European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 28, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday october 28, 1985 the stars and stripes pane 11 dear Ann Landers. My father died after a 10-month bout with cancer. In those 10 months several events occurred Hal inspired me to write rules to visit  i Hope you will share them with your readers. 1. Call before you Goto visit. Never drop v in. Sick people have i Xiv of bad Days when they Don t want company. 2. If you want to know about a person s illness ask him or her. Don t tag the family into a Corner and bombard them " questions. Response Given to monday morning quarterbacks Unis pcs Ana what to Cir  arc. 4. If the person says there is no cure for the illness and hat he or she has accepted the inevitable Don l describe the Miracle cures you be heard about. 5. If you can t visit Send a card or letter or Call on the Telephone. It Dix in t take much time and it lets the person know. That you care. It does t Lake a  of Effort to live a sick person a lift. An old Friend sent my father postcards every few weeks that said simply. I am thinking of  that meant More to him than anything else. Sign me re  and know Antwi Ifird. . Dear . La arc Are your rules. Thanks for sending hem on. The Bottom line is common sense which is surprisingly uncommon. Dear Ann Landers please  Mesa a word to  inc 17-Vear-old girl who is considering going Back to a former Boyfriend who has confessed that he is bisexual. That Young person could t find Morer in if she searched for it. I know because lived through that very same Nightmare. Twenty five years ago i convinced my self that or. A could t possibly be Gay or bisexual. It is  i told my self because he had asked me to marry him. The result of Hal marriage was a lifetime of heartache lies and pretending Hal everything was of. I know i need therapy to find out Why i stay with this Man and Why i Mill care so much for him. My main concern is pro telling our children. Oakland can and should run in the opposite direction. No one needs this kind of you blk. At 17, she has Many options. She could choose someone who will make her feel Good about herself. I la be praying fur her. Michigan dear Mich i Hope Oakland listens. She will never get belter advice any thurr. Thinks for Yon prayers and your efforts to help her. Dear Ann Landers realistic in Minnesota s closing statement. Russia won t have to fire a single  is provocative. The history of the opening and partitioning of China supports that opinion. The Oriental poppy was there and the europeans made use of it by comfortably numbing the native population. The Mes Sage is Clear death to the user. Footnote from history Lubbock. Texas dear  i be heard Hal message before the glory that was Greece and the grandeur thai was  could it happen to a country As Strong and vital As ours i doubt it. But i would t bet the rent. Confidential to one and All i roofed. The source of i was so Cross la he children was the Book i be got to talk to somebody  by Marjone Holmes Revell publishers. Since it is the right season. I will open with i tired cliche. The monday morning quarterbacks Are reviewing our fiscal car and efforts with the usual comments. Perhaps the a comments would be a bit different if these quarterbacks know How he game is Pla de. There arc three factors that affect the year end spending phenomenon. The him is the receipt of funds la is common knowl Edge that we receive Money on an annual basis and must Complete spending before the end of the fiscal year. The complicating fact is Hal we do not receive the Money at the beginning of the fiscal year. I or the past several years we have started the Fis Cal year without an appropriation. We have had spending restrictions Well into the fiscal year As an example we have not received any authority to spend procurement funds this year. Additionally when we do receive funds we arc typically shorted Money to cover such things As inc civilian pay raise and arc told to take such expenses out of our operating budgets unless Congress passes an appropriation. Last year this supplemental appropriation was passed in August. This method of funding gives us significantly less than a year to spend the funds a do re Cei v u. The second Factor affecting the time Frame of our expenditures is the method of spending. Anyone the least familiar with contracting regulations knows Hal we can nol spend millions of dollars in one Day s time. You do not  a contract to repair a building the same a you realize the build ing needs repair. Yor certainly do nol buy a new weapon system in a a in. Once you have made the decision Hal an expenditure is necessary and a contract will be  you have a rather time consuming process of building specifications Advertis ing for bid selecting a can tractor perhaps resolving bid disputes and finally spend ing the Money by signing the contract. An installation commander is always faced with cutoff dates As Early As june for us mitting a requirement in he contracted then sweating for the next four months hoping nothing will p ump in the  to delay it past sept. 30. The final Factor affecting the perception of How we spend our year end Money is in the spending priorities livery installation commander develops a set of requirements and priorities. Then he faces the receipt of funds problem and the Long contracting process. Perhaps the commander has determined that the first priority item on the list of things he cannot afford because he has t been funded for the pay raise is the re placement of a Security Fence. He gets the supplemental appropriation in August but it is simply not possible to  a contract for Fence in six weeks. He has to go Down he list of requirements to determine which of the installation s needs can be filled in the remaining time. He ends up paving the roads since he has a requirements contract on the shelf. Then he is left to answer the question of Why the paving was done in Stead of the fencing. While the commander has spent Money on a project of less priority because of the system there is no question that the paving was a valid need anyone who has driven around Lee Barracks in main would be easy to convince that paving can be a very valid requirement. Now we have the typical comment that if we could wait to the end of the fiscal year to Purchase something that perhaps we do not need it if you cannot be persuaded that our appropriation and contracting proce dures cause the working folks to jump through hoops to get a budgeted item Pur chased by sept. 30. And maybe you cannot concede the notion that taking the allowed period of time in deliberation of the proper priorities or selection of the Best contractor is perhaps a Good idea then perhaps i can persuade you that i or particular installation does not have everything it needs for efficiency Security readiness or moral or if you look at the big picture arc you satisfied with our current weapon systems or do you think that perhaps we need some improvement to meet the in real our ene Mies pose Cyl the premise is Hal if we spend Money  sept. 30 we did not need the item purchased. 1 submit that the fact that funds arc spent on sept. 30 is irrelevant to the ques Tion of need. I know thai we waste Money and that bad decisions arc made but Intelli gent use of funds made available through Laic appropriations or fallout from other programs is absolutely necessary to meet  of defense requirements. It is the Job of All of us to not waste tax Revenue but it is the higher responsibility of the military commander and his financial management people to meet the needs of his command with the funds provided. If you want to reduce the defense budget do it through the appropriation process Bui do not ask a commander to not spend Money for the things his installation needs to fulfil his responsibilities for our defense simply because the system results in his spending thai Money on sell. 30. Do id  accounting officer. Dodos  As. Irma no where can Soldier Send family the St ars and ripes a situation has come about which in this Case is personal but which i am sure affects Many soldiers in usage Lar. I have received orders for an unaccompanied tour in Korea. Initially 1 was told that my dependents could remain in the com Mand but then i was told that they could nol and would subsequently have to return to the United slates upon my Deros. I have no place to Send my depend cols in inc United states. We Don t own a House anywhere and my relatives have their own 11th Cav reunion the ill Arm Civ Veteran of Vic Nam and Cam Bodia Ami hold a reunions pm 57, 1986, in Dallas. The a for Mort information Contact Ollie w Pickral 1602 Lerne drive Richardson. Texas phone 2u-23s-6m2. Need wholesome Jody t cadence narrative of i Lilart awards decoration i counselling statements and Eer s Lor publication please contribute it aforementioned to in following address Wilton Pobo 2711 Marker Heights Tchai 76543. Pen pals i am 73 years old Ami Enloe Bik Irto. Cooking sch Ming dancing singing end playing guitar. Piez include my name to a Chat pen pal column Maria Joyne a. Alicante silo san Jove Brov ii bait City Neofis Oriental philippine 6523 i am interested in writing to peer in of two carts of world Picas include my name in Imp in Al column i 22 a cars of and like to read Coon a Dunav Ball games Peria c Devela 1061 flab Iii Street Bais Cut Negros Oriental Phi Putnes 6513 i would he to correspond with pen pah Fruto Over the world i am a years old urfi Hausmann Darmstaedter Strasse 200 6140 Bentheim 3 Aurbach Welt Germany i am 30 years old and Wouri like to Corr opioid with Pas t like cooking Catling writing and gardening Lucy c Caile Sandagan Oziol ban City. Negros Oriental 6523 Panilio pics i would enjoy receiving letters from anyone in netted m becoming my pen pal i am 23 and outings dancing and shimming Nelida f Silva Burgos Street. Bals City Negros Oriental 6523 households to tend to. So the question arises where do i Send them and How could someone address this and provide an answer staff or. . Sec tons bad Krecu Nach. Germany . Col. Ohm i Spradling chief Field services dision. 1st personnel com Mand. It usar Kur replies the join Gratcl regulations pro my c a Soldier with several options for movement of dependents Wynn he Soldier is ordered to an unaccompanied tour. As soon As soldiers receive notification of reassign ment from usage tar hey should con tact their personnel service no or their servicing military personnel office to begin planning for he move. Neither the Chain of command nor the personnel support Community can make the final decision for a Soldier concerning the location of a family. Experience Indi Cates that while a Soldier is serving in an unaccompanied area the family is Best located in the City of the Home of record or in the City of a close relative. Under certain circumstances however a new place of domicile can be established during the Soldier s absence. With the approval of the Community commander families con remain in t Sarker but this solution is not recommended because after 90 Days the family will receive Only limited logistic support due to the status of forces agreement. The servicing Milo can provide inc details required for the Soldier and the family working together to make the final decision. Onee the decision is made and the family members know where they Wilt re Side during the Soldier s absence lie Mil to and the transportation office can make arrangements for the movement of it family the Soldier and their House hold goods. The Chain of command has Many cos and officers who have experienced pc s moves. Their advice and assist Ance can also he of great value. Karly and continued coordination with them the Milo and the transportation office will ensure a successful pcs move and rewarding follow on assignment. European edition capt Dale k. Patterson us editor in chit pm Del Jeffrey s. Zakem. Us Deputy editor in Cynel go. 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