European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 17, 2007, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Pmc4 scene stars and stripes june 2007 family prep Well for military marriage t q my Boyfriend and i want to get we Are both Active duty and having a hard time getting information about what we need to do do we need to inform our chains of command what kind of paper work do we need to Complete after we Are will we be guaranteed to be stationed near each other we want to go Back to the states to get frazzled a by virtue of their Are a Good spouse Calls find out about local your next he said would be to Contact the state where you wish to get either by phone or to see what their requirements Stop three would be the orderly said because there will be paperwork in you dont need permission from your Chain or command to get but its a Good idea to inform couples who Are both Active duty military can but Are not to be assigned your orderly room can direct you to Tern Barnes necessary request joint source of information about getting q my husband has been in married in the chaplain Micha Iraq for the last four this Al Wing chaplain at Raf Milden is his first and we have said he would suggest going first been in the army for three years to the Chapel or your family Center to the reason that i am writ ing is that i have a Mother inlaw who is crying and being very dramatic about her son being in she seems to be on the negative Side of what could happen instead of being i am a very Strong so i dont understand Why she has to be crying when anything i have explained to her that he is but it still Doest seem to be i could really use some staying Strong a being a Strong person is an Excel Lent Quality for a military there is so dont be afraid to have a Good cry when you need Strong is not a euphemism for it just that As face the reality of deployment and choose to live through not give in to regarding your husbands Mother while you naturally think of your Hus Bandas an because he your Mother inlaw still thinks of him As her because he is mothers will always worry about the welfare and safely of their its possible your Mother inlaw Doest realize she is hurting and not helping her explain to her that you have to focus on positive things to get through this and her negative attitude is ask her to try to be Strong with you so that you can help each other through this Tough if she continues to be an emotional you May need to Cut Back on the time you spend with if she is a person of by Aji encourage her to Pray for her that is the Best thing to do for deployed loved especially when worry tries to take to All the dads out at Home and downrange Happy fathers Day Terri Barnes is a military spouse and Mother of three living in Contact her at spouse  and read the spouse Calls blog at in the Doghouse yet again our family lived Here in Springfield for nine months before draw ing the attention of local Law enforce that an improvement Over our last duty station and this i can blame it on the dog instead of the some of you May recall a column last Winter in which i described the Desper ate measures we were taking to keep glory from escaping our Back heres a Quick update for those who missed that a couple of weeks after we moved our landlord and nextdoor installed a Metal Fence that allowed glory free Access of the Back she shed her Dogon rope status with patrolling her territory and protecting us from cats and but that want glory climbed the woodpile beside the Fence and jumped to then she went around her new teasing the other Ron and the boys moved the Wood pile away from the prompting glory to dig her Way she dug new Home front escape routes almost As fast As Ron filled them by glory was number one on the do catchers most wanted we decided it was time to take extreme measures and installed an invisible Fence that zaps my poor dog if she gets too close to Glorys first reaction was to sit in the Middle of the she slowly began to deter mine just How close she could get to the without getting once she discovered her glory decided to spend most of her time living on the a few inches from the zapping months passed with no i think she was waiting for me to let my Pam Zich guard Down and of i Early one morning in i noticed glory want hanging out in her usual flopped across our ugly Brown Couch or curled up on the dining room she had decided to stay outside and sniff around one of the Gates in our Back when i went out to Check on she glanced up at me As if there were no other place she would rather be than sitting than on the listening to the birdies i went Back con Vinced i was being Overly Jeff appeared at our glory by his within 15 the peace Sweet look on my dogs face when i went out to Check on her had been a fat glory had been plotting her escape All along one slip of her snout and the Latch holding the Gate in place flipped opening the door to bad dog linked Back into the House and headed for the Couch while Jeff and i tried to figure out a Way to keep the Gate he came up with the idea of placing unlocked padlocks in the Latch of the Gate to keep glory in but allow people to come and it worked for two that when the police officer brought my 70pound escape artist Home after spotting glory by a Busy Jimmy took action that rewiring the invisible Fence so that its closer to the after i thanked the police officer and made sure a camera Crew for cops was nowhere in i closed the my first reaction was Relief that my naughty dog had again managed to avoid getting in or causing an i wanted to yell at her and hug her at the same its a feeling Ive gotten used to after years of watching the boys crash into so i did with glory that i do with the boys hugs then a Mother of three Pam Zich has moved eight times in 16 years of marriage to her Marine corps they have been stationed in various including Texas and their current Home in email her at or find the Zichos online at Jenny in startin6 to understand something the other spouses already seem to theres nobody to lean on you 6uys Jenny is drawn by Julie Negron of Kadena air her web site is solutions for household problems Here Are some ingenious and unusual solutions for problems that arise around the House cleaning quirks clean a bathroom Mirror with shaving then wipe with a soft till Defoe the Mirror remove dirty or Greasy fingerprints from painted Walls or no washable wallpaper by rubbing the area with a slice of White Kitchen aids if you dont own a Glass top cake keep a cake fresh by covering it with the clean outside bowl of a Large salad Speed up Poky Ketchup by inserting a plastic drinking Straw into the woman Day Magazine