European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 10, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday. September 10. 1985 the stars and stripes annl ahders Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers my wife and i went in High school together in the 50s. A month or so Afler a big july fourth weekend she whispered the magic words i m preg  so like All the jerks of that Era i married her. 1 Fig ured on getting out later but our son was retarded and i just could t leave. So what happens now my life is More than half Over and i m an unfulfilled mid dle aged Man. I was never Able to do the things i wanted to do because i was stuck in a business owned by my in Laws. I suspect my wife feels As trapped As 1 do. I did grow to care for her and the boy but i can t help but wonder what i missed because of one reckless night. By the Way i was not her first but she was mine. I be had a few minor affairs Over the years and one that was serious but i could t marry the woman because of circumstances. Let this be a lesson to your impetuous readers. Think of the Long term consequences before you jump in the sack. I wish i had. Daydreaming in Colorado dear Colorado thanks for sharing your Story. I m sure you have made a great Many Young people Stop and i Hank today and some older ones too. Dear Ann Landers this has been a problem throughout our daughter s teen years and it is still going on. We buy Mary Lovely clothes because she enjoys being Well dressed and has excellent taste. All Mary s girlfriends ask to borrow her clothes. June wants a handbag for the weekend. Ruih borrowed her new sneakers and a hooded jacket. Often after visiting in our Home they walk out wearing these borrowed items. My complaint these girls never return anything. I be telephoned their mothers and they say they Don t know anything about it. So i end up driving several Miles to get my daughter s clothes Back. Almost always they Are soiled ripped and out of shape. I have talked to Mary about this Many limes. She says she can t refuse because her friends put her on the spot. It does t seem to matter that blouses jackets jew Elry jeans Etc. Are personal items and they Cost a lot of Money. Perplexed in Virginia dear per the solution is of thous. Tell Mary she is gelling nothing new unless she promises no More lending. This goes for All her belongings. Mary can then Tell her friends when they ask sorry my Mother has lowered the Boom. 1 can l lend anything to anybody. I  dear Ann Landers i be been stuck in a dead end relation ship for eight years. Mike and i Are both in our mid-40s. His apartment is spotless because his Mother cleans it every Day. She also does his laundry. I Cook for him monday through Friday. He takes me to some Nice restaurants on weekends. Whenever i mention marriage Mike says. Why everything is great the Way it  what arc my chances of getting this Man to marry me please be Frank. Fingers crossed in Lima dear Lima. Why should Mike buy a cow when milk is so cheap if marriage is what you. Look elsewhere. This Guy has made it Plain he likes everything the Way it is. Lake his word for it. Saudi s donation for operation spurs comments i m sure All military members arc saddened by the fact that champs will not approve the heart lung operation for Billy Bostick. Billy could be i hair son or daughter who needs some special care a military hos Pital can t provide. I feel ashamed for the . That we must accept donations from a saudi Prince wonderful gesture. My family and i have never needed the services of champs but when we do Well i just wonder. Clyde j. Russell Rancho Cordova Calif. The Story of the air Force sergeant s son who needs a heart lung transplant made me absolutely sick. What kind of society is the sergeant defending where his child Chance to a life is not a right but a controllable commodity available Only in Exchange for an exorbitant sum of Money it is sad enough when a sick child s chances to survive Are dependent on the state of current technology As with Luke Mia or upon the availability of a donor Organ. But Billy Boslick s situation is so Cial darwinism at its very worst. The medical profession can say we have to meet our expenses and be left in peace. How Many surgeons have to live on the salary of an air Force sergeant the insurer can say sorry we Don t cover  should a person s right to life depend on the employer s Choice of insurer the government can stand by doing nothing since there is nothing unconstitutional about letting a child die when it can save him. Why is this child dependent upon a saudi arabian Prince because too much of the american society worships the Dol Lar and gives human life second place. German Coffee Why is the German Coffee sold in our commissaries a rationed item Barbar under Idar of Borslein Germany editor s note . Col. Paul m. Marck Deputy commander Liq. 42nd my group custom replies under the provisions of the supplementary agreement to the nato status of forces agreement the . Forces May procure goods on the German Market free of taxes and duties for Sale to i hair Mem Bers. In accordance with the aforementioned agreement and an administrative agreement subsequently concluded the . Forces must quantitatively restrict the Sale of certain commodities which Are highly taxed on the German Market and therefore Are particularly susceptible to illegal introduction into the Germany Economy. Among the commodities listed As requiring rationing measures is Coffee. Considering that German Coffee offered for Sale at . Forces sales facilities is procured tax free and duly free it is required to be included into the rationing measures maintained by the us. Forces in Germa we consider people to be entitled to Only that which they can pay for in Cash not that which they have paid fur in serv ice. If this applied Only to fancy restau rants and Vars it would be one thing but we arc talking about immediate health needs. A Rock Star s child could have this life saving surgery a minister s child might be denied it. Meanwhile Coke and Pepsi have spent sums equal to the Price of this boy s life just to develop a Container that can Lake their sodas into space. And what do you know folks the project fizzled. We read about people like Billy Boslick very frequently sometimes when some wealthy donor has come through with the Money often when their families arc at tempting to raise the Money. Their one and Only Hope is the Media. There must be others who do not make the news and thus do not make  we arc a society in which lives inter twine. Chances Are that some researcher who contributed to the technology that could save Billy s life studied on a scholarship and worked under a Grant paid for if Only in Small part with lax dollars paid by Billy s grandparents. Pen pals i would Uke pen my. I a 13 Veart old and my hobble Are biking a Talna Baut Tbell end Dpi Wing. Lovd Doug in m. My Lay 144 Laren  Nee rot Oriental philippine i would tie on pfc my hot wet Art playing Wecer biking and  Bike bal. 1 am 15 year a Danilo meta144 Larena Street Guinal new negro Oriental Philippines i would Uke my name paced in the pen pal he. I have Many hobbies and took Forward to corresponding with new people. Daniel Klein 2ms Anderton Ava. It. Vert Florida wet i would like pen Paf. I am 20 years old. I like Lawn Lennig Ball flame and Reading. Sheila c. Gouenat 93 l. Rover , Oum Aguele Cut Philippines i m a 14-Vaar-flw Carmen boy who a completed German Hau Pachue. I am looking or pen part  american. Car in getter 2$ Dryden or str. 10 2870 Oelman Horil West Germany British Imperial War museum Gen. Vladimir sukh Olinov bus defended a be scr writer bemoaned the Yukky appearance of bus. The Usa eur representative gave a Good response but i d like to add that War is usually a come As you Are affair. Ever heard of the sukh Olinov effect it was named in Dis Honor of the czarist general who wore a gorgeous uniform of Gold braid and medals. Mis Parade ground soldiers looked great but made an awful mess of the world War i invasion of Ger Many. The sukh Olinov effect says in War. Whichever Side has the fancier uniforms Vul  since England s Henry Viii introduced the modern military uni form Down through today it s held True. I d rather look Yukky and win than spiffy and lose would t you . Rogers slut Garl i know there arc doctors engineers and researchers right now who went to College with the help of slate lax dollars i started paying 12 years ago. Most have or will soon have standards of living far above mine. I would hate to think that my Access to medi  care would be dependent on my being no threat to their Pool in the Yard Ameri can dream lifestyles. In shun. I feel that Access to life saving medical help like air. Like water like the Protection of the Constitution should be made available by americans to americans equally regardless of availability to pay. The children we allow to die might have been our future Jonas Salks. I am also tired of hearing that we Don t have the Money to share this technology. The Money is somewhere. If our society can afford to in Vest it in space shuttle cola cans aggressive cigarette advertising uninspired and violent movies victimization by the defense Industry padded business travel expense accounts and million Dollar salaries for baseball players then it can afford a catastrophic health insurance program for us members. We May not even need an entire National health program As exists in Germany and the United kingdom since our private health insurers Are already doing a targe part of that Job. Granted we do need better policy to balance the interests of the patients and the medical profession in matters of fee Selling and malpractice issues or else All individual Hospital expenses will Row to the Point of  Bui we also need an immediate Federal policy that will put lives first when and where no one else will while we work out the finer details of specific policies and responsibilities. Name withheld Munich the straps  Jav of european edition capt Dale 1c Patterson us editor in Chlof cmdr Jeffrey l Zakem us Deputy Edix in Chiel . Blackwell m. Proctor . Mcdermot production manager managing de circulation manager thin wipp Al an authorized unofficial publication for member of inf military or Vecei Over that Content of the Slart and strip Are not re 7j�. Ets no. 140-7170 or Munlyn i. Ot�-490-iig0 Nurnbirg. Germany Tony Nauroth. Bkg. 3. Of Flam o Darby Cater. Apo 0944, Nuernberg my j411 715. Ets to. 440-iie or Nuernber t Civ. Of id 11741 Tut Toast Germany Dan Woram an Joe Owen. Big. 7303, pm. W. Palch Barrack. Box my Apo 0171. Patch my. 7719-944, ets no. 430-m49 or Civ. 0711 untie Teie my Naples Italy hangar #7,  As. Fpo by 09511. Ctr oof la i ii. To. Alovon us-11w Eilum in fid kingdom j King cruder and gave dem bldg a Cess us Raf ill dental. Apo oti77 montary Alovon i7u-1i10 Eti Enion 7h 777i or Mik Mineu Civ 0am 711um1706s Washington  Clint Swift. Oast Paine Penta gon. Room 7e7u Wathington 70301. Tel. 707 t7-us. Circulation offices Germany Berlin Civ k331i44. Mil All. Ets no 337 4117 Bremerhaven Civ. Lilt. Mil. Iu9, ets no. M7  Rhein Maln. Frankfurt Civ. Oif Sittou or 491s41. Mil m7s or 7103, ets no 130- or 7101. To fam 411717, Kimri Lauvern. I 57070 or s7079, Mil Voo Etith also ets no 411-400. Munich Civ. 4w1w1 or tlj4, Mil Asu. Ets no. 440 so. Nuernberg. Civ. 717su. Mil 7001, ets no. 440-7001, soul Lori Civ. 07u-ij0149, Mil 4010, ets no 470-4030. Greece Athen Civ 9971390. Italy Vicenta Civ. Vilusi Spain Matt pm my. 00341 4749011 Torreon itch Bardal ii or ctr. 00341 4u144s Turkey Titan bul Civ 1444371, Tek 74174 sans to. United kingdom err Cham common Civ. It worry 1043& 44741 Mil. Newbury 04ji 4474j709