European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 8, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                July 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letter dear Ann Landers please Stop print ing letters from Nurs ing Home employees complaining about How the elderly Are being neglected by their selfish these elderly folks i have lived a Long once they were they raised these children you seem to think Are so terrible because they dont pay attention to their parents in the Twilight of their Wake will you please child neglect and sexual abuse were not invented in a that stuff has been around for a Long those abused and battered kids have Good maybe that pleasant old gentleman beat his wife when he got which was often and the children hate him for and it is just possible that the White haired lady in the wheelchair paid no Atten Tion to her children when they were growing up and that is Why they feel estranged and i have a couple of Good examples in my own my husbands parents never gave him a kind word when he was growing nothing he did was his brother was the Star and his sister was miss per in they referred to my husband openly As the Dummy or the big Digap it took three years of intensive therapy to repair the nobody knows what went on behind closed doors 50 years that the elderly person who talks about the past int the worlds most reliable please be evenhanded Ann and print this there is another Side to the witness in new Jersey dear Star there is always another Side to every and i am glad to print thank you for dear Ann Landers regarding your response to climbing the Ivy Walls in i think you missed the i have been married for Over 20 years to an English professor at Stanford univer i feel sorry for any woman who casts her lot with a Man who chooses a life in to begin a conscientious professor is married to his the wife and family run a poor second or All spare time is spent writing articles or its publish or my professors who Are upwardly Mobile serve on committees and run themselves ragged trying to ingratiate themselves with department the Provost and the presi Ive climbed the Walls and cried myself to sleep while my husband has travelled All Over making speeches and attending sem widows Arent half As lonely As married women whose husbands put their jobs if i had it to do Over i would not have married a compete in California dear cant compete i asked a professor at us what he thought about your he said you Haw a legitimate but did the woman not recognize that the Man was egocentric and self serving when they were courting he also Why does she put up with it maybe your husband is unaware of your needs and the extent of your Unap have you discussed it if you he May be More responsive than you c news America Syndicate she has tips for wives of Active duty members a word of Wisdom to the wives of Active duty members stationed in West Germany try to be patient and Loving to your Hus they need All they can get from Compromise if you have get involved with things to occupy your self while Hes meet new go even if you have to go alone and take your try not to argue about his he cant do anything about the time Hes away from the people he never forget that he loves you he does think about his family More than you if he has to be up for then get up with him and have a cup of Coffee with if that All he has for re Mem those few quiet moments in the morn ing can be helpful to your dont go to sleep end the argument and decide to think about something Posi Tive until there is time to discuss it dont throw everything he forgets in his try to discuss what he expects from and you from keep the communication if your marriage lacks it then now is the time to try and save your rather than wait to go before a judge and its you go your Way and ill go you made a Choice to Honor and obey until death do you even if you dont want to live that where the one you love is and when you return youll either appreciate it or youll be sorry to have left its your Choice to decide if you want a marriage or your husband has a Job to he May not like his but his Home should be a not somewhere where he sleeps and most of take the time to get involved with the get to know the other and when you need someone to talk try talking to your husband instead of everyone but after he is a and hell be More than willing to listen if youll family mourns death of pet on March we purchased a Beautiful five Eskold Yorkshire terrier which made us very Happy because we now had a pet that would keep us occupied hopefully for the next few but As this Puppy grew he became More than just a pet or an he became a member of the every Day we would appreciate the changes that had the same As those of an infant As he matures hair color understanding he even had a sense of Trust in humans that they would be careful toward just As they were toward their Little did he know that not All humans shared this same attitude toward and if the situation kill them rather than trying to avoid hitting them even though they were not in any danger on june at 10 across from the shape athletic Prince found this when he died abruptly at 16 he was hit by a Motorist who was either inattentive or speeding because the car did not Brake or even try to avoid him until after he had been it was Only after his death that the real pain we tried to accept his but every time we thought of the Good times we had looked at where he slept or had the sorrow became overwhelm ing and we would break Down and cry be cause of this void that was suddenly left in our lives from his the reason i am writing this is the first is with the Hope that fam ily will not suffer the same sorrow and pain by losing their and second to inform All motorists to be More careful when they encounter pets while driving Down the because that is very special to we All miss Alan Bahr Belgium reception problems explained i am writing this letter concerning the to reception at Span Dahlem Ever since the transmitter at Span Dah Lem was shut Down and picked up by the one at Pitburg the reception Here has been since we Only have one Channel to select from is it asking too much that both the audio and video reception be working at the same time we at Span Dahlem have been experiencing audio problems since about april 2 and Are still experiencing this its very annoying to come Home from work and not be Able to hear the to in the whom do we complain and does it do any Good to complain at All Why cant the bases set up a satellite dish system for better in sure people would be willing to pay a reasonable fee to have it since the transmit ters cant be kept working withheld Span Dahlem Germany editors note Mitchell Public affairs he 5th signal replies we at 5th signal come Are aware of the problems that Are being experienced at the Transfer of the system to Pitburg became necessary when radio Luxemburg was granted a License to operate a High powered radio station on the same fre Quency As the of nov system at Spang this caused a great Deal of inter Ference to the to new equipment was installed at Pitburg to alleviate the Span Dahlem we realize that this new equipment has had a higher failure rate than the old but this High Power Type transmitter has experienced problems Dur ing the initial breaking during the of nov maintenance teams responded to approximately seven trouble Calls from the Pitburg on april the of nov maintenance team from Kaiserslautern evaluated the entire replaced weak electronic components and replaced a Power Supply in the video portion of the no problems have been experienced with the transmitter since replacing the Power sup to answer your whom do we complain and does it do any Good the answer each military Community has the responsibility for establishing a Point of Contact for accepting All to out age reports occurring within their comm the local Telephone number that viewers should Call to report problems is usually found in the Usa eur Community serv ice Telephone directory or local Publica you should address All of nov trouble Calls to this once the poc verifies that a problem actually exists and is affecting government he or she will then Call the 5th signal come emergency action which actually dispatches the of nov maintenance your Calls not Only do but Are vital links in the Chain of events leading to the repair of television further we have no alarm systems on the to we do not know an outage has nor can we pinpoint the actual location of an outage without the reports from your Community i want to assure you that we Are aware of the importance of of nov to All Mili tary communities and that every Effort is expended to provide you with the Best service Only try to youll find out just How easy it this goes for dont give up just yet on your its not going to be then divorce int any Burnham pen pals i would like pen pals from All Over the i am 16 years my hobbies include softball and Romil Baguio Gui Hunan Negros Oriental 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