European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 16, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Ann Landers Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers in a 20yearold female University Stu my life has be come unbearable because of my a although he never actually raped when i think of How far i let him go when i was younger and it makes me i didst know what he was doing Back he said he was showing me How much he loved when i was 11years old i figured he was up to no Good and told him to leave me or i would Tell everybody in from then on the physical stuff but now he gets his kicks from verbal sexual i hate to be anywhere near him because of his disgusting sexual he constantly accuses me of trying to arouse him when i Wear shorts or a Blouse or a dress with a Low no matter what is said he turns it around so it has some filthy my Mother knows All about but says in making a big Deal about in her i am at fault because i dont try to get along with she keeps telling me there Are worse fathers than mine and i should be grateful that he is sending me to in afraid my past experience with my father has had a terrible Impact on my relationship with males in i cant stand for a Guy to even hold my if you print this please dont mention the my father reads your column every too bad he Doest take any of your Good faceless and place less dear you must get out of that speak to the Dean of student affairs about a Job that will enable you to stay in a dorm or a place do you have a relative who might take you in i strongly recommend that you speak to the mental health you need to verbalize the horrors of those Early night Marish episodes with your he sounds like a very sick Man punitive and thoroughly no Way should you remain under the same roof with especially since your Mother is no in she sounds like an accessory to the write and Tell me you took my i will worry about you until i dear Ann Landers i was interested in the letter from the woman who said she wets her pants when she sneezes or coughs a or laughs i have two suggestions for and i am surprised you didst mention no woman should go around worrying that she will leak on the its there Are surgical procedures that can help these incontinent surely you know about another suggestion Wear full dirndl skirts so it you wet the you can twist it to the Side so it wont look so in dear i did not recommend surgery because Ive known of too Many women who have had it done and it didst help As for the twisted it May not look As bad with the urine on the Side but it wont smell any i recommend leak proof pads and rubber lined reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but we will withhold your name on request and protect your All letters Are subject to airing problems on questionable advertising i recently entered the Exchange and saw a sign stating that All record albums were marked although i had intended to Purchase a few albums anyway i thought that it was Nice to have timed a Purchase with a i came to a startled Surprise when the cashier charged me full Price for the albums and thought that there had just been a slight mistake and perhaps the Cash Ier did not know about the i re turned to her and explained that there had been a mistake and she referred me to a the manager explained that Only albums that were marked were reduced and i questioned her Why then does the sign state All such a blatant Case of false advertisement should not go if this same incident had occurred in a civilian stateside store i would not hesitate to Call the better business there int a bbb Here and Ive tried the military complaint system with absolutely no re but there is another example that id like to there was a pre inventory Sale from 1620 and there was a knife advertised in their i wanted the knife and went to the Exchange to buy 1 was told that they didst carry that i thought this to be Odd since i picked up the flier in the foyer right out this happened to me several times before and i decided to press the 1 went through three different managers and phone Calls were made from Haine Berg to Mainz and one location that i cannot remember and the answer at All of these places was the none of them carried the by now i was quite upset and requested a rain Check so that i might try on another the response was that they could not Issue a rain Check on an item that they dont even now i was More than angry and quite determined to go Home with something to show for my hour of fighting with a crooked after a Short discussion it was agreed that the item could be ordered and i was Given a rain Check for the Sale Price with an Assurance that the product would be in within four it has been five weeks and i still dont have my i really dont expect a satisfactory answer to this there is absolutely no excuse for this sort of behaviour but i needed a Way to constructively vent some Padgett Lindsay Germany editors note Pete customer relations Public affairs he re plies youre right theres no excuse for the Way you were if the sign in question said All record albums were on then you should have received your Choice of record albums at the Sale if an advertised item unless identified As limited quantities or is not available at the Exchange identified in the you should have been offered a similar item at the same percentage Dis if not satisfied with the you should have been Given a rain Check no at the same it should have been explained because of the time it takes to have merchandise shipped from the Atlanta the items could take up to six weeks to our apologies for your and our Promise to do a few thoughts on child abuse Praise for tax spots an deserves Praise for its recent series concerning income tax the tax spots were Well presented and i was Able to use a couple of suggestions to save Money on my the actor was very he really acted like a give him a Robert Sundberg Heidelberg the and stripes in the past few months and weeks every one has read the articles about child abuse in in magazines and heard about it on the evening from Ameri Ca to Europe and around the world child abuse does but the funny thing about child is that it is not a political problem caused by two countries fighting among themselves but a problem that is primarily caused by parents neglecting or abusing their the majority of the time the child is abused Early in his life when he is just a bundle of confusion and curiosity and is simply a human being trying to live a Sim ple life a life to seek a dream to grow old but the most important thing of All to just please his now if the child is abused and not Given that Chance to live that the child could grow up to be a to kill a to Rob a Bank or even take its re Venge out on his but usually in that Early part of life when a child is not Given a Chance to seek his to grow he will usually in the end face this is where parents come into a Childs for As a Parent you must show your children the right and wrong in you As parents already know the right and wrong in life for you have already lived and have been shown by your but a child really needs Only one thing to live a Normal that is caring and love from his Par As a Parent you must be patient with your children because they Are Young and they can cause More Happi Ness and embarrassment in life for a Parent than one can the child is Young and it Doest know that right and wrong in if the child is shown the proper love and care in the Early part of he will Proba Bly come to his parents to seek the answer to those problems later on from teenage problems to sex to marriage problems along with All the other problems there Are in life which Only if trusted by their Chil can just if there were no Chil Dren there would be no love to no happiness or sadness to no Sun Shine to brighten your Day with the laugh Ter or cries from the As you can see children Are an important part of everyone the children provide the happiness and the love and Joy of they also make the Sunshine with their laughter and so As a Parent you must give your Chil Dren a Chance to live that dream they seek along with the love and laughter that goes along with being a As a in order for a child to above All you must give your children the most important thing in that is tender Loving for they Are the children of the Orrie Whittlesey Germany european edition Usa editor in chief us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell production manager Proctor managing editor Mcdermott circulation manager thanks to bad Cannstatt Hospital through i would like to express my deepest gratitude to the staffs of the Emer gency room and intensive care St general bad on March i was rushed to St Gen eral after ingesting a cough remedy that i am allergic to a very ignorant and nearly fatal mistake on my after arriving at St everyone in the emergency room moved into not to mention the other patients and families waiting for emergency 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