European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 23, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                \ thursday december 23,1993 the stars and stripes Page 19 a today a crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers 1 read with interest the letter from the woman with the sick child who was upset because of the insensitive questions asked by strangers. The Public needs to be. Educated in this area. Your column could help. Instead of ignoring a sick or disabled child and turn ing away Why not smile look directly into the child a eyes and say Quot i How Are you today Quot you will be surprised at the number of youngsters who will return the smile and wave. If the greeting is not acknowledged so what please Ann continue to help educate a Public that needs to relate in a More compassionate Way to the ill or physically challenged. The ignorance 1 see every Day is astounding. A close observer in Muskogee okla. Dear Muskogee _ As a member of the Board of the rehabilitation Institute of Chicago i appreciate your input read on for another letter on this subject dear Ann Landers May i respond to the Mother who was asked numerous questions about her sick child by strangers we have a 2-year-old son who has cancer and is undergoing chemotherapy. People often come up and ask questions about his tanning hair or the tubes that Are hanging out of his Little shirt. Not All parents with sick children discourage questions. Yes there Are times when it is upsetting to Nave to answer but i would prefer that they ask questions rather than just stare. Those questions also give me an Opportunity to teach people something about cancer treatment. Sons dear Abby my Stepson has been staying with us for five months. He never helps with any work around the House he never cleans up after himself and is rude to his Mother. He is on his fourth Job always has Money for Beer and cigarettes but has never contributed one dime toward his support. This Quot boy is 21 years old. My own son has also been staying Here for four months. He also never helps with any of the housework. He does no to pick up after himself or even make his own bed. He is on his third Job and has sent most of the Money he has made to his Mother. He says he owes her. He has contributed a total of $75 to his support. This boy is also 21 years old. Abby we eat Beans two or three times a week in dear Abby i feel that answering questions from the curious is in some Small Way helping to educate the Public and this is my special contribution. A 1 a a mom in Austin Texas dear mom what a generous spirit i Admire you a and All the other parents who Are doing their part in the face of adversity. Bless you for your ability to turn a difficult Challenge into an Opportunity. Dear Ann Landers id Tike to respond to the letter from the woman who had an affair with her husbands brother and later gave birth to a boy who resembles the baby a Uncle i work for a county based child support Agency. Sci eral months ago a woman requested our services to pursue her husband for support of her daughter. She too had slept with her husbands brother. Her husband requested a Dan paternity test. The test showed that he was not the father of the child. His brother was also tested and he it turns out could have indeed been the. Father. The daughter is now1 11, and her life has been turned upside Down. If a Mother has doubts about paternity she owes it to her child to search for the truth before the child becomes attached to the wrong Man. The Cost of the Dan paternity test should not be an Issue. People can Contact government based child support agencies. Raleigh . Dear Raleigh in the Case of the woman who had an affair with her husbands brother i Felt such a test might break up the family permanently. Sometimes its Best to leave Well enough alone. Letters to Ann lenders should be addressed to her it . Bon 11562, Chicago 111.80611-0562. C creators Syndicate around House order to Cope with their voracious appetites. I think we should throw the bums out. What do you think bobsledding to the poorhouse in Minnesota dear bobsledding at 21, your Quot boys Are now men and part of being a Man is accepting responsibility for ones own Upkeep. Before you and your wife change the rules however it is imperative that you have a Clear and firm agreement Between you regarding what would be a fair contribution from Quot the  suggestion do it to stages so they will know what is expected of them now a and Why a and what More will be expected in six months or so. It will be less traumatic than a sudden Quot sink or swim edict. 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