European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 07, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday november 7, 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers i am a divorced working Mother of two daughters Ages 13 and 15. I have been separated from my sex husband for three years. Joe re married two weeks after the divorce was final. He rarely sees his daughters and when he does it is Only for an afternoon or occasionally overnight. Two Days ago i took a late lunch an showed up at Home unexpectedly. I walked in on something that stunned me. My youngest daughter was in the Kitchen and Sheila the older one was taking a Shower in my bathroom with her 16-year-old Boyfriend. I had no idea anything like this was going on. Sheila has been dating this kid for six months but they were not allowed to see each other unsupervised. Apparently she has been seeing him while i am at work during the Day. After the initial explosion. Sheila con fessed that they Nave been having sex for several months. She is on the Pill i tried discussing the situation with her father but As usual he criticized me saying have always been too permissive. We had family counselling after the Sepa ration. Sheila had problems in school with truancy and drugs and i had a problem with drugs and alcohol. The counselling helped but i m afraid it will not help this time because Sheila refuses to go. How should i handle this desperate in Calif. Dear Calif if Sheila won t go for additional coun seling go alone. You need guidance on How to keen the lines of communication open. As for Joe it b apparent that you can expect very Little help from him but keep trying. He might have a change of heart. Parents Are obligated to do everything possible to help their children Lead decent lives but there to no Way we cast fore or children to make Good decisions or behave decent of they choose to do otherwise. I wish parents who have tried their Danaus foam quit asking theme Ives when did i fab ? sometimes it b Ibe children who my and there Cones time when parents must a their messed-., kids accept responsibility for the Maphet. Dear Ann Landers you Are probably sick to death of letters from and about nurses. Can you stand just one More most nurses go into the Field Young an idealistic. They Don t realize until they have invested years of training and thou Sands of dollars that the work is Back breaking and stressful and the pay is shamefully Low. According to the labor department nurses make less than mail carriers plumbers and garbage collectors. Yet the Yare responsible for people s lives 24 hours a Day often working double shifts to makeup for staff shortages. I love being a nurse but i cannot Hel but become furious when i pay aut Mechanic for one hour s labor More than learn in two weeks. A nurse Beer to not allowed to become angry. As an Angelof mercy she is expected to remain cheerful pleasant and sympathetic at All try to look professional but it in t easy on what i make. Give us a break. An . In Conn. Deserve every of no cafes Security checks questioned and explained i be held my temper Long enough. I can Thold it Rny More. Why must we cafes employees be treated like common thieves they have no consideration for anyone s was recently accused of stealing some thing but when i told my Story to Security and management i was told to my face i was lying. Well i have you know after about an hour of going around in circles it was proven i was right but did Security say they were sorry of no they just smiled and said of real shoplifters just walk out the front door because Security is never around when they Are needed. We must constantly have our bags purses and lockers checked. I thought America was a free country where you were innocent until proven otherwise. Why is cafes policy the other Way around guilty until you prove yourself innocent where Are our rights or Don t we As Mere human beings have any cafes loses a lot of workers because they get fed up with All this. Name and location withheld editor s note master sgt. Bruce e. Zielsdorf customer relations specialist. Public affairs office he cafes Europe replies no cafes employee should fed harassed or embarrassed when participating in routine Security checks. A Lesa than professional attitude on the part of any Security specialist simply won t be tolerated. As with All cafes policies they must be a plod fairly to All employees including management and Security people. Regret you did t provide the name of Ibe facility where the incident occurred. All our Exchange managers have open doors and they need to know when such an incident occurs so they can ensure it won t happen in the future. The word s gone Oil to All our exchanges to emphasize the need for sensitivity and professionalism when doing Security checks. So Why Are they needed in the first place the Security policies cafes sets for its employees Are Standard practice throughout the retail Industry. They re in tended to reduce losses from theft and fraudulent refunds by those few who might abuse the system. Although our employees Are expected to follow these policies it s just As vital that management makes sure employees understand the reasons for s review a few of cafes policies As explained in the employee training program which apply to the questions you raised the store manager and cafes Security people Are authorized to inspect any employee s Purchase before Ibe employee leaves the store. Managers inspect parcels carried in and out of the store at least once a we and lockers Are inspected quarterly. Inspections Are strictly impartial and nonselective and apply to allem Plo yees in the store. Employees Are made aware of these procedures As a condition of employment discussed during new hire orientation. Additionally notices about inspections Are permanently posted in each retail facility. Whenever you have questions about cafes policies or procedures Don t Hesi Tate to discuss them with the local store or Exchange manager. They re the professionals with Ibe ability and authority to address the matter on the spot. Cheering Reagan s terrorism stance i am writing in reference to the recent article " did right thing Reagan says sees no reason for apology i and the american people along with most of our allies feel the same Way i Egypt feels the Way she does it s too bad. I feel they would have done the same thing fit were egyptians on that ship getting killed and of the civilized nations have been say ing something should be done. So now the United states can finally do something and people scream bloody murder. Yasser Arafat talks about his people s rights and piracy. What rights did Leon Klinghoffer have he was executed like a dog and then his body was thrown overboard like Koran says an Eye for an Eye a tooth for a Well maybe we should use some middy East Justice. If those sick gutless punks hav a right to shoot a 69-year-old Man in t wheelchair in the Back we As his countrymen should have a right to just retribution terrorists have a Complete disregard for human life and rights of others As shown by bombings executions kidnappings the four psychos May god have mercy on your miserable wretched souls you redoing to need it to Mohammed Abbas and All other terrorists smile for now because your Days Are numbered the free nations of this world Are fed up with your cowardly tactics. Spec. 4 Gerald l. Larak berlins �. I for Bazaar Hospital gifts. that gives so much. Bless you _ one and All Apo Mii. . We Are All still prone to pointing fingers of blame and raising bowls of protest whenever we believe we have been shafted. It is one of the great strengths of the american Way of life that we Are permitted to do so. However there is a concomitant obligation to Heap Praise and give thanks when we have Beta done right by but that is a practice too Seldom honoured. I Hope by this letter to destroy one such the Pitburg officers and civilians spouses club held its Bazaar on oct. 18-20. This Bazaar was a Model of perfection i organization and planning. The services provided to vendors and customers were unbelievably generous and Friendly. If the military wishes to improve its plan Ning methodology it should study the Way the above club its Williams Ahlhelm a Nna the staff of the Ped Ianc Ward at 5th general Hospital bad Cannstatt Ger Many would like to thank everyone who i Imojian Lomon com Jip Friy i Zakim. Us Deputy editor to chm . Blackbu. M. Proctor dam Corrott production manager managing de. 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