European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 28, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Wednesday october 28, 1992 the stars and stripes Page 19 Raf does t deserve visitation rights dear Ann Landers i believe in fairness but divorce judges Are carrying things too far these Days specifically regarding Visita Tion rights for fathers. I recently heard of a Case where the court ordered a Young Mother who was breast feeding her infant to pump her breast milk and bottle it so the father could participate in the infant s feed Ings during visitation. When i became pregnant my husband hounded me to get an abortion and made several threats. When i refused he beat me up hoping i d have miscarriage. I left the animal and went through the birth of my daughter alone. We were divorced after the baby was born and i was awarded custody. The rat Sud Denly turned paternal and demanded his rights to visitation. I fought against it reminding the judge that this was Achild he did not want. Well Ann i lost. I am extremely angry that the court never took this Man s violent behaviour into consideration. Hot under the Collar in Sarasota Fla. Dear Sara i can understand your anger but the animal May have had a change of heart. Encourage it for the child s Sake. If he is faking it to spite you you la find out soon enough by his absence. That will be the end of it. Too often innocent children Are the Battleground on which parents wage War against one another and the children Are the victims. Don t let this happen to you Little one. Meanwhile if your sex husband should As much As lift a Finger toward you file charges at once and get a restraining order. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers seven years ago i Learned that i was his positive. I m enjoying relatively Good health and feel very Fortu Nate. The experimental medication seems to be work ing Well. I met a wonderful woman who is intelligent inde pendent and successful. She saw no problem with going out with me despite my his status which i revealed after our first Date and before our first kiss. We were married 18 months ago after having lived together for a year. We Are very Happy. My wife told me Early in our courtship that she never wanted to have a family. Her father was an alcoholic and her childhood was miserable. In Light of my physical condition and because things could take a sudden turn for the worse we have agreed to remain childless. The problem is with family members and friends. Weare constantly asked so when Are you going to have children How Many children do you want Why Don t you have children you would be the perfect Par Ann this intrusive questioning bothers me. How should i respond my his status is no one s business but must i always end up with a Stone in the pit of my stomach whenever these questions Are asked disconcerted in . Dear . I am amazed at the number of people who feel a obligation to respond to nun us yer Biz Zizz Type questions that Only a clod would ask. Prime examples How much Money do you make did you get preg Nant on purpose and the one you Are getting when Are you going to have children the Best Way to respond to such rude inquiries i with a question of your own. Try this one Why would you ask such a personal question letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate adulterer must share responsibility dear Abby my 21-year-old daughter Chris was a Virgin until she became involved with a married Man i la Call Chris is now pregnant and wants to keep the baby but in order to keep it she will have to apply for Public assistance. To qualify she will have to Dis close his identity As the baby s father and she does t want Todo that. I think she should because Asa taxpayer i resent having to pay for this Man s irresponsibility. Chris will have a much More difficult life and John will not have to suffer any consequences at All. Chris says she wants no Contact with or hassle from John. She says she knows he can t afford to pay quibble dear Abby anything toward the baby s support and besides she does t want to Hurt his wife and children by exposing this mess. She just wants to get this Man out of her life for Good. Abby we have argued bitterly about it and have agreed to leave the decision up to you. Chris mom dear mom it is unfortunate that John s wife and family will be Hurt if this mess is revealed but John should not be let off the Hook for any reason. Your daughter s willingness to protect this Man family is Noble but i think she should name John As her baby s father and make him assume his share of the responsibilities. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. 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