European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 12, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 16 a j. The stars and stripes Friday february 12,1993 wives dear Ann Landers please print this on behalf of All the other straight single female police officers. There Alre thousands of us and our numbers Are increasing i have been a police officer Forto years and love the work. In a a fairly attractive woman and keep myself in great shape. A my problem is the wives of the male officers i work with. When i run into these us and their wives off duty the women grab their husbands by the Arm As if in a a threat to to their marriage. A a. ,. I done to get it. Last night the Guys had a party. I did no to have a Date and went alone. When i asked a male of Fleer if the chair next to him was taken he said a no Why done to you sit Down a his wife gave me the once Over and said a a it Sok if Ann Landers you sit there but keep your hands off my  Ann. I have never had an intimate relationship with any officer i be worked with. As far Asem concerned these Guys Are like Brothers. It s True that some male officers both single and married have come on to me. But i have no trouble keeping them in line once i set the record straight. A a a in be worked hard to be accepted As a capable police officer and 1 resent it when some of the wives make insulting remarks. How should i Deal with them fed up with ins1jlts in . Dear fed first done to let anyone put you on the defensive. Remember he who excuses himself accuses himself. If a wife makes an insulting snide remark ignore it. It Means she has a problem i done to let it become yours. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . To 11562, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562 c creators Syndicate. A Heartfelt plea from Foster parents dear Abby. We have a Foster child in our Home age 7, whom we plan to adopt. Until his Mother put him up for adoption at age 5, his life was at the mercy of adults who were usually drunk. Physical and emotional abuse were All he knew. He has been Able to forgive his Mother and her friends for hurting him and his father for a never Ever even once seeing me to know what 1 look  however expressing Normal emotions is not part of Quot him yet. He has Learned to laugh this year. He screams screeches and has tantrums but he cannot cry. On Jan. 4, he received a Christmas gift front his Mother. She delivered it to children a services on time but because they were slow in forwarding it to us we did not receive it until after new years. He opened the Box dug out the stuffed toy and tossed it aside. Then he opened the card which his Mother had printed clearly so he could read it. It Vith his usual false bravado he started out a dear son 1 am very very proud of you and How Well Vout re doing. In a glad you have such wonderful people to take care of you since i can to. I want you to know that even though we can to be together 1 will always always love you very . At that Point he slowed Down and seemed unable to continue. His posture softened his voice almost faded and a tear trickled Down his Cheek he continued slowly and haltingly. Dear Abby a you w ill always be with me in my heart i love you.  a. A. \. A he just stood there holding the card. I asked him if he was sad because he did no to like the present. That brought him Back to reality. He came Over to me crawled up on my Lap and began to sob. He never Ever thought his mom wanted him or even missed him. A even a teensy.�?�. We rocked and i prayed and he cried for nearly an hour. He named his toy and asked if he could take it everywhere a even to Church. He  let me use a pin to tack the card up on his bulletin Board because that would put a Hole in it. Abby i am sharing this with you As a plea to every Parent Mother or father who has Given up a child a mom and dad please try to get past your own grief guilt and pain and try to give your child one More gift a the gift that May Well be the key to his or her ability to be healed and restored a these children must know that they were loved and therefore arc now lovable. A please give them a tangible Keepsake it does no to have to be fancy or grammatically Correct if its in writing. But do Tell them that they were loved. The Healing that this can bring is beyond  thank you Abby for making it possible for me to Send this message. A Phoenix Foster Parent dear Foster Parent no thanks arc owed to me. Your message is one of such importance that it is you who deserve the thanks. Letters Lor this column should to addressed to dear Abby at . 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