European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 13, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday february 13, 1993 the stars and stripes Page 21 questions he needs to ask himself today s crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers your mind must have gone on vacation before your body did. That Guy who has t had a Date since his divorce 10 years ago told you he thought women were Only interested in a Man s looks. You told him he sounded terrific and to hang in there because some Day the right woman would come along. Why did t you Tell him the same thing you Tell women who can t get a Date that some thing about him must turn them off. Here s a list of questions for him 1. Are you Well groomed a lot of men who feel they Aren handsome give up on their looks entirely. Do you Bathe and change your clothes regularly is your hair clean Are you still wearing the glasses you had in High school 2. Arc you sensible about diet and exercise a 300 Pound Couch potato in t going to attract a lot of women. 3. Do you talk about yourself All evening and never ask a question 4. Are you informed about world affairs or do you read Only the sports Page 5. Is your idea of a fun evening four hours in front of the tube with a six pack 6. Are you self entered and stubborn do you insist on having your Way and grumble if you Don t get it 7. Can you discuss an Issue in a civilized manner and perhaps even admit you were wrong once in a while 8. Do you come off looking desperate it s a Stan Dard Assumption that women want to get married and men avoid commitment but it s been my experience that often the opposite is True. Most women will be scared off by a Man who is too eager to get married especially if his last marriage was unsuccessful. Finally this Guy. Reads the personal ads looking for a woman. Tell him to get a Lite. He should become involved in Church or Community affairs politics a. Club or a Charity. A Man who expects his Girlfriend to  vide him with a social life is no prize. Highly dubious in Santa be . . Right on. Thanks for sitting in my chair today. Dear Ann Landers i wrote this essay when my daughter was born. I Hope you will print it for the Benefit of other parents of handicapped children. It could give them an entirely different perspective. And thanks Ann for All you have done i Valerie j. Geary Bakersfield Calif. Dear Valerie Geary what a Beautiful essay your contribution to this space is sure to do More Good than you know. Bless you. Here it is my perfect child As my children were born i wanted them to be perfect. When they were babies i wanted them to smile and be Content playing with their toys. I wanted them to be Happy Ana to laugh continually instead of crying and being demanding. 1 wanted them to see the Beautiful Side of life. As they grew older i wanted them to be giving in Stead of selfish. I wanted them to skip the terrible twos. I wanted them to stay innocent forever. As they became teen agers i wanted them to be obedient and not rebellious mannerly and not Mouthy. I wanted them to be full of love gentle and kind carted. Of god give me a child like this was often my prayer. One Day he did. Some Call her handicapped. I Call her perfect loners to Ann Landers should to addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate. Pain has softened but heart s still sad dear Abby there is a term being used freely today that i find very objectionable. That term is brain  most of the people who use this term Are educated but thoughtless. It s used in a joking Way. Several years ago our son was born with a severe brain in jury. Just prior to his birth our doctor announced that our baby might be brain dead. He sur Vived a few Short months and though the pain has softened Over the years our hearts Are still sad. Hearing people use the term brain dead so freely and take it so lightly is very hurtful. I m sure i m not alone in my feelings and yet i find it dear Abby difficult to express this to friends co workers even teachers and clergy whom i feel abuse this term. Thanks for listening and god bless you Abby. Name withheld in Minnesota dear name withheld please accept my sympathy for the tragedy that befell your precious child. I am publishing your letter for those who need to Sec it. Perhaps those who thoughtlessly use the term brain dead in a Cavalier Way do not fully realize the implications it carries for Many who have loved ones who arc afflicted with this devastating condition. Thank you for speaking up. This brings to mind another tragic condition that Many people joke about alzheimer s disease. Lotion or thl column should to addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris. Iii. 61054. 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