European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 13, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Tuesday August 13,1991 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Lander today s crossword a dear Ann Landers in a sure you have addressed the problem of a a workaholics in your column Many times but i must not have paid close enough attention because now that our family is his ing this problem i done to know what to do. Before my husband started his _ own business he worked an 8-to-5 Job and was Home by 5 10 every Day. He had time in the evenings to visit help around the House and enjoy a few hobbies. That was the pattern for the first three years of our marriage. A a same started his own business five years ago. He warned me that times might be Tough at first and 1 understood that but from Day one he has had More customers than he knew what to do with. We Haven to had bad times Ann Only lonely times. Sam goes to work at 8 and gets Home Between 7 and 10 every night. He says there is so much to do he needs to catch up. I Tell him a the work will still be there tomorrow a but he pays no attention. I beg nag plead and spend a lot of time at his business i do his bookkeeping but nothing changes. The Only thing that helped was when we adopted a Beautiful baby girl last fall. Sam came Home promptly to Fawn Over our Long awaited treasure but that lasted Only a few weeks. My husband is a Good person and a great father and i love him dearly but these Long hours Are beginning to take their toll on his health and on our marriage. Can you give me some advice worried lonely in the Midwest dear Abby dear Abby can you stand one More letter about crazy wedding nights my Mother and dad have repeated this Story often. Dad had relied on close friends to Reserve the bridal suite in the Mallory a a Lovely old residential hotel in Portland Ore. As it turned out the friends did no to think it was necessary to make reservations so they did no to bother. Well As Luck would have it there was a plumbers convention in town that week and needless to say every hotel was filled. The manager of the Mallory was gracious enough to find them a place to sleep for the night. The first a a room they were offered was a closet under the stairs with no ventilation. The second option was the women a lounge on the main floor of the hotel. They chose the lounge. The management brought in two Roll away Beds and Hung a a a closed sign on the door. My folks said there were about eight toilets in the room and they never used the same one twice. All night Long women were knocking on their door a trying to get in to use the restroom. They did no to get much sleep but they had a lot of Union produced five children1 and lasted until mothers death six months ago a one month Short of dear Midwest unless Sam wakes up to the fact that his work holism is ruining his marriage nothing will change. Sometimes kidding on the Square gets the message across beautifully. You might put your arms around him and say a Honey if you kill yourself with overwork i just might have to enjoy All your hard earned Money with my second dear Ann Landers. It seems the present trend is for adult children to blame their parents for everything that has gone wrong in their lives. What a More their therapists and Counselor promote this sort of reasoning. We put our daughter through College. When she married in her senior year we continued to help her get an education. We also put the Young Man she married through medical school. Now that they arc both professionals we Are told that burs was a a a dysfunctional family and Given a lot of psychobabble that sounds to me like blame placing. My husband and i Are in our 60s. At the time when we need a few thank yous we Are getting nothing but complaints because we did t do More. We be checked with our friends and this sort of thing seems to be epidemic. Do you have any suggestions on How to get these kids off our backs a baffled parents in Alabama dear baffled most parents try to do the Best they can for their children. Sounds to me As if you did your Best and then some. Sad to say Many children fail to appreciate their parents until its too late. I be surprised if this is what happens to yours. Its Oine of the oldest stories in the world. File under a diff i had it to do Over c creators Syndicate. Their 44th anniversary. Dads name is Leo Kacena. Mothers name was june. In a their daughter. Joy Springer Bellflower Calif. Dear Abby i read with sorrow your reply to a forever a baby who understand Why parents worry so much. You said a a it a every parents Nightmare that their child will be badly Hurt or killed in an automobile How True. We worried about our two sons one was fairly cautious a the other was a speeder. We got them through High school and thought we were Home free. 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