European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 15, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Newmarket Constable Chris Rogers works with Basil Cowns and a Caroline Butcher of the Forest Heath crime victim support program to match up crime victims with Volunteer Counselor. A amps Marc my fart victim Aid group reaches out to americans by Nancy l Torner . Bureau Hile americans in. Europe May think life abroad is safer than it is in the states some of them team the hard Way that it is not crime free. Many americans assigned to Raf Mildenhall Raf Lakenheath and Raf Feltwell in England live off base in the Forest Heath District. Between March 1993 and this february 1,989 crimes were reported in the District. Although the District which is Simitar to a county in the states does not keep statistics on the number of crimes. Committed against americans . Citizens were not immune said police Constable Chris Rogers of the Newmarket police department. Quot the american influence in Forest Heath is big Quot Rogers said. Quot they be incorporated into our Community so they will become victims of crime Quot and because of that americans Are included in a special program designed to give moral support to crime victims said Caroline Butcher coordinator of the Forest Heath victim support. Scheme. Butcher coordinates about 14 British volunteers who make Home visits to crime victims cad them on the phone and Send them letters. 1. Quot basically what we re All about is /. Supporting victims of crime Quot Butcher said. Quot be Don t pick and choose whom we visit it s the sender offered right across the  volunteers Are aided by the Forest. Heath victim support management committee a group of about 14 Volunteer members who oversee the program s management and policy and who act As consultants to Butcher and support visitors. Committee members areas of expertise Range from Law and Medicine to the religion and local businesses. Being a crime victim can be particularly difficult for americans because they re in a foreign country said Mary Heydon one of the Volunteer visitors in the Lakenheath area. She said the most common crime against americans is Quot the opportunistic the american influence in Forest Heath is big. They be incorporated into our Community so they will become victims of crime a a Constable Chris Rogers Newmarket police department  she said americans tended to leave doors and windows open and their valuables on a table in Plain View of passersby. The Only americans who tend to turn Down help from a visitor Are Young single service members Heydon said. The Forest Heath District would like to reach this group and. Is seeking american volunteers to visit these arid other americans she said. Quot if we had an american on our visiting team he or she might be Able to communicate better with other americans than we Are Able to Quot said Basil Collins vice Cha Irman of the support management committee. Prospective volunteers Are interviewed by Butcher to determine interest. Their backgrounds Are investigated by British police and a final interview is conducted by the management committee. New volunteers undergo two hours of training once a week for eight weeks. Beside being a Friendly supportive ear volunteers can be called upon to accompany victims to court help them fill out insurance claims or get them to doctors appointments. Volunteers Are expected to visit at least one victim per week. A. The names of crime victims Are Given to Butcher by local police. Volunteers then Are assigned to visit the victims. Based on the urgency of the crime. Because of Lack of manpower victims of less serious crimes Are sent a letter asking whether they want to be visited. Victims of serious crimes Are automatically assigned a visitor she said. Quot. A. Quot volunteers never know what they re walking into Quot Butcher said. Quot the majority of the time you volunteers get a positive  the visitors fill a Gap that police officers no longer can fill Rogers said. As crime becomes More prevalent police have Ess time to devote to victims he said. Because of the victim support program Quot we police Are now Able to focus on the crime. Investigations Quot he said. One or More american volunteers Are also sought for the advisory committee particularly people with a flair for raising funds Collins said. Committee members meet once every two months to assess How the visitation program is going and to discuss policy. Details on becoming a committee member or support visitor Are available by calling Basi cacti is a 063 a 668400, or cons Bogor at 0284-774440.on the family a l am acquainted with a woman who needs people badly but she unintentionally drives them away. She talks too much and constantly complains. I know she has a terrible inferiority Complex. How can i Tell her about these irritating faults without making her feel even worse about herself i let me offer a general principle that has thousands of applications in dealing with people including the situation you have posed. The right to criticize must be earned a a even if the advice is constructive in nature. Before you Are entitled to tinker with another person s self esteem you a e obliged first to demonstrate your own respect for him As a person. This is accomplished through an atmosphere of love kindness and human warmth. Then when a relationship of Confidence has been carefully constructed you will have earned the right to discuss a potentially threatening topic. You motives have thereby been clarified. A in response to your specific question i would suggest that you invest some Effort in building a healthy relationship with your verbose Friend and then feed her your suggestions in very Small doses. And remember All the while that someone somewhere would like to straighten out a few of your flaws too. We All have  anger is it possible to prevent All feelings of no. Its important to remember that anger is hot Only a Normal emotional response but that it also has a biochemical foundation. The human body is. Equipped with an automatic defensive system called the Quot flight or fight Quot mechanism which prepares the entire organism for action. Adrenaline is pumped into the bloodstream which sets off a series of physiological responses within the body. Food pressure is increased in accordance with an acceleration in heartbeats the eyes Are dilated for better peripheral vision the hands get sweaty and the Mouth becomes dry and the Muscles Are supplied with a sudden burst of Energy this is an involuntary response that occurs whether or not we will it. Once the flight or fight hormones Are released it is impossible to ignore the intense feelings they precipitate. It would be like denying the existence of a Toothache or any other tumultuous physical occurrence. On the other hand our reaction to the feeling of anger is More deliberate and responsive to voluntary control. When we suddenly Quot replay Quot the agitating event Over in our minds grinding our Teeth in hostility and seeking opportunities for revenge or lash out in some overt act of violence then it is logical to assume that we Cross Over the line into something we ought not to do. Or James c. Dobson is president of focus on. The family an organization dedicated to preserving the Homo. Correspondence. Should to sent to him at focus on the family.  Box 444, Colorado Springs Colo. 80003,. Saturday october 15, 1994 the stars and stripes 15