European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 9, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 a monday december 9, 1991 the stars and stripes a a. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i will not be Able to sleep until i respond to a uneasy Mother Quot who was molested by her father. Her Mother knew but did nothing to protect her. She moved out of the House when she turned 18, got therapy and went on to be a fairly Well adjusted person. After a while she was Able to forgive her father and wrote to Tel you that they now have a  relationship. Her question should she allow her two Young daughters to spend the night at grandpa and grandmas House her parents keep asking and the Little girls would like to. Your correspondent thought it possible that her father was Over his  he a in his 6fls now and besides her Mother is always there. Your response was a absolutely not. Your Mother did no to protect you a what makes you think she would protect your daughters a i was abused by my Stepfather and i too moved out when i turned 18. After a few years i resumed the relationship for my mothers Sake and was ready to let bygones be bygones. My daughter was then 18 months old. I convinced myself and my husband that my Stepfather would never touch our daughter and i allowed her to sleep at grandma and grandpas House on Many occasions. My Mother died in 1985 and a few years later my Stepfather was arrested for sexual molestation. His Way of dealing with the problem was to commit suicide. Meanwhile my daughter who is now 20, has been hospitalized in a psychiatric unit several times. There is no doubt in my mind that she was sex today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby a Karen a whose letter said snakes make Loving pets must have a very unusual Snake. She said she has a 6�?~/�?T-foot Boa Constrictor that she used to take everywhere. It is very intelligent she claims a it kisses her on command and once it even chased away a prowler it heard coming through the sliding Glass door. Abby snakes Are not very intelligent a they have very Small brains and cannot hear. They have no ears but they feel  also her Snake is not a kissing Quot her a it is smelling her a snakes sense of smell is its Best weapon when in danger. I also have a pet Snake. His name is Leonard. He s a Bull Snake and 1 have had him since i was 11 years old. I am now 38. Leonard does not know his name although i speak to him often. From what i have Learned about snakes Leonard has lived a very Long time for a Bull Snake and he is probably nearing the end of his life. Although it May seem silly to be sentimental Over a reptile after having him around for 27 years i will cry when he Dies. Michele Dunning St. Paul Minn. Dually abused by my Stepfather. I am trying hard to come to terms with my guilt for exposing my daughter to this Man. William d. Pithers director of a treatment program for sex offenders in Vermont was quoted in Judy Mann a Washington Post column As follows a nothing will eradicate All the vestiges of sexual deviancy. The Only certificate of graduation is your death certificate. Then you know you Are  . In Virginia dear . Thanks for a Fine letter. There were thousands on this subject All with a similar message. Read on from Toronto this is for that idiot woman who was sexually abused by her father and Isnit sure whether to allow her Small daughters to spend the night at her parents Home. For lords Sake lady you would have to be crazy to take such a Chance. Done to you know sexual abusers Are forever a risk done to do it. Portland Maine about that victim of child molestation you said a my hat is off to your  i d like to ask a what therapist a if there was a therapist he or she was totally incompetent. A a a Well woman would never have trusted that Man with her kids. Get with it for heaven s Sake dear readers victims of child abuse must get counselling. Please Send a self addressed stamped envelope to . Victims of incest can emerge survivors at . Box 148309, Chicago Iii. 60614, or Call 1-800-7-voice-8. C creators Syndicate dear Michele for More about snakes read on dear Abby i fear your correspondent Karen has a very Fertile imagination concerning the a a intelligence of snakes. When i was a kid Back in the old country a Hungary a i also had a pet Snake which 1 carried around inside my shirt to pull out when i met a girl i knew would scream when she saw it. Most girls react with horror at the sight of a Snake Abby i know something about snakes and i can Tell you that you can to teach a Snake anything a much less have it respond to a request for a kiss. Snakes Are far from intelligent. They have Only a reptilian brains a barely adequate to respond to anything beyond their instinct to survive. As for a Snake going after a burglar who was attempting to enter through a sliding door a snakes cannot hear. They feel Only vibrations and they pick up smells with their tongues. Furthermore the Only Snake that appears to enjoy or even tolerate handling is the indigo Snake a found in the Southern part of the United states a and the poor critters Are hunted to near extinction for this very reason. 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