European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 23, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in a recent column you asserted that the Laws on sexual harassment protect men As Well As women. As someone who has worked with Many male victims of sexual harassment i assure you that this is not True. Because the Law was written from the female perspective sexual harassment suffered by males is often passed Over and male victims have nowhere to turn. For example i gave a sexual harassment workshop at one place of employment and while there observed the blatant sexual harassment of members of the male staff. They did no to like it but there was nothing they could do because the woman harassing them had the Power. Another example took place at a local College and involved a number of woman students who were taking a shortcut to their class by brazenly walking through the menus locker room. The Only concern of a female school administrator was that the women were not noticeably upset at a a having to look at naked men. A complaint by a male student brought the following response from the school administration 1 men were urged to try not to be naked in their own locker room and 2 women were urged to try not to look at the men when they took their shortcut. And you say the Laws protect men As Well As women do you really believe if men were Short cutting through the women a locker room the administration would have taken the same action Frederic Hayward executive director menus rights inc., Sacramento Calif. Dear or. Hayward you make a Good Case. However these Laws can protect men but Only if men Are willing to follow dear Abby dear Abby. Four Days ago my father told me that he has lung cancer. I am devastated sad and very angry All at the same time. 1 want to shake All those selfish smokers of the world and scream at them a How dare you take the love of your family so lightly Wake up a you Are killing yourself a my father will never be Able to apologize enough to his family to make up for the pain we Are going to feel As we witness his painful end and Bury him before his time. Abby this is my message to All your readers who smoke the next time you Light a cigarette imagine yourself telling your children that you Are going to be dead in six months. Imagine telling your Only daughter that you wont be alive to see the birth of her first child. And telling your son you wont be there to see him graduate from College. That is exactly what my father will have to Tell us his family. Imagine knowing that you caused your loved ones All this pain because of your selfish habit and Wanton disregard for your health. Saturday May 23, 1992 through in court. The fact remains that a great Many More women arc sexually harassed than men and no one who knows anything about sexual harassment will dispute this statement. Dear Ann Landers is there anything abnormal about preferring to spend time alone in be always been introverted but aside from that i truly enjoy the serenity of Solitude going to a restaurant alone sitting with a Book and a cup of Coffee writing poetry going to movies and shopping by myself. I do have a group of friends whom in be stayed in touch with since High school in a 22 now and we get together periodically. I also have a Best Friend who is practically a soul mate. We can talk about anything. Perhaps this is Why i done to feel compelled to reach out to new people. Yet sometimes i feel that i should be More sociable. I now live with my parents and secretly wish to live Here As Long As i am Welcome. Am i too dependent i guess in a worried that what i now describe As a preference for Solitude will eventually reveal itself As a fear of rejection or an unhealthy dependence. In a also concerned that a society that stigmatized aloneness will cause me to conclude that there is something wrong with me when actually in a Normal. Please Ann say something for us poets and dreamers who shy away from the commotion of social life. Would a mental health professional say our preference is merely an excuse to cover up our inadequacies or do some people simply have less need for other people alone and Content in . Dear . You seem concerned that your preference for a a along no ssh is a symptom of being neurotic and maladjusted. Actually the opposite May be True. People who cannot be alone and arc in perpetual Pursuit of a a company and excitement arc the ones who need to look inside themselves and find out what is missing. C creators Syndicate your family loves you enough to forgive you a but How will you Ever forgive yourself a grieving daughter dear grieving daughter not All people who Are diagnosed with lung cancer Are destined to die from it. Many have been helped through surgery and subsequent treatment. Although your anger is understandable please done to be so judgmental and unforgiving. Your father needs your love and support now. Dear Abby my husband let a neighbor borrow our Power Lawn Mower. It was returned filled with a cheap gasoline mixture which clogged the mechanism. We had to take it in for repairs that came to $35. Should we say nothing and write it off As a a learning experience the Bill has already been paid. Friendly neighbors dear Friendly no. Tell your neighbors what you have told me and ask them to reimburse you for the repairs. It will be a Good a learning experience for them too. 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