European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 25, 2007, Darmstadt, Hesse Sunday March 252007 pages calling All spouses military spouse offers weekly advice forum r Ben stars and stripes correspondent Terri Barnes is stationed at Ramstein air base Germany Barnes formerly of Yokota air base Japan is writing a military spouse advice column growing up with a father in the military and now being married to an service member Terri Barnes has a lifetime of experience to share with fellow military spouses she knows what its like to move every few years nine places since she knows what its like to have a husband deploy multiple times and she knows what its like to make new friends in new sometimes foreign places its been a Good experience said Barnes who lives with her family in Ramstein Germany i Trade it i say that its All Good because if you say that its All Good then people think that theres some thing wrong with them when there having a hard time Barnes looks to offer insights and Garner feedback from readers in spouse galls her weekly column debuting april 1 in stars and stripes scene Magazine readers will submit questions to Barnes and she will respond in this space with answers advice and anecdotes in her column a Mother of three and wife to an air Force chaplain stationed at ram Stein air base she does not assume to have All the answers if a question comes up that outside her realm of expertise Barnes will research talk to friends and do what it takes one Way i Hope to develop is to find out where those answers Are she said that will Benefit me As Well As people who read the column in addition to offering advice bar nes welcomes spouses to share How they work through different situations i would love to hear Peoples answers she said if they say this is something that happened to me and heres How i solved it those kinds of things Are helpful i Hope it will become a forum for spouses Combine Barnes life experience with the journalism majors work As a freelance writer and you get some one extremely qualified to write about life As a military spouse the first Rule of writing is to write what you know Well How about that Barnes said heres what i know in really excited about it Barnes column will appear online at Stripe com and in stripes Europe and Pacific editions questions can be submitted to co q n co f new name emerges from purple Haze my oldest son has decided he wants to be called Jimi instead of Jimmy its a decision he made months ago after completing a school assignment on legendary Rock musician Jimi Hendrix the assignment was to write a biography on a famous person who is no longer living Jimmy and his friends decided to focus on dead Rock stars a classmate was already working on a biography of Kurt Cobain so Jimmy quickly chose Hendrix in so glad that other kid was around to keep me from arguing with my 13yearold about Why i dont want to Call him Kurt this int the first time Jimmy has at tempted a Nam change three years ago he tried to convince the rest of the family to Call him Jamie luckily that Only lasted a couple of weeks just Long enough for us to Nom tront tease him about it Ever since i thought he would give up on this latest Nam changing idea just As quickly but yester Day As he scribbled out the Jimmy i had written on a Lacrosse form replacing it with Jimi i began to have my doubts what if he is As persistent Saffron Zich As Hij Cousin Katie who decided in Grade school to change her name to Katy she is now a freshman in College and has been Katy for so Long that i cant even remember when the change took place because Jimi and Jimmy Are Only different on paper it has been easy to ignore the whole Nam change idea but but in my opinion theres a big differ now in beginning to wonder when ence Between the Katie to Katy exactly he will finally decide to go Back name change and the Jimmy to Jimi to being Jimmy experience Katie and Katy Are both common nicknames for Kathryn just As Jimmy is by far the most common nickname for James Jimi was a name made famous by one of the greatest guitarists of All time a Man who could do things with the instrument no one has before or since he be allowed to keep that name forever that going to be my new strategy in trying to get Jimmy to hold onto his own name if that Doest work any better than my of ill just ignore this passing phase Hes going through attitude i have one last resort in willing to fight fire with fire if Jimmy can change his name so can i it was hard to decide what name might Embarrass my son the most i considered cartoon character names greek goddesses and Cher finally i decided to search for a name that would fit right in with the crowd of fans who listened to Hendrix play at Wood Stock All i had to do was Type my name into a hippie Chick name Generator on the internet to find out my hippie Chick Nick name is Saffron if Jimi i mean Jimmy refuses to go Back to spelling his name correctly even after the lets allow or Hendrix sole ownership of the nickname he made famous conversation then in going to Start referring to myself As Saffron knowing my Luck hell probably think its a Cool idea until i use my new name around his friends i have to say hey in jimmys mom but you can Call me Saffron too Many times before he is mortified into becom ing himself again until then this is Saffron Zich remind ing readers All you need is love now excuse me while i kiss the sky a Mother of three boys Pam Zich has moved eight times in 16 years of marriage to her Marine corps husband they have been stationed in various locations including Okinawa California Texas and their current Home in Springfield a email her at or find the Zichos online at Send us a photo of yourself Reading stars and stripes for a Chance to win Cool shirts and a Nintendo Wii game console grand prize
