European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 11, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday. September 11, 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 behind every successful woman. Behind every successful Man. The saying goes there s a woman. So what s the word on what s behind every successful woman five words parental encouragement and spousal  some 10.000 women in 47 countries. 59 percent of them married said so in a Survey when asked the most significant factors spurring females on to Success. Egged on by their moms and dads and among the married held up by their husbands these women reached their goals according to the Survey sponsored by Zonta International a Chicago based global service organization of women who have soared in business science and the professions. This first International status of women Survey contained few surprises. Sample the achievers said Access to College unlocks Doore of business and the professions to women from Africa to new zealand. The same obvious Point May be said of males at he Pinnacle. On the matter of spousal support Burleigh Gardner who directed the Survey conducted by social research inc., finds it really not surprising. The successful women appear to be the types who attract and marry men who Are sympathetic with their dreams of  other highlights from the Survey most of the married women said neither husbands nor children interrupted their careers. Of the 18 percent who never married half Are 50 or older. The Hunch. Gardner says is thai the older women might have believed marriage would interfere with their careers. Thirty one percent of the successful women showed entrepreneurial spirit and willingness to take risks by developing their own business. Most of the women Are professionally stable and not Job hoppers. Forty one percent Are in their first careers 32 percent in the second 22 percent in the third. Twenty eight percent of the women were promoted within the company in which they began their careers. In the main the women said they were attracted to their careers by personal interest in the Field desire for Independence pleasure in accomplishment need for personal fulfilment and Confidence in their abilities in a particular area. O women suggested pursuing your own dreams not those of your parents explore options and be responsible to your choices. Decide As Early As possible exactly what you want to do Ihen set goals and determine to achieve them. It is Best to delay marriage and children until you finish your education. But if you marry while in College do not sacrifice your education so your husband can continue in school. Before you commit to marriage discuss with your prospective spouse what you want out of life both personally and professionally. Do not sacrifice your career because your husband s work is More important. To you. Your work is most important. It you choose to marry select a mate who is supportive of your career aspirations and is secure enough not to Teel threatened by your Success although Many women successfully juggle marriage and a career be aware of the fact that a career does not come without costs. Doing the right thing at the right time Don t give red roses to your German Host w Here is giving a gift to a woman no appropriate and making the americano sign an obscene gesture if Youdon t know the answer then you May spoil your business Deal. Many business deals have fallen through because Well meaning americans said or did the wrong thing at the wrong time when abroad said Roger e. Axtell editor of Dos and taboos around the world a Guidebook for travelling business executives. Giving a gift to the wife or wives of an Arab businessman with whom you Are trying to strike a Deal is considered an insult he said. The of sign thumb and Index joined in Circle americans use to show that everything is All right is considered a vulgar gesture in Brazil. Axtell an expect the with Parker pen co., has visited More than 70 countries. Based on surveys interviews and personal experiences of some 500 seasoned International people the Guidebook helps travellers to Cope with protocol customs and etiquette in foreign lands every traveler whether As a tourist or on business has at one time or another Felt embarrassment Chagrin and frustration by saying or doing the wrong thing Axtell said in an interview. The Parker official said there Are 30,000 medium and Erma Bombeck Small size businesses in the United states which Are not exporting As they should be. He said american business people will be More confident if they know How to behave overseas. His advice Tor those doing business in the Middle East Pat Lencel take your time. Establish a Good personal relationship. Be absolutely honest As their religion teach utmost  the Book covers a variety of situations from How to eat and dress to saying people s names correctly from hand gestures and body language to gift giving. Examples of taboos abound never Wear your shoes into japanese Homes or restaurants and Don t address a japanese by his first name Don t ask for an alcoholic drink in an Arab Home Don t pass food with your left hand in India. Never Wink at a woman in Australia Beckon someone with your Finger in the Middle East and Don t give handkerchiefs As gifts in latin America or red roses to your Host in Germany the Book said. There Are touching societies and there Are the places where you Don t touch. In saudi Arabia it is a sign of great respect and admiration if you take a Man s hand to walk Down the Street. If you re invited Lor cocktails at 8 . Your German Host expects you at 8 . While in latin America it really Means 9 30 . The Book contains dozens of anecdotes of deals spoiled by Lack of cultural awareness. A texan who innocently said yall Corne Back and see us to a saudi arabian businessman unintentionally in pulled the visitor who understood it to mean he should return with More people next time. Often it s simply our american English that gels us in trouble with its business jargon sports metaphors and Buzz words which Are baffling to non native speakers of English Axtell said. He cited the Story of an american executive who regretted having said. This is a whole new Ball  to a client who did not consider the discussion a game. One Section of the Book is devoted to american business women travelling overseas. Women should avoid eating or drinking atone in restaurants that locals use to pick up women. A tailored suit is proper attire in Japan but not in a country of saris such As India. Do not give gifts to a foreign male business executive unless they Are for his Home and children and if you Are single then pretend to have a husband and children while visiting the Middle East. Women should be forewarned Axtell said that they Are at a disadvantage in parts of the world where women Are not usually received As business representatives. I Hen they Are spoken of they re referred to As social do goobers or the Richold ladles of causes or members of Heball of the month  Veall seen them on society pages in their rustling suedes handing a Check Over to some one at a luncheon where crab quiche is being served and Champagne flows. They re harmless. They keep Busy. They bother no Ono they bother me. Too Long i be sat by and marvelled at their Low profile their disciplined drive and their Awe some contribution to this country without saying a word. Without any fanfare whatsoever these women who Don t have to do anything have silently built museums sustained operas fed the poor funded shelters erected hospitals created Parks effected cures for diseases raised Money for research provided schools and scholarships perpetuated the arts and brought dignity and Opportunity to people they will never see to lives they could never imagine. In Dayton Ohio the Art in the Dayton Art Institute was in danger thanks to a Leaky roof. The building was not accessible to the handicapped. Mrs. Frederick c. Smith Pfeife and her committee raised More than $1.8 million. In Baltimore md., the women s Board of Johns hop Kins Hospital has raised $3 million Over the past 10 years for the Benefit of the Hospital. In Chicago while 25 debutantes danced the women s Board of the Northwestern memorial hospitals wound up their drive for $2.8 million for the Purchase of a magnetic Reso Nance a Ray machine in san Diego calif., the jewel Ball again raised More than $125,000 for service projects. In Cleveland Ohio fund Raiser Jeanine Jones said the women suffer from benefits tvs but $7 million was raised for the orchestra in that City. This in t even the tip of the iceberg for All the fund raising that is going on All Over the country by these women. What makes them unique is How they do it. Most of them Cut their Teeth on Money making projects such As Brownie sales Church bazaars and car washes but As the needs become greater they grew into a Good of girls network. Their fund raising is a lot of begging a lot of unreturned phone Calls a lot of Trade offs and Arm twisting for donations and patrons. But god love pm. They pull it off. I have spoken at benefits in towns so Small you could carpet them for under $36. Miraculously when the curtain opened there were 2,500 people in Black ties and gowns who paid a ridiculous amount of Money for the privilege of dressing up formally on a tuesday night. The Rich old ladies most of them Are not that old have had their place in the Sun today. They la fade into oblivion Lor another 50 years or so. But when you re saying your prayers tonight offer up one for these so Cial do goobers and be glad they have a social con science to go with it. I would t want to know what this country would to without them. To to Anat i to Lett