European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 23, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday january 23, 1993 t dear Ann Landers your no answer to a enough already Quot who asked several months ago Quot what s wrong with men a missed the Mark by a mile. The writer concluded that All males Are basically vicious and that is Why we will always have wars. I realize Ynn a. Printed a great Many opinions on the subject since the original Tetter appeared but i Hope you have room for one More. The writer asked Why sociologists done to do some serious studies to learn Why men Are that Way. Most of the men i know work hard at their jobs and Are careful Drivers Loving husbands protective fathers and concerned citizens. But these Are the men you do not read about because they Are not a a.  the newspapers Are loaded with stories Ann Landers about rebellious sociopathic criminals whose behaviour is bizarre which makes for fascinating Reading the question is not which group can we blame for our society a evils but what is there about our society that causes people not to care about one another and How can we avoid these Pitfalls and pass on to our children a legacy of taking responsibility and caring. Assumptions which disenfranchise and Divide people do not help. Everyman Portland Ore. Dear Portland it is True that most men arc peaceful and decent but the fact remains that in the last 5,000 years there has never been a time without a War in Progress somewhere on the planet. Meanwhile historians have documented the fact that most of these wars were fought in the name of religion. There a a message Here. Will we Ever get it 1� Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago Tel. 60611-0562 c creators Syndicate dear Abby _ _ i am a nurse practitioner in a College health setting. Every year i struggle with How to get the message to our students that sexually transmitted diseases std Are very much present on campuses across the nation. In a not trying to be a Prophet of gloom and doom nor am i assuming that every student who arrives on Campus is or will be sexually Active dear Abby of age. Perhaps you would understand if relate a few situations a a Young woman with a Pelvic infection so severe that she must be hospitalized comes to the health Center Eye with in antibiotics there is no guarantee that her fallopian tubes Are not already irreparably damaged. Her greatest fear is that her parents will find out that she is involved in a sexual relationship. Mine Are that she May never conceive a child or May have tubal pregnancies due to scarring. A a Young Man brings his newest Girlfriend to the health Center with sores in the genital area. I have treated him for genital herpes in the past. He had struggled with How to Tell her a and now he must. Confidentiality must be honoured a i cannot and will not disclose to her that i even know the Young Man. A a Young Man Calls frantically asking to be seen immediately. He has just Learned that a Young female student with whom he had unprotected sex is dead. Rumor is that she developed an aids related opportunistic infection. It is True his his test is negative but i done to know what the results of his subsequent testing will be. A a Young woman with a previous history of psycho quibble logical problems loses touch with reality her illness involves acting out sexually. Over a 48-hour period she has sexual Contact with 20 male students. A two freshman roommates have their first gyn co logical exam. On the Day of the exam one learns that she is pregnant. Several Days later the other learns that she has Huv the genital wart virus on her cervix. All of these students thought it could never happen to them. They Are not ignorant irresponsible uncaring or promiscuous. Often the individual has had Only one sexual partner a Ever. All too often the person who is ordinarily cautious gets into a bad situation because alcohol has reduced his or her inhibitions. These students do not come from deprived backgrounds. Their parents Are doctors lawyers nurses ministers teachers social workers government employees and Many if not a majority Are from two rear ent families. Sony to be so Long winded Abby but these Young people Are our future. College health care worker dear health care worker thank you for your enlightening letter Aind for caring enough to share your experiences. The 1991 annual report of the division of std his prevention published by the . Department of health and human services reveals in part that an estimated 12 million persons in the Usa acquire a sexually transmitted infection each year. Two thirds of those occur in people under 25 years of age. Besides death some of the most serious complications caused by std Are infertility Adverse pregnancy outcome infant death mental retardation and immune deficiencies. In a sure that none of those 12 million thought it could happen to them but it did. As you said in your letter a a healthy sense of vulnerability is Good for All of us regardless of  letter Tor that column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. C Universal Pross Syndicate the stars and stripes today s crossword Page 21 across 1 sacred compose Mon s Wattle. Topper Var up. 11 Milky Way . It hand birth Appel drummer is find 15 is. 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