European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 29, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 14 Ann Landers the stars and stripes dear readers i am on vacation but i have left behind some of my favorite columns that you May have missed the first time around. 1 Hope you enjoy them. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers that letter from the woman who had to drag herself to the nursing Home once a week to spend an hour with her Semi senile Mother really got to me. Too bad she found the old lady so crazy chatter so depressing. I wonder How shed like to have had her Mother living with her for the last seven years. And what if she had to drive her to the Beauty shop the Bank shopping to the doctor a any place Mother decided to go what if she did All this and never received one word of thanks a Only criticism and complaints i would be overjoyed if i could visit my Mother in a nursing Home. It would certainly improve my relationship with my husband and children. Our family has been in a state of upheaval Ever since Mother came to live with us. They in a a fool to let her run me ragged. Maybe 1 am but 1 love her and feel it is my responsibility. At times 1 ask myself if i am being fair to my husband and children. One thing is certain no child of mine will Ever go through this kind of hell with me seven years depressed dear . Dear Abby editors note Abby is on a two week vacation. Following is a selection of some of her favorite past letters dear Abby May i second your excellent recommendation to a nervous wreck a whose Bull headed husband refused marriage counselling was walking All Over her and was teaching her son to do. The same we had a similar situation at our House. I finally sought counselling alone because my husband not Only refused to go with me but also tried to talk me out of it. Several sessions with a psychiatrist relieved my depression and at the doctors suggestion 1 signed up for a course in assertiveness at a nearby mental health clinic. Well Abby our marriage is on an entirely different footing now. In counselling i was treated As a rational sensitive person whose feelings Are important and i came to View myself that Way. Because i changed my family a reactions toward me did too. They found that i would firmly reject disrespectful attitudes and actions and that i demanded my rights in any situation. My husband now seems like a different Man and we Are both 100 percent happier. As for me in a. No longer a wreck thursday August 29, 1991 any person who has been a seven years depressed is Long overdue for counselling. I sense a Martyr Complex in your letter plus an enormous amount of ambivalence and resentment. Is there no Public transportation in your City no taxi no sibling who can give you a hand discuss these alternatives with a therapist and get your head together woman. Your letter was a cry for help even though you did no to mean it to be. Dear Ann Landers there was a time when my husband and i could travel and enjoy a full life. But now he is not Well and we Are both getting on in years. So we stay at Home a great Deal and make the Best of it. We have certain to shows that we like to watch. It is our major form of entertainment. This couple we be known for a Long time has a habit of dropping in unexpectedly and it seems they always come right in the Middle of a very Good show. They Tay Only 25 or 30 minutes a just Long enough to ruin a program for us. This puts my husband in a very bad mood. Should we turn off the television when they show up or wed like to finish the program and risk insulting them sitting ducks dear Ducky explain that you and your husband watch certain to shows and ask them to join you. Suggest when the program is Over that you a like to give them your undivided attention when they visit and to please Call in Advance next time so you can do just that. C creators Syndicate a dear no longer thank you for supporting my constant recommendation to a get to some it May sound like a broken record to others a cop out. Mental health clinics across the nation continue to provide lifesaving support for troubled people at a Price everyone can afford to pay. If your marriage is in trouble and your mate refuses counselling a go alone dear Abby some people seem to think that just because we have a Large family our Yard is a Public playground. At this moment i have 16 kids playing Ball in my Back Yard and Only seven of them Are mine. My problem is that the kids Arentt allowed to play in other Yards because they ruin the grass and fall in the Flowers. I really done to mind but it Hurt some of the other parents to let the kids play in their Yard once in a while. At night the kids ask me to turn on my Yard lights so they can play after supper. The Yelling and the screaming can be heard for blocks. When of when will i have peace and quiet again mom with Public playground dear mom too soon. Count your blessings mom. You re Lucky your children Are occupied in a healthy wholesome sport. You done to have to worry about where they Are what they re doing and with whom. Anybody can raise grass. It takes special people to raise children. 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