European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 24, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday january 24, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in response to the letter from the woman who was 35 and had never been kissed i would like to put in my two cents Worth. I am a 30-year-old professional woman a graduate of one of the most prestigious Law schools in the country. I am not Plain or unattractive. In fact i have been described As a knockout. I am fastidious healthy and cheerful. People Are drawn to me at parties and social gatherings and Are curious to hear my opinions about politics and other current issues. My life is full of kind and generous woman friends some married and some single. I have not had a Date in 10 years. I am quite certain that my a  is not due to any failing or deficit on my part nor is it because of tactless Ness or egocentric Ity. I am convinced that men today have absolutely no interest in women. Their lives Are taken up with work football basketball Golf fishing Hunting pornography and quite often just sitting around and drinking. An occasional need for female companionship is satisfied with a casual one night stand. So Many men Are threatened by an intelligent articulate woman. I have discussed this with several female friends around the country and it is apparent that this problem is epidemic. It May be part of a backlash against the women a movement or simply a sad response to hard economic times. I done to know Why things Are this Way but i assure you that if you ask a random Sample of women a sizable majority will validate my observations. Although i agree with your advice to the woman who wrote i would also add that her single status May not be due to any fault of her own. She May do All the right today s crossword dear Abby dear Abby my siblings and i a All married with families a a went a a Home to spend Christmas with our parents who live in a Distant state. Never again our parents criticized our children the entire time we were there. For example to our 14-year-old daughter a you really should lose some weight dear. You have such a pretty  to our 17-year-old son a straight a student a i wish you a Cut your hair. You look like a  to my 21-year-old Nephew a since when do boys Wear earrings or Are you a Fruitcake a none of the kids wants to go Back to visit their grandparents and i done to blame them. I understand from talking with my friends that my parents Are not unique in their behaviour. A word to the Wise grandparents if you want to see your grandchildren please accept them As they Are. Love is not genetic. It must be earned a even by grandparents. Your sons and daughters dear sons and daughters i am pleased to report that your parents Are in the quibble of now. Be careful Why did you say be careful ? is there something out Here that if Jill Hurt me Why should 1 be care Rolt me there a Wesl out Here that s it in t itt were ate sol Hoe no it ufos just the enemy and toe u 0?e sneaking up on them Bur so mag stove made Motif noise than a flock u e can go things and still remain companion less. It is important for her to recognize that even if she never marries or gets a Date she is still a worthwhile individual in her own right. She should take Comfort in the fact that Many studies suggest single women can have Rich and full lives. Furthermore if she wishes to alter her virginal status i suggest that she consider a trip to Europe or latin America where the males have a totally different approach to Strong competent women. Quot c hic ago dear Reader i too live in Chicago and find it curious that a fastidious healthy cheerful Well informed a knockout Quot an attorney no less has not had a Date in 10 years. I cannot buy your theory that the reason you Haven t been asked out in a decade is because men today have absolutely no interest in women. In fact 1 see a great Deal of evidence to the contrary. Perhaps closer to the truth is the fact that you have a very Low opinion of men As stated in your letter and without realizing it you give off these negative vibes. Both men and women tend to be attracted to people they believe like them. You May unintentionally turn men Oft and that could be Why your phone does t ring. Dear readers remember the woman who wrote to say she quit biting and picking at her nails by wearing a rubber band around her wrist and snapping it hard every time she caught herself doing the forbidden thing Well since printing her letter i have received at least 200 letters from readers who tried it and were thrilled that it also worked for them. Five women said it made them Stop smoking. Thanks to All who shared their Success stories and Bravo c creators Syndicate minority. Most grandparents of this generation Are much More accepting of their grandchildren than your parents. Done to give up. Some grandparents Are slow learners. Dear Abby a Reader asked a what should a Bride to be do with the Shower and wedding gifts if the wedding is called off at the last minute Quot in this Case the Groom changed his mind you replied a the gifts should be returned to the  my question what in the world does a person do with one piece of China or a setting of Sterling Silver not All stores will cheerfully refund your Money. In most cases the receipt of the gift is kept Only until the gift is opened and the Bride to be has already accepted it. Without a receipt it is virtually impossible to get your Money Back. Then what personally i would prefer that the jilted Bride kept the gift but she  have any More showers if and when she a engaged to be married again. A Noni mouse dear Noni i stand by my original answer. Return the gifts. 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