European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 06, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stats and stripes tuesday december 6,1994 he should f be by Befher s confessor today s crossword dear Ann Landers my brother and i were both adopted when we were babies. I was 9 months old and my brother was 2 we were adopted by an army couple stationed in France at the time. Dad was hard boiled and strict while mom was very Sweet and Loving. Between the Woof them we turned out pretty Well. Two years ago we located our birth Mother who introduced us to several aunts and uncles in Germany. As time went on More contacts were made and subsequently my brother s wife talked him into changing his last name to our natural Mother s name. She then persuaded him to change the names of All their children. When my brother told me about the name changing i was very upset. He asked me not to Tell our adopted parents whom i consider my real mom and dad and i promised i would t. I believe he does t want them to know because he is Ann Landers afraid his name will be removed from ithe will if the find out. Actually this is More a concern of his wife s than his. She really hates my folks.,our folks Aren t Rich and i Don t give a Damn about the will but i do care about my parents feelings. This news will certainly tear them up. If my brother wanted to change his name he should have been upfront about it with the folks and willing to live with the consequences. Don t they have a right to know this is a Tough spot for me to be in. What he did was not right. I need some advice. A me  . I agree that your parents should be told that your brother changed his last name but the news should t come from you. If he does t have the guts to Tell them they la find out through an acquaintance or another relative. He cannot keep this from them forever. Meanwhile stay out of it sometimes when people Don t like the Mes Sage they kill the messenger. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago. Iii. P0611-0562.-.,. C creators Syndicate ,. ,.  " ". I ---., -._. Grandparents Best gift is themselves dear Abby i am the Mother of two Small boys and with the holi Days rapidly approaching i d like to address an open letter to my parents and my husband s parents. I doubt that i m the Only mom who feels this  will be Here before you know it and if i May i d like to make a suggestion. Before you go out shopping for your grandchildren i know of one gift you could give the entire family including yourselves time our children Are Lucky to have four grandparents nearby and ican t think of anything you could give them that would Bemore important. To my mom i know you really can t afford to buy the boys any thing and that s of. But you could at least make an Effort to drive Over once in a while or Evenfall them just to say hello. To my dad i know you re Busy but won t you please try to remember their birthdays with a card a phone Call or a visit to my in Laws i know youve raised your children but please Don t think of time spent with your grand children As a chore. All four of you live within a few minutes drive yet we Seldom see you. You Don t need an invitation to come to our place. Stop Over and play a game read Astory to your grandsons or ask them How their Day went. Forge a relationship with them now and they a remember you when they grow up. Please Don t wait until they re teen agers and then wonder Why the hardly know you. This year give your grandsons the gift of yourselves. Quibble dear Abby and Vod pm St mer6 until Tell Over gettikj6  clos6 Menoosh it s All they really need. Thanks Abby. I m not bitter just disappointed in Cincinnati dear disappointed now it s my turn to thank you. I m sure Many people will relate to the message in your , building a close relationship with your grandchildren can be very rewarding. Trust me. Dear Abby approximately 20 years ago my wife had an affair which devastated me. However we stayed together even though i periodically raised questions about the activities Between her arid her  i started pressing for More intimate details. When she refused to satisfy my curiosity in order to get even i told our children about their Mother s affair. What a mistake now they tend to take their Mother Side More than mine. How can i redeem myself with my children and improve my relationship with my wife repenting in South Carolina dear repenting it was a dreadful mistake to try to punish your wifely dragging the Skeleton out of her closet in full View of your , to redeem yourself apologize to your wife in the presence of the children for trying to turn the against her. Next apologize to your children for trying to Poison their minds against their Mother. Then quit beating yourself up. And if you Aren t a Leto shake the guilt that continues to torment you please consider professional counselling. 1 letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447". Mount Morris 111.61054. C Universal press syndicate.,.across 1 Piso or Geo Duck 5 sound of Impact 8 Singer mceritire12 tibetan cleric 13 one million link 14 somalian supermodel 15 Bard s waterway 16 Oscar Hammer Stein ii . 18 contradiction of sorts 20 crowd quorum 21 eviscerate 22 payable 23 greeted the villain 26 move to the music 30 com serving 31 Scott Joplin s specially 32 tic tac toe win 33naras awards 36lnfantry hands Row together 25pro 2stromboli Nobis spillover 26 vegas 3 cupid s Intro Field 27 addressee 4 run 28 prefix for 5 guide skid or 6 Jet Black toxic 7 Tolstoy title 29 Barracks Start item 8 wealth 31 scan Dina 9 Arab Vian Rug. Potentate Type. 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