European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 15, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday october 15, 1994 feels like chump after sparing dime Ann Landers dear Ann Landers what would you do last week i took my grandchildren to the opening of a new indoor amusement Center with bumper cars Wall climbing miniature Golf and video games. It was very exciting. While walking around with my grandchildren a Little girl about 10 years old came up to me and asked for a dime. She said rather mournfully a i done to have quite enough to play a video  i was taken Aback but after thinking about it for a few seconds i gave her the dime. She thanked me nicely and then turned to a Man nearby and said a you were right daddy the Man gave me the Money. It was so  i was furious. My first impulse was to approach the father and reprimand him for permitting his daughter to do such a thing. I Felt it would Only encourage her to keep doing it for larger amounts after a moments thought i decided to say nothing. Did i do the wrong thing by giving the child the dime i would have Felt like a Heel to  her Down. Was i wrong when i decided not to speak to her father in a collecting opinions and id like yours a chump or a Nice Guy in Stamford Conn. Dear Nice Guy who used poor judgment when you gave that child a dime you taught her that it is of to ask strangers for Money. This is a wrong message. You used better judgment however when you resisted the urge to Tell her father off. These Days it s not smart to tangle with strangers. You never know who has a weapon or a Black Belt in karate. Dear Ann Landers i have just been Reading the letter from a been there in Chicago and would like to add my Connecticut   i was the named executrix for my mothers estate. Not wanting the Job of refereeing a family squabble Over who gets what i Sal Down with my Mother with pen and paper in hand when she was in her 80s and in frail health. We listed All her key items of material and or sentimental value and she decided where they would go. A she was hesitant at first and said a a in la leave that up to you.�?�. V i said a but All of this is yours to pass on and be sides it will mean More to each one if they know that you made the  once started. Mom was obviously enjoying herself giving reasons Why this one was More suitable than that one Etc. At the end of the session when a nurse witnessed my mothers signature she said a did no to we get a lot done today a i put the a a document in my safety Deposit Box. Years later when my Mother died and the family gathered at her Home after the funeral i brought out my list. There was not one question Over the decisions made. On the contrary each person seemed to value being a on the  , a Bonus i Hadnot counted on was that they took All the articles Home with them including the hand crocheted bedspreads made Square by Square by our grandmother. No cleaning or packing jobs for met ., Jamestown re. Dear  Thanks for sharing your Wise method of dealing with a situation that often causes Long lasting family prob. Lems. A a a a a a a a a a a a. A a a. A a a a a a a a a. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chicago 111.60611-0562 ,. A c creators Syndicate. Time for you to mind his manners dear Abby i am dating a Guy who is very Good to me. I care for him a lot Ana done to want to Hurt his feelings but there Are a few things about him that just drive me up a Wall. The main problem is his table manners. They Are terrible. I done to like to go out in Public with him because he embarrasses me. I have never taken him to my parents or any other relatives Home because of this. What should i do from Missouri dear from Missouri level with him. Explain gently that you want him to make a Good impression on your parents. Table manners Arentt everything but they do matter in polite society. Teach him dear Abby dear Abby my wife recently passed away after a Long illness. She left about $30,000 in Jewely a wristwatches pearls rings Etc. There was nothing in her will about who should get what. I have two daughters and i feel that they should get the bulk of their mothers jewelry. However sometime in the future i May meet a miss perfect so i would like to set aside one of the Diamond cocktail rings for a her. A a a a. A a a a a a a. A a a a a a a. Am i wrong or should i Divide the entire lot Between my daughters ill abide by your decision. Perplexed in Calif. Dear perplexed you Are not wrong i think your judgment is right on target. Letters Tor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris 111. 61054,. 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