European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 08, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday january 8, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 21 Tough love avoids abusing children today s crossword i Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i had mixed emotions after Reading the letter from the parents of a rebellious 17-year-old girl. They finally regained control of their Home and marriage after letting their daughter know she was no going to break them up. My husband and i have Bee there. In fact we Are still there fighting for and with our son who is also 17. He is in High school and therefore our Lega responsibility. The reason i m writing is be cause so Many people confuse the words Tough love with the organization Tough love. Tough love is an organization with chapters All Over the world. It is a nonprofit education Al organization offering self help materials to parents kids in trouble and professionals who work with them. Tough love is an effective self help program for the parents of unruly Young people. It is a combination of philosophy and action which together can help parents change and get control of their families again. Tough love is a network of parents helping other parents bring change into the lives of their Young people who Are incorrigible uncontrollable addicted physically or verbally abusive in trouble at school in trouble with the Law and or destroying the family. Tough love does not advocate or support physical of verbal abuse nor does it advocate kicking kids out. We give them options that will protect their safety and helps live up to our responsibilities. The reality is that they cd be firms offer dear Abby i am writing to you because your column is the Quick est Way to reach the most people. I feel it is very important that Consumers know that you can Block any individual Channel or channels from your television set with a simple Telephone Call to your Cable provider. This serv ice is free. I would like to see Parent who object to their children s watching a particular Channe for any reason to know that they can Call and have a Block put on the Channel. For that matter i would like to ask your readers to go a Ste further All those who never watch a certain Channel because they dislike a particular Mes Sage it carries take a few min utes and Call and ask for a Block to be put on too. This will Send a powerful message to the Cable companies and to the Channel itself. They will have to listen be cause we will be hitting them in the Only place it mat ters the pocketbook. I did this when my children were teens and they dear Abby May not choose our options. We Are not professional Counselor. Be do not Tel people what to do. We can make suggestions and share experiences. Each group can recommend helpful professionals from its own resource lists. We have no affiliation with any religious or political group. We Are not a therapy group. We Are a support group. We cannot give anyone immediate solutions for their problems. Those problems do not show up overnight and no one should expect overnight solutions. What Pecan do is show these troubled individuals that they Are not alone and that they do have rights and Worth and deserve to be treated with respect. We have a process for change that can be used As a guide for those who want it. We offer supportive confrontation and selective support to help people make changes in their lives., first for parents who seek it and second for teen agers who will cooperate. Please Tell your readers that if they want further in formation they can Send a stamped self addressed Long envelope to Tough love . Box 1069, Doyles town a. 18901 or Call 1-800-333-1069. Thanks Ann. Warren Ohio  dear Warren thank you for laying it out in Clear concise language that everyone can understand. I was one of the first supporters when Tough love was started by Phyllis and David York in 1979. They have done a marvelous Job and have earned the everlasting gratitude of thousands of parents and their children. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate never could figure out Why we could t get mtg while All their friends could. It May not be possible for you to fool a teen this Way any More but children could simply be told that you will not allow that Type of program on you set. It is our responsibility As parents not the Media a tract As censors for our children s viewing. Margaret Mccutcheon Elma Wash. Dear Margaret i m sure Many parents will find your letter of inter est. I contacted several Cable companies in my local area and was told that the services each company of fers Are different. Three of the four companies told me that if the viewer has a Cable converter Box and a re Mote control he can delete any Channel he wishes by doing it himself. The last company i spoke to offers a service similar to the one to which you referred. It s As simple As Aphone Call to the local Cable company to request it and dispatching an installer to the Home to put a trap on the line on the Telephone pole. Letters Tor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447. Mount Morris. Iii. 61054. 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