European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 18, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday november 18,1993 it \. To think of the Albatross As a lovebird the stars and stripes today s crossword Page 21 dear Ann Landers. I be been married for three years to the most wonderful Man. I would not Trade him for anything. However there s one thing about this Guy that bothers me alot and i m afraid to bring it owns a car. It s old it s ugly and it has t run in years. I m sure that at one time it was pretty sensational but it would take a lot of time and a ton of Money to make it that Way again. Before we were married this car took up space in his parents garage. We towed it to our first residence and then had it towed again to our present Home where it sits in the garage. Ann Luke has t worked on this car in years. Because of Money constraints and the possibility of having children soon i Don t believe he will Ever get. This piece of junk running. Meanwhile it takes up space that we could use. Luke s family and i have despaired of bringing up the subject without risking a big is very sensitive about it. I know this car represents something important to my husband but i wish it weren t such an Albatross. How do i convince him that it s time to let it go and move on. Take my car please dear . Please accept the old Katrinka As a permanent Don t have to feed it. Sounds As if your husband has an emotional attachment to the old rattle rap that Ann Landers defies logic. Some differences Between husband and wife jus Taren t Worth fighting about and this is one of them. Dar Ann Landers this is about your response to Loving but not Able the woman who was not interested in her Hus band sexually. Please Don t suggest that she May have been sexually abused As a child. It is Good that she is seeking counselling. However too Many Counselor Are Quick to blame a person s problems on childhood abuse. My sister has literally torn our family apart with her unfounded accusations of sexual abuse. She decided to Latch onto this As the reason for her teen age promiscuity and her failed marriages. She made her devastating accusations against our father publicly but privately has admitted that she does t really have any actual memory of these events. Her excuse is they must have happened because my life is such a please Don t misunderstand Ann. Those who have been abused As children sexually physically or emotionally have my Heartfelt sympathy but too often childhood sexual abuse is used As an excuse for failure or Inadequacy when no such thing took place. Tulsa dear ills a thank you for putting a Little Light on a subject that has generated a lot of heat. This sort of charge can be extremely damaging and should never be made unless there is a High degree of certainty. Loners to Ann Lander should be addressed to her at . Boi 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate. Gift givers annoyed by ingratitude dear Abby i read with interest your advice to aunts and uncles to Stop sending gifts to unappreciative nieces and nephews who never acknowledge them. Am i alone in feel ing that the same should apply to one s children and grandchildren in my present marriage we share six adult children and grandchildren and after years of sending them gifts for birthdays graduations weddings etc., and wondering if they had Ever been received i decided to quit sending gifts to people who never acknowledge them. Have you heard from others who feel As we do about gift giving speaking out in Florid a dear speaking have i Ever read on for Sample dear Abby dear Abby i have Given a lot of thought to the question that was raised in your column concerning gift giving when the quibble recipients never seem to get around to acknowledging them. I have concluded that i Don t really mean any thing to these people who take take take and never say thank i have been giving for two generations but starting in 1994, i am going to Send Only cards for All weddings bar Mitzvah and new babies and the recipients can spend the rest of the Day looking for the Check. Aunt grandma in Santa Monica dear aunt grandma you would make your Point More clearly if you Tel the offenders Why the gifts have dried up. Dear Abby this is in response to the letter from auntie j. In two years ago i married a wonderful Man whose family had never sent a thank you card in their lives. After our wedding i sent 250 thank you notes for the gifts we received. Later i was shocked when my Mother in Law said that by sending All those thank yous i made her two other daughters in Law look ungrateful. Lisa in Arizona utters Tor to column should a addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447. Mount Moffit lil.61054. 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