European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 21, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday july 21, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 19 Boyfriend has potential to be abusive today a crossword Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i read your response to a need breathing space in London ont.,�?� the 16-Ycar-old girl who wanted out of a relationship with she Felt he was smothering her. She was concerned however that if she dropped him he would he devastated. She asked for your advice. You told her to let him Down gently and not Cut him off altogether because it would be too destructive. That answer was not one of your better ones. I am a Public educator on issues of violence against women and am convinced that Bob shows signs of becoming extremely abusive. The first clue was his Charm when she met him. Second is a a a the fact that he came from an abusive Home. Third was his possessiveness a smothering her and being a constant presence in her life. He also displays manipulative behaviour a crying and saying she does t love him. These Are All danger signs. Too often women arc expected to be nurturers and fixers in a relationship. It is not the responsibility of a 16-year-old girl to fix bobs emotional problems. He needs counselling. She should feel free to put an end to this sick relationship and Date whomever she chooses. Please Ann expand on your advice before Bob be conies a permanent fixture in her life. in Toronto dear Linda you Are right. In a afraid i was Overly concerned with bobs feelings when i should have been in the girls Cor nor. Thanks for cleaning up after me. Dear Ann Landers i have some information for the millions of americans who suffer from panic attacks. Symptoms May differ greatly. Some people have difficulty breathing and fear they May choke to death. Others have palpitations so Strong that they arc sure they arc having a heart attack. Often there is a fear of being alone or going out in crowds. 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The National Headquarters is in Chicago. If you can to find your local chapter write to recovery inc., 802 n. Dearborn Chicago Iii. 60610. You la be glad you did. A letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . To 11562, Chicago 111.60611-0562. ,. A ,. A a c creators the Book on parents curiosity dear readers a Savannah parents wrote to express their disapproval of the a rated remarks their songs classmates had written in his yearbook citing wisecracks and offensive comments. 1 received a variety of Reader reactions dear Abby in response to Quot Savannah parents a who disapproved of the written in their songs yearbook i am a Junior in High school and have bought a yearbook each year. I too have had class mates write a rated stuff in my yearbook but it was meant for my eyes a not my parents. What a done has been done but in the future id let my parents see my yearbook first then dear Abby have my classmates sign it. Heather Carnes Gainesville Fla. I dear Abby i recently graduated from eighth Grade and i can understand How these parents might not have appreciated some of the comments written in their child s yearbook but the Book belongs to their child a not to them. Maybe he wanted to remember his friends the Way they were. Perhaps that would include some off color jokes but the signatures and comments should be private memories. The parents said the comments ruined the whole yearbook. Well the comments were not meant for them. A Tali a Epstein dear Abby i just got done Reading the letter signed a Savannah they said their songs yearbook was ruined by some off color language. A few years ago there was one particular student who wrote the rudest and grossest comments a covering two whole pages in my yearbook. When my parents saw this they called the principal and the boy who wrote that a rated stuff had to buy me a new yearbook. 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