European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 23, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse A saturday july 23, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 21 dear Ann Landers some time ago you printed a letter from a a Loving daughter in Tennessee Quot who complained about the terrible conditions at her mothers nursing Home. If this daughter really loves her Mother so much Why does no to she take her out of that awful place and then to top it off she blames the government. Quot Loving daughter is typical of those chronic complainers v who expect Uncle Sam to take 1 care of everybody a problems. Elj i work in a nursing Home. Many of the patients we care for Are unable to walk. They cannot eat without assistance. Some Are unable to speak. Several on my floor Are incontinent. We done to complain because we know they can to help it. We do things for our patients that their own family members do. Most of the relatives appreciate the care we give their loved ones and they Tell us so. It troubles me however to see the Way some of them refuse to put themselves out. They could help a lot by assisting with the feeding of grandma or grandpa or by pushing the wheelchair around the grounds. Something As simple As combing and brushing their hair would mean a lot. Ann Landers earns rebuttal a please Ann Tell these relatives to shape up and assume their responsibilities. Even when the government subsidizes care in the patients own Home the Money is used for everything except the patient. When some patients enter a nursing Home they Are so unkempt its a disgrace. The nursing Home Industry is among the most regulated in the country. We Are inspected at test four or five times a year. Every complaint made to the health department is investigated. I want to say thanks to the Loving families who Are truly concerned about the relatives who need care and Are supportive to those of us who try to provide it in a tender Loving Way. Our nursing aides work so hard they deserve a kind word not a kick in the rear. Lynwood Calif. Dear Lynwood you be covered a lot of territory and i thank you. The nursing Home Industry is a huge one and Uncle Sam picks up a lot of the Bills. Quot Uncle Sam Quot of course is you and me the taxpayers. I Hope my readers will pay attention to what you have written. If you have a family member in. A nursing Home visit often congratulate the staff when they do serve it and if they done to measure up. Above All be involved. Remember one Day you May be a resident yourself. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562. A c creators Syndicate today a crossword rubber band snapped him out of it dear Abby i am engaged to be married to a wonderful Young lady. Although i am usually Well behaved i have a terrible temper Ana sometimes swear and use bad language a a habit i want very much to break. Quot Cheryl and i consulted a psychologist about this problem and she suggested that i Wear an elastic band around my wrist and every time i Start to lose my temper i should snap it. I tried it a few times but Cheryl said i Wasny to snapping it hard enough so at our next session the therapist suggested that Cheryl snap it whenever i started to get Nasty. And snap it hard enough to make it sting. _ i know this May sound funny or even childish but the rubber band treatment worked for me. John m. In Bridgeport Conn. Dear John the rubber band snapping technique has been used successfully for a number of years for people who Are compulsive about scratching itches or itching scratches picking at pimples and biting picking or tearing fingernails. Its simple snap the rubber band instead of yielding to the compulsive behaviour. A. Dear Abby for Many years in be read your column but until now dear Abby i have never Felt the need to write. However i was compelled to write after Reading about the person who had the false positive his test. He wrote to warn others that there Are Many false positives so everyone should be retested two a and even three a times. Last summer after being assured by my doctors that there was Little risk i had a permanent eyeliner applied. Actually the eyeliner was tattooed onto my eyelids. This week when i had to have an Fri scan of my head i was told it could not be done because the Iron pigment in my eyeliner would cause burning. Abby i was not advised of this before i had the eyeliner tattooed on my eyelids. Catherine h. In Richmond a. Dear Catherine thank you for giving me the Opportunity to warn my readers about one danger of Quot permanent dear Abby after 20 years of marriage my husband left me for another woman. He married her and lived Many years with this second wife. Now he is dead. People Are always asking me a Are you a widow divorced or what a i never know for sure How to answer them. Stumped in Pasco Wash. Dear stumped. You Are a divorce. The woman to whom he at the time of his death is his widow. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. . C Universal press Syndicate a across 1 stylish 5 unaltered 9 include 12 Long lunch 13 mine car 14 golfers concern 15 Stopover in route to Casablanca 16 hostels 17 x rating 16 Madonna s sex 19 Quot Wayne a world expletive 20 snug and warm 21 future. Flamingo 23 vessel in a tabloid a a Story 25 counter in a chinese restaurant 29 claim 32 leg warmers 33 actress Barkin 34 characteristics 36 rid of Rind 37 Quot alleys 38 killer whale 39 one of the fab four 42 1/2 diam. 44 chore 48 St. 49 humdinger 50 old peruvian 51 pianist Cliburn 52 Pedestal occupant 53 a even keel 54 Capone solution time 27 Menai. 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