European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 11, 1967, Darmstadt, Hesse Life in the Middle Ages furlough facts by Hal Boyle a staff writer e what has been called the age f anxiety one of the things that make people most anxious is the fear of Middle age. They dread it As if it were some mysterious malady that would pounce upon them in the night and Rob them of their Joy in living. Actually Middle age in t usually Sud Den or strikingly crippling. Its Onset is so gradual that millions of people have suffered it for years without noticeable loss of zest in living and in fact without even realizing they had become Middle ailment that does t affect its Vic Tims any More than that can t be Al bad. The truth is that the fear of mid dle age is generally worse than the condition itself. How can one Tell when one is Middle aged there Are literally hundreds of indicators depending upon the individual. But you be probably reached that Point if summer after summer the water in the Lake you swim in seems to be get Ting colder with the passage of the years. The Barber you go to regularly appears quite a bit Balder than when he first started cutting your wife does t fuss at you if you Don t take her dancing As much As you used to. In Winter she now volunteers to help you shovel Snow off the drive Way As she does t want you to Overes Ert yourself. Most of the bachelors you used to play poker with have sons in College and some carry pictures of grandchildren in their wallets. You worry less about having Tower bifocals than about where you last put them Down. Three fourths of the foods you enjoy est Are on a list that the doctor suggests you would do Well to Cut Down onor do without altogether. You Start wearing shoes without shoelaces because they enable you to get dressed in the morning without hav ing to Bend Over. It occurs to you that the Campaignio elect younger men to Public office May have gotten out of hand get More philosophical about what is possible and what is impossible in life. For example you realize that no matter what you do the tomatoes you grow in your backyard Garden Are never going to look like those picture Din seed Cata logs. It shocks you to discover that the now charge As much for a single dip ice Cream Cone As they used to charge Foran ice Cream sundae with nuts. When you see a Young couple sit Ting on the grass in a Public Park it makes you feel inexplicably Cranky. Do they have to be so conspicuous in their courtship you like to see Young children a play but you no longer have much of a desire to pick them up and make the scream in pretended terror As you toss them in the your wife tells you that you can have a night out with the boys you re usually Back Home and in bed by 11 30 the office you waste More time figuring out what your pension will Bethan you do in kidding the pretty Secre can look Back and remember when everything they showed on Tele vision was strange and new and exit s Middle age. But if you relax and enjoy it it won t seem half As Badas you feared. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers my Hus band is stationed overseas and i live in the apartment we had before he was drafted. My Boss is Afine Man whom i con Sider a Good Friend. He Washy husband s Golf partner and is Well respected herein Minne Apo lis.1 have gone to dinner with the Boss a few times and once he changed a Flat tire for me. This is hardly my idea of a torrid Romance. But my Mother in Law is Rais ing holy fits. She insists that 1 quit my Job and move in with them. According to her she hat. A right to order me to do this because she is protecting her son s in Terest. U Mother in Law has taken to calling me regularly at one tour to and two o clock in the morning to see it 1 am at Home and to learn to 1 am alone. Las night she said "11 you Don t move in with us within two weeks 1 am going to write an Tell Dave everything " there is nothing to Tell and am getting pretty burned up Over the whole thing. 1 Don t feel that i should give up my Job which 1 need and the Friendship of a Fine person jus because my Mother in Law has a dirty mind. What is your advice Hung for a Lamb dear Lamb your Mother in Law s anxiety Over her son has probably tipped her Over the Edge and she is taking it out on you. Be polite and patient. Don t waste Energy on denials and rebuttals. Stay where you Are and relax in the knowledge that what you Are will speak far More eloquently in your behalf than anything your Mother in Law could say. Dear Ann Landers i d like to comment on that letter from broken hearted Granny the woman who Felt deprived be cause her first grandchild about of Wedlock baby was Given up for am also a broken hearted Granny Only my daughter decided against the advice of our minister our family doctor the social worker and Ann Lan Ders to keep her child. She insisted that if she gave her son plenty of love it would makeup for everything. Buddy is now five years old and an a happier More forlorn youngster would be hard to find he is asthmatic High Strung and cries Over the least Little thing. Every Day he ask Why he has no daddy. Since everyone in town knows the Story my daughter decided to Tell the child the truth. In thelast year my daughter has gone with two Nice Young one called her again after buddy crawled on their laps and asked them to please marry Mommy and be just last night my daughter said to me i made a mistake Mother. 1 see now that buddy would have been much better off if i had let some Worth couple adopt him. What i thought was love was really my own keep counselling unwed Moth ers to give their babies a break Ann. It s never easy to give upon s flesh and blood but it is the most Noble sacrifice of All the purest kind of love. Another heart broken Granny dear Granny thanks for you letter. Every authority with whom 1 have consulted during the past dozen years agrees that the welfare of the child should be the primary consideration. Without exception the experts say the child who Isom out of Wedlock stands a much better Chance in the Home of a married couple. Ib67 Publ Snera newspaper Syndicate the following Tours by bus and train Are scheduled Over veterans and thanksgiving Day weekends Paris by bus from nov. 9-12 and nov. 22-26 comes in two ver Sions a gala tour for $52 and $64 thanksgiving with one More overnight includes hotel accommodations All meals except on lunch an excursion to Versailles a sightseeing tour of historical and modern Paris a visit to the Cathedral of Rheims and to Verdun. The Economy tour for $34 and $46 thanksgiving with one More overnight includes the same services As the gala tour hotel accommodation and All breakfasts. Departure Points Are Wiesbaden Frankfurt Heidelberg Mannheim Kaiserslautern Vogel Weh Lan Stuhl Homburg and Metz. Vienna by train from nov. 9-12 for $61 and from nov. 22-26 for$74 one extra Day includes hotel accommodations All meals except one lunch sightseeing in Vienna an excursion to the Vienna Woods Kahlenberg and Kloster Neuburg. Departure Points Are Frankfurt Hanau Schaffenburg Wuerzburg and by air from nov. 11-13 and nov. 24-26 for $56 from Frankfurt. The fee includes flight transfers hotel All breakfast Sand one lunch or dinner and sightseeing Tours of West and East Berlin. London by bus from nov. 9-14 and nov. 23-28 for $79 includes hotel All breakfasts one dinner a sightseeing tour of London an excursion to Shakespeare country and one overnight in Brus Sels. Departure Point is Frankfurt. Copenhagen by bus from nov. 22-27 for $79 includes hotels in Copenhagen and Hamburg All breakfasts three dinners and one lunch an excursion to Elsinore and Helsm Borg Sweden including Kronberg Castle and a sightseeing tour of Copenhagen. Departure Point is for descriptive literature on the above Tours at the Ameri can Community Center Wiesbaden phone military 23651. 7elixstowe, England the Suffolk coastal resort will Holdt its annual autumn festival of drama and the arts from oct. 19-31. There will be an exhibition of 42 gouache by leading dutch painters and the Scapino Ballet from Amsterdam will give a gala performance on oct. 20. Other events include a festival of Amateur drama at the spa Pavilion oct. 21-28 an exhibition of paintings by contemporary East Anglian artists and a concert oct. Is by the Royal Phil harmonic orchestra conducted by Rudolph Schwartz. Reihe annual London film festival will be held from nov. J. 20-dec. 4, at the National film theater near the Royal festival Hall on the South Bank of the River most of the world s great film festivals London rarely has a premiere instead the program is comprised of award winning films shown at other festivals during the year. Goren on Bridge North South deals. North a a 10 3
