girlfriends ask me to join them for lunch. I must make up an excuse because in a ashamed to Tell them i have no Money to eat out. I gave the Money from the Sale of my Home to my husband to invest and dear Abby dear Abby its summer vacation time and Many High school graduates probably arc still out looking for jobs. Two or three years ago you published some Good advice for Young people on How to dress How to act and what to say when applying for a Job. I Cut it out to save and now i can t Lind it. I have a grandson i want to Send it to. Please print it again. It could help me and a lot of Young people. Thank you. A Duluth grandparent dear g ran Parent the advice to which you refer first appeared in William Raspberry a column. He quoted Karen Rak a High school English teacher in Strongsville Ohio who composed u letter from an employer to let Youthful Job seekers see themselves As they arc seen. It deserves As much exposure As it can get Quot dear kid Quot today you came to me for a Job. From the look of your shoulders As you walked out i suspect votive been turned Down before and maybe you believe by now that kids your age can t find jobs. Quot but i hired a teen Ager today. You saw him. Whal. A was so special about him not experience neither of you had any. Attitude son. At to to de. He did his Best to impress me. I hut is where lie edged Vou out. Quot he was i dressed like easter sunday but then that was t necessary. His clothes were clean Ami he had gotten a haircut lie filled out the application form neatly and completely. He did not ask to borrow a pen. He carried his social Security card had Basic identification and did not ask a what a a re Fere Nee v Quot he did t Start to Chew gum or smoke while being interviewed. I be did t keep looking at his watch giving quibble what makes too think two u e my Flag. Put Don t that that 15 a Little e6f> ti5tical? arc you that ithat00 think we o be talking a600tthursday july 11, 1991 i Haven to seen a Penny of it since. Whenever i brine up the subject of that $85,00.0 investment he leaves the  i ask him for Money to go to the grocery store he tells me to make a list and hell get whatever i need. Keep in mind that for 20 years i was an accountant but now suddenly in a not Bright enough to buy groceries. When i told him How unhappy i was he said Quot if you done to like the arrangement get out and go Back  what Home i Don t know what to do Ann. I Feci Hurt stranded and betrayed. Sign my letter trapped in Charles ton dear trapped this sudden personality change suggests that your husband might have a neurological problem. Call his doctor and Tell him what you have told me and ask him to please look into this. _ your husband has no doctor or if he checks out of in the upper Story suggest counselling. If he refuses find a lawyer who will take your Case on a contingency basis which Means no fee but he or she will take a percentage of whatever you recover. Sue for divorce and the $85,000 you gave him. Good Luck. You re going to need it. C creators Syndicate me the impression that he had something More important to  the took the time to find out How we a operate Here and what his Day to Day tasks would be. I think hell keep his eyes open and work for me like head work for himself. A the was willing to Start a that Point where i could afford to pay. Someday perhaps hell get to the Point where hell have More authority Over others and a better paycheck. You know kid men have always had to get a Job like you get a girl ease the situation Wear a clean shirt and try to appear reasonably willing. A maybe Johs Aren t As plentiful right now but there Are jobs. You May not believe it but All around you employers Are looking for Young men and women smart enough to go alter a Job in the old fashioned Way. A if you have even the vaguest idea of whal in a trying to say let it show the next time you ask for a Job. Vou will be head and shoulders above the rest. Quot for both our Sakes get eager will you the Boss Quot dear Abby in a getting married this fall and 1 am faced with a difficult question. I am having a Large formal wedding but i do not know who should walk me Down the aisle. My father died when i was very Young and i am not really close to any other male family members. Would it be appropriate for my Mother to walk me Down the aisle if not. Whom would you recommend . In Boulder. Colo. Dear  of course your Mother May walk you Down the aisle. Or you might consider walking Halfway Down the aisle alone a the Groom could meet you in the Middle and together you could make the trek to the altar. 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