European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 12, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday november 12, 1994 the stars and stripes Page 21 patience please in rhe Kouf lines Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after Reading the letters of complaint about thought less customers who slow Down the checkout line i needed to write. When i was initially diag nosed with multiple sclerosis the area most affected was my hands. They were extremely stiff and Clumsy but i could with Effort manage to write. Although my disability was not apparent to others per forming simple everyday task was difficult and exhausting. I particularly remember. The checkout line at the supermarket. Trying to manipulate Checheck Book and write out a Check took a great Deal of Effort. I could sense the impatience of the customers behind me and Felt anxious and embarrassed even though i was holding up the line for Only an additional minute or two. A. .".-. But it taught me a  realized How often i had been impatient and judgmental of  is often Learned the hard Way. I Hope the next time an exasperated shopper is stuck in line behind someone who May not proceed at the Normal rate of Speed he or she will give a thought to these questions what do i really know about the person who is hold ing up the line How important is that extra minute anyway still learning in Ashland  Ashland you have raised questions that we All need to keep in mind when patience runs  you for reminding us. Dear Annanders this is for All those parents who Are upset because their kids Don t Call them enough. They complain that if they want to talk to their kids they Are always the ones to pickup the phone. These parents should be delighted the kids Are even willing to talk to them on the phone.1 know people whose children Don t care enough about their elderly parents to take the Calls let alone make them. Have the patents Ever discussed this with their Chil Dren if the folks have always done the calling it is quite possible that it never occurred to the kids to Call. The children May be so accustomed to having the parents Call that they have come to believe that s the Way it ought to  the parents Are rightly concerned about who can Best afford the Calls the important thing is not who pays but keeping in touch. Our son is in the Navy. Since we can t Call him be cause we often Don t know where he is we have an arrangement whereby he Calls us from anywhere in the world collect. The Telephone is a marvelous Way to keep families together and actually its the greatest bargain in the world. The open ear in California dear ear ,. V "  the phone companies Are going to love you. Thanks for writing. ,. -. A o Jav. Dear Ann Landers please print just one More letter about the damage that can be done by a Light bulb left burning. It could be a Lifesaver. A ?.". My next door neighbors went on a trip and left their living room lamp on for Security reasons. When they re turned they found ashes instead of a Home. The fire fighters said the bulb was too big for the lamp and the Shade caught fire. I had never paid much attention to Light fixtures or lampshades before but you can bet i do now. ,-n.y. Resident .   and millions of others i Hope. Thanks for the reminder " y -\.-. Letters to Ann under should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago. In. 6061 1-0562.c creators Syndicate her Bachelor brother naw a pest dear Abby my husband and i have been married seven months like most newlyweds we have had some problems but i m glad to say that things Are going very Well for us except for one problem that continues to bother me. My husband has a 25-year-old unmarried brother whose company we both enjoy but he shows up unannounced around dinnertime four or five nights a week. Naturally we in Vite Hini to have dinner with us acid he always accepts. Then he stays the entire evening until it s dear Abby time for us to go to bed. He probably does t think he s imposing on us but i really would rather that he did t come so often and stay so Long. My husband does t want to say anything to him be sides he does t see it As a problem. Am i being selfish to want More time alone with my husband and whose place is it to say something three is a crowd dear three you Are not being selfish. It s your husband s place to say something but since he does t want to you should a " -. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447,mount Morris Iii. 61054. C Universal press Syndicate today s crossword across Gemao. Word5 pm Backtalk 12stromboh spillover 13 formerly bottle 15 inces Santly 16ossoducobase 17 bumped into18 skedaddle 19 like some lbs. 20 lab rat s Challenge 21 nest egg acct 23 literary collection25 Odd sounding in away 28 heavy Mineral 32spyrl. 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