European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 27, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Flam Beed bananas 4 medium bananas cup butter cup sugar juice of 1 medium Orange juice of medium Lemon cup Orange liqueur triple Sec cup chopped pecans or walnuts cup Brandy Peel the bananas and Cut them in in a Large melt the add the and stirring Over medium until the sugar is add the Orange and Lemon juice stir add the and Cook Over medium heat about 2 minutes per remove the bananas and keep them warm on a plate in the add the Orange Flavoured liqueur to the increase the heat to and reduce the sauce by about stir in the return the bananas to the pan and turn them gently to coat them with the pour in the Brandy and carefully ignite it with a shake the pan gently As the bananas As soon As the flames go serve the bananas with the sauce poured Over makes 4 variations use a cup firmly packed Light Brown sugar in place of the White substitute cup of pineapple juice for the Orange use cup rum in place of the substitute macadamia nuts for walnuts or any or All f these variations can be applied to the same brazilian chocolate banana pudding 12 very Ripe bananas 2 cups Brown sugar 2 Tablespoons unsweetened Cocoa powder is Teaspoon Salt 3 Tablespoons butter 1 Teaspoon Vanilla extract 1 cup chopped walnuts or pecans coffe Erum Cream recipe follows butter an 8inch Square baking pan or medium size in a Large Mash the bananas in a medium size Combine the Brown Cocoa powder and then add this mixture to the in a heavy bottomed heat the butter until it then pour in the banana Cook Over medium stirring until the mixture is very thick about 15 to 20 remove from heat and stir in the Vanilla and chopped pour the pudding into the buttered cover with foil or plastic and refrigerate until serving just before make the Coffee rum spoon the pudding into individual dessert and top it with coffe Erum makes 8 coffe Erum Cream in a medium dissolve 1 Teaspoon instant Coffee powder in 2 Tablespoons of stir in cup of confectioners add 1 cup of whipping and beat the mixture until stiff peaks c Sharon 1985 on finding a Nice Way to say get lost by miss manners United feature Syndicate How can i Tell my Lover its All Over without making him feel rejected this woman keeps calling i dont want to reject but in really not whats a polite Way to get rid of someone without rejecting him miss manners receives questions like this All the she stares at up and walks aimlessly around the goes out and makes herself a pot of returns to her looks at them again and then she folds them up puts them Back into her and turns her attention to letters with sensible such As what to say when a Friend Falls Down the stairs you or tells you How awful you look the desk is acquiring that overstuffed the belief that it is a sin to reject anyone for any or even to allow a person to feel is it ought to follow that there Are a great number of people who sacrifice their own interests to the desires of but As the questions is not what they had in if logic were what miss manners cared most she  be fooling around with which is remarkably deficient in it behoves her to figure out what it is that these people do she will begin by being grateful that interest is being expressed in How ones conduct affects the feelings of there is not an excess of that going and miss manners is All for spreading happiness in the she in Good encourage this by advising people to lend Money or marry whoever wishes them to do an etiquette rationale for refusing would be that that person would ultimately be less Happy if married to someone who thought him a although miss manners is not sure that this reasoning would apply to the Borrower of the raw fact is that unlike the next step up in the Way of behaviour saintliness does not feature even miss manners does not distress herself by when someone stands on her How she can make that person feel More the ought to be How to reject someone in the kindest Way that is something miss manners would be delighted but when she continues to read the having retrieved them and smoothed them out she finds another after requesting a no rejecting Way of ridding themselves of these people often specify that they want to be open and honest about they suggest that All of these objectives May be accomplished by informing the unwanted person with All just what it is about him that is now just a minute miss manners has Only managed to get this far by translating the idea of not rejecting to mean not doing so but she can hardly think of anything More cruel than presenting someone with an irrefutable argument stating Why one would have to be out of ones mind to have or spend ones with him or the greatest when one is is to believe that the other person is making a dreadful which will be bitterly regretted sooner or such thinking is most easily achieved when one is rejected on vague and Flimsy it is easy to understand that the person who is always too Busy to go out with or suddenly in need of Solitude to reassess or just not ready to Settle Down with is a anyone with a Grain of sense would see How much More important it was to seize the Opportunity of being with the one you love admits that those things would not matter if the right person came but that Given your conversation and personal will never be that or suppose you Are told that you for a to but on better acquaintance have proved at you must then try to go on knowing that a person you value has pronounced you at you make a pitiful Effort to change what that person Doest like about you and find that even if it is something you can change and it Doest while one can hardly get through life without Ever rejecting it is important to be Able to do so without attempting to destroy that checking the temptation to justify the rejection with honest and open and allowing oneself to be considered capricious and is the humane thing to but miss manners fears she must both reassure and disappoint those who do the rejecting by informing them that most rejected people get Over their rejections and go on to live perfectly Good sometimes made happier by remembering what might have dear miss manners last saturday t took out my lady Friend with her sister and brother inlaw to a Nice eating place for cocktails and we then went we Only danced about one and they started playing i dont dance but a total stranger sitting at the bar came and asked me for permission to dance with my lady i said it was up to so he asked her and she do you mind i replied that it was up to and she you dont and got up and she was Back in two because he didst you i didst say yes or i wanted to know what kind of lady i was out i thought it was a cheap and got up and went did she do wrong or was i wrong i have broken up with we Are senior gentle Reader speaking of cheap tricks do you think it is proper for gentlemen to set traps for ladies miss manners cannot claim it proper for ladies to dance with strangers who saunter Over from but the manner in which this happened each of them asking your permission demonstrates that they had merely confused the manners of private where a lady May indeed accept other with manners appropriate to commercial such As nightclubs or you Are therefore wrong to shun her As if she had behaved like a june stripes Magazine