European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 14, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 a the stars and stripes monday december 14, 1992 help available for self mutilate is today s crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i was stunned when i picked up the Bakersfield californian and read the letter from the 17-Vear-old girl who mutilates herself with razor Blades. I thought i was the Only one in the world who did that. In be been cutting myself since i was 11. I am 22 now and have scars on my hands arms legs and feet. In a not suicidal. If i Ever get to that stage i wont use a knife. There Are better ways to die. A person can always jump out of a window or in front of a train. The least Messy is a bottle of pills. You told the girl who cuts herself to get counselling. Why in be had several Hundred hours of counselling but it Hasni to helped. I promised myself i Wasny to going to unload on you so Ann i will Stop right now and simply say thanks for letting people like me know we Arentt alone. . Dear . Thanks for letting me know i helped you in some Small Way. I wish i could help even More. If you feel inclined to write again please do it. I done to mind being dumped on. That a what in a Here for. I Hope the next letter will encourage you not to give up. Dear Ann this is for the girl who cuts herself because the physical pain blocks the emotional pain that she finds unbearable. She does no to have to continue to do this. I stopped and she can too. I quit carving on myself nearly three years ago thanks to a few people who saw How desperate i was and offered a hand of Friendship. I want to say to anyone who is into self mutilation please when you Are feeling self hate done to reach for a razor or a knife reach for the phone and Call someone who cares a a Friend a relative a teacher a Counselor a Clergyman or a stranger on the other end of a hot line. There is help a get it. You Are sick. I know because in be travelled that Road. Peggy in Brooklyn dear Peggy thanks for those encouraging words. Keep Reading. You have More soul mates than you know. Dear Ann i too was a self Muti Lator. I came from a severely dysfunctional family. My father was an alcoholic Ana my Mother disappeared when i was in my Early teens. I got it into my head that she left because she did no to like me. Salvation came from support groups and pen pals. I urge anyone who has this problem to get the help that is available. Oregon and now a word to All you self mutilate is i had no idea there were so Many of you out there. My mail has been staggering. Contact a doctor a Friend or a Counselor. Talk to someone about what you arc doing. You need help. Reach out for it. Information is available through the Hartgrove Hospital program for the treatment of self injury in Chicago. This is not a hot line but they can direct you to help in your area. The number is 1-800-dont Cut. Letters to Ann Landers should to addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago Iii 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate gifts for nursing Home residents dear Abby As a nurse who has worked with older residents in a nursing Home for Many years it Breaks my heart to Sec families bring Knickknacks Flowers and Candy when residents Are wearing threadbare clothing. May i offer some Holiday gift suggestions a Lap Robes Long enough to be tucked around the legs when sitting in a chair. Full House slippers a a a mules with no backs Are always falling off. Better yet get some woolly socks with ski proof soles. Bathrobes with buttons Are hard for some patients to manage a get one with snaps or a Zipper Down the front. Warm nightgowns Are always appreciated. Men prefer nightshirts to pyjamas. For summer lightweight nighties arc useful. Warm up suits called jogging suits Are big favourites too. A for patients who Are Able to walk soft flexible dear Abby lightweight Tennis shoes Are a favorite. Get the kind that slip on a without laces. A Rich face Cream for dry skin is appreciated but vaseline is just As effective and less expensive. A if you give Cologne avoid those with heavy fragrances. Some residents have a diminished sense of smell and tend to overuse colognes a address labels with the residents name address and room number Are Good. Also stationery writing paper with lines envelopes and some ballpoint pens As Well As a Nice Supply of postage Stamps make great gifts. If you Are really stumped ask the person what he or she wants. My own suggestion men and women who live in nursing Homes appreciate material gifts but the Best gift you can give someone in a nursing Home is a visit. 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