European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 17, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 21 giving a gift that May be their last 1 1 Arann Landers May i respond to Cheverly my who refused to co Home for the holidays because he could t stand has family i am one of five children. We All live in different Sitjes. We be had our problems and i have always managed to stay away from most family act Togo thurs because frankly they arc a pain in the neck. Well from now on i m going to every one of them and Here s Why. This past thanksgiving a re Union was planned at my parents House. It would be the first time in 13 years that All of the siblings would be under the same roof. To make the Situa Tion even More frightening we would be together for four Days 22 people in All including grandchildren Ages 8 to 15. Two of my Brothers had not spoken to each other for were All dreading this get together but agreed to show up to please our parents. When the last sibling arrived having suffered through All the hugs kisses at the Edge of this snarling mob scene were my parents. Ann Landers my mom a tugging at did s sleeve and there were tears streaming Down her face. She kept repeating they re All Here dad. In t this just wonderful they arc really All Here they both looked happier than i had seen them in years. After witnessing the Joy that resulted from the unselfish gift we had Given our parents i decided that from now on i will show up at every family occasion no matter what. It s the least 1 can do for my parents. Life is too Short to do otherwise. Love from Anne Marie in Texas dear Anne Marie the message is Clear. Siblings who Aren t fond of each other would by Wise to put aside their differences at Holiday time for the Sake of their parents. Having said that i m sure to be blasted by readers recounting the Rotten things a brother or sister did they will ask you expect me to Overlook that my answer to All of you is yes. It could be the Best and last gift you will Ever give your parents. Go Back and read Anne Marie s letter again. Let tort to Ann under should be addressed to Horat . Box 11562, Chi Cago 111. 60611-0562 of c creators synd Catt childless couple irked by baby talk dear Abby Allen not his real name and i have been happily married for nine years. We have no children by Choice. 1 am 33 and Allen is 34. Our problem is Allen s parents. Whenever we get to Gether with his parents they Start in with when Are you two going to Settle Down and give us some grandchildren Allen is their Only child and when they Start in with the baby talk we Tell them in due time or we re working on it but the truth of the mat Ter is we like our life the Way itis and Don t want children. We both Are professionals and Are Well rewarded. We enjoy travelling and have seen not Only the United states but Canada Alaska the hawaiian islands Europe South America and the Orient. Allen s Mother is now nagging us to see a Fertility expert about our problem she does t know there is no problem. I be been on birth control since our marriage. I have never been disrespectful to my elders but i Don t know How much of their nagging i can take. Perhaps if you print this they la see it and recognize themselves Ana leave us alone. Childless by Choice dear Abby dear childless Don t wait for them to Sec this. Tell them exactly what you be told me that you like your life the Way it is. Not every couple needs children to Complete their lives. And should you change your minds in a few years who knows what the future will have in store for you you appear to be Happy and Well adjusted. May it Ever be thus. Dear Abby recently a dear Friend of mine passed away. Her obituary indicated that in lieu of Flowers the deceased requested that donations be made to her Church. Wanting to make a donation in memory of my Friend but not wanting to give Money to a Church of which i am not a member i made a donation to a Charity that has Long been a favorite of mine i asked that an acknowledgement be sent to my Friend s family. I have no idea if my Friend had any interest in this particular Charity or not. Did i act in error should have contributed to my Friend s Church As was suggested in the obituary a second thoughts dear second thoughts obviously your conscience has been gnawing at you. Since the deceased requested that in lieu of Flowers do nations should be made to her Church i think you. Should have honoured her request instead of contributing to a Charity of your Choice. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . 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