European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 18, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i have just seen another program on television involving incest Between a father and his daughters. I have questions about this subject that have bothered me for a Long time. Please Tell me Why mothers Don t protect their daughters from this kind of sexual abuse. Most mothers must be aware of what is happening yet they stand by and do nothing. Are they in denial Are they so dependent on their husbands financially that they Are afraid to Rock the boat Are they grateful to be relieved of their sexual obligations Are they afraid of the shame that would result if the situation became known to outsiders or Are they so self absorbed that they really done to care about anyone but themselves it appears that Many mothers Are shirking their responsibility to their children. Why can to they love their daughters enough to risk confronting their husbands and even take Legal action if necessary Why must girls be victimized and left feeling abandoned by those they depend on please do not use my name or address if you print my letter. Just give me some answers. East Hanover . Dear . The possibilities you be come up with Are As Good As any i know of. But done to assume that All mothers arc too cowardly or self absorbed to take action. In be had women write and Tell me that they be kicked out husbands who sexually abused their Young daughters. Some of the women even say that if their husband so much As comes near the girls again kill him and pay the Price whatever it might be. In a always heartened when i hear from those Moth dear Abby dear Abby i am still steamed about the letter signed a slinging hash in i just retired after 31 years of waitressing and i loved my Job More than you can imagine. Let me Tell you Why that waitress said a a Canoe tips easier than a canadians do not realize that in the United states servers Are paid $2.01 an hour a plus the computer takes 8 percent out of each total for our taxes. One night i had a party of eight. Each had a cocktail appetizer soup salad main course dessert plus three or four refills of Coffee or Tea. They were a great group and everyone raved Over my service. The total Bill was $131. The Man who paid the Bill left $1.30 on the table. Can you imagine i was so mad i ran after him chased him to his car and tried to give him the $1.30, telling him that he needed it More than i did. He looked shocked and asked a does no to the management pay you a decent salary a when i told him How much servers Are paid he was flabbergasted. He tried quibble Betsy l re lev want to do something Good for Mark Ltd like Fonda solution for world hunger eliminate love fit establishu>0�ld peace. I have the Carat Tut to do Good things. I could develop a program id Cleart up the a world or eliminate disease from the of the Earth those Are grandiose plans q0ib6lev, and not easily done. A Jav Don t Hou Start out ump something smaller like civic a Little league team nah that s too much Trou ample Var 6 <8 thursday june 18, 1992 ers because father daughter incest creates such enormous psychological damage and is so crippling that it often takes years of therapy to set the girls straight. Dear Ann Landers what can to done about a person who never stops talking my husband wakes up in the morning with his Mouth in gear. If i turn on the radio for the news 1 can t hear it because my husband is talking. Ditto for the television. If i try to read the newspaper i can t concentrate because he wont shut up. He just loves to get the news first. If i happen to learn about something first he says a i already knew the Man thinks he san expert on every subject from the trivial to the crucial. He comes up with the darn dest arguments to positions expressed on television by genuine authorities. His rebuttals can go on for hours. When he finds himself without an audience he talks to himself. He insists on answering the phone every time it rings because it gives him an Opportunity to indulge in his favorite sport a talking. Bedtime offers no Relief from his Marathon monologues. If i turn in Early in an Effort to escape his chatter he wakes me up to talk. In All fairness i should Tell you that the Man has a lot of Charm is Well informed and possesses Many Good qualities but he leaves me no space. Any ideas on How to escape no name please just mrs. Weary ears in the West dear mrs. . If you Haven to tried the radio with earphones i recommend it. When Motormouth gets to the annoying stage plug the radio in and Tunc him out. I realize this is an extreme measure but the Man sounds impossible. C creators Syndicate to give me some Money but i take it. Later he mailed me a $20 Bill with a note saying that i was the Best waitress he had Ever had and it was signed by everyone who was in that party. Former Florida waitress dear waitress your letter explains Why some not All canadians arc conservative tippers. I personally prefer the european method the restaurant adds 15 percent to the Bill thereby eliminating discretionary tipping altogether. Dear Abby a slinging hash in Florida was much too kind when she wrote a a Canoe tips easier than a Given All the Best attention such As one might get on a fancy cruise ship the sad truth of the matter is that the Queen Mary tips easier than a Canadian. Sympathetic in Florida dear sympathetic my mail from travelling salespeople suggests that canadians arc not necessarily a a cheap a they arc conservative. 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