European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 6, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Saturday August 6, 1994 the sta0s and stripes Page 21 birth dad does t want to be found today a crossword dear Ann Landers Twenty seven years ago i impregnated my second Cousin who was living with my family after her mothers death. I was 17. A a Peggy was 15. When her condition became obvious she was sent to a maternity Home out of state and the baby girl was placed for adoption. After it was Over Peggy went to a live with other relatives. Although my parents were deeply Hurt and disgraced they were Loyal and forgiving. I Felt so Guil a to and ashamed while my coi sin was in the maternity Home that i considered suicide. Thankfully i got help and was Able to go to College. Later i married a Fine Young woman and we now have four children. I never told Ann Landers my wife about my past because i a a a a a a. A. A a feared it would devastate her. A few Days ago i received a special delivery letter from Peggy. It seems the child she gave up for adoption has contacted her and plans to Contact me As Well. Peggy gave the girl the medical history on both sides but apparently it is not enough for her. Peggy begged her to please drop her Pursuit and leave us alone. The Young woman would not listen and is determined to know her Peggy was assured Complete anonymity when she put the baby up for adoption but that does not mean much anymore with the controversy Over open birth records. Neither of us Ever wanted to be found and we feel our privacy has been invaded. Knowing that this Young woman is trying to locate me is like waiting for a bomb to explode. In a a nervous wreck Over this. How on Earth can i Tell my wife Anonymous any town dear Anonymous How can you Tell your wife id say a immediately a too bad you did no to Tell her before you married. In mall for releasing medical records to adopters but beyond that no Way unless both the adoptee and the birth parents want to be reunited some birth parents Are delighted to be a found a but most arc not. Dear Ann Landers. My wife and i Are at an age where we expected to have a Little financial Security from our modest savings Over the years our son a Ray a has Cost us thousands of dollars because of run ins with the Law lawyers fees and debts. Ray is now 35 and recently divorced for the second time. He and his adorable 3-year-old daughter have moved in with us. He has been trying to build his own business with a partner for the last three years but the business does no to seem to be going anywhere. Ray owes Money to everyone including us. Michigan dad dear Michigan. You arc stuck because of the child. Eventually Ray will either make it a or fold and then be forced to work for someone suggest that you try to be a Little tougher on Ray. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562.,. C creators Syndicate living arrangement outrages mom dear Abby in be never seen this topic discussed in your column. My no churchgoing daughter Marsha decided a few months before her wedding to live with her Fiance Brad. Marsha decided after she moved in with Brad that _ she would like to be married in a Church she called the Catholic Church and asked if they had a priest who would officiate at or wedding. I was thrilled dear Abby Ier a a when they refused because of the fact that she and Brad were living together unmarried. I Haven to shared my feeling with Marsha because it would cause a fight the clergy of other Reli. Gions refused to marry them because they were living together. Some demanded that they join their churches. I am so Happy that churches Are adhering to the decency and respect that marriage deserves. I am grateful that the churches Are not giving in to. Social pressure. I am opposed to using the Church to get married and then abandoning your Faith until it is time for baptism or a funeral. The wedding is in three months. Marsha and Brad have rented a tent for an outdoor service. They have no one to officiate at the ceremony. The seamstress is almost finished with marshals and ? the bridesmaids dresses. My husband and i Are sorry that we agreed to pay for a non Catholic wedding reception and invitations. Marsha and Brad Are paying for everything else related to the wedding. She is 22 and he is 23. Because they Are getting married in a non Catholic service we have decided to invite Only the immediate family from our Side of the family. Brad will have More relatives attending the wedding. His family even helped them Moye in together my husband and i refused to help them move. Our religious beliefs do not condone this sinful living together business thank you Abby for helping me unload this stress. The names have been changed so feel free to use the names As they Are. V Mother of the Bride dear Mother done to thank me that a what in a Here for. However perhaps had you shared your views with your daughter while she was maturing you would not have had to Jineal with this a living together letters Tor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris Iii. 61054. A a a a a. 7 a c Universal press Syndicate across cake 1 Mississippi 39 humdinger nver 6 prop for Sweeney Todd. 11 the sugar bowl 12 put on a Pedestal 14 misanthrope . 15 50s skirt applique 16 census Datum. 17 oozes 19 Quot Down Quot 20 infamous typist 22 away from saw 23 Buffet spread 24 rendezvous. 28 there s usually a. Hitch to n 28 intimidate 30 sign of sea Tess Ness 31 from head to foot 35 tube pan 40 Quot mayday Quot 42 make like the eagles 43 or. 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