European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 15, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse Friday november 15, 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Arrilah Deirl tetters dear Ann Landers your advice to women who became involved with mar ried men seemed sensible to me and i am a logical and pragmatic person. So. After two years i ended my affair with a married Man. It was an incredibly painful experience but i knew i had to Doit. That Wai 10 years go. I now have a wonderful husband and two Beautiful Chil Dren. So Why am i writing i need to know. Ann will i Ever Stop Loving that married Man will the pain of breaking up with him Ever go away sure you can end an affair but How do you get Over the yearning of what might have been i guess this is my private hell and i will simply have to endure it. Surely i am not alone in this dilemma. Someone out there must know the secret of that magical on off switch. Do you Ann awaiting your reply in Calif. Dear Calif the my that got away like the fish always seems like the prize catch. You can Slop torturing yourself if you really want to. Mere s How Block him out of your mind. Replace those daydreams with real live thoughts of How Lucky you ire to have wonderful husband and into Beautiful children. Consider yourself fortunate to have wasted Only into years on your former Lover. Many women spend a lifetime will ing in the wings hoping and praying that his Promise someday we will be together will come to pass. By the Lime these Dames Wake up and smell the Coffee All the eligible men have married women who were playing ii straight. I Hope i have helped you find thai magic off switch in my response. Dear Ann Landers i am 12 years old. My parents said they will go along with what you say if you print my letter. When i cat a meal i always eat one thing until it is finished before i touch anything else. For example dinner. I will eat All the meat first than All the vegetables then the potatoes. I am not a fussy Cater. Many times i take seconds and clean the plate before dessert. I have been eating this Way As Long As 1 can remember. Mom said it is not polite especially in someone s House or when we cat in a restaurant. I have tried to cat like mom says but i Don t enjoy it. Please give me some advice. Kim in dear Kim i see nothing impolite about your style of eating. Ii a different but ii should nol matter to anyone. Boo Apostil dear Ann Landers what do your experts say is the cure for a compulsive talker i m referring to a highly intelligent sensitive person. Yet. As often As she has been told that she talks Loo much by peo ple who respect and love her there has been absolutely no change Over several years. Any answers weary in san Bernardino a compulsion is extremely difficult often impossible to overcome. Years of intensive therapy re often fruitless. In Ihbe Cise i suggest that you develop a tin ear think of something else such As whal Vou Are going of fix for dinner whal you will a to the parly saturday night or what is � polite Way to escape into another part of the Bouse Soldier improves his army career and his marriage i be been in the army for five years 10 months. While i be been in the service i got married and had a daughter. It was hard to adjust to being married. I Felt like i was trapped or tied Down. I used to go out after work with the single Guys and have a couple of Beers then i d come Home to a crying wife. Boy i hated that. She would say Mike Why do you have to drink almost every night and i d say it makes me feel Good and it s easier on my nerves to face you and the and then she started crying again and said she could t take it any More. I get up an hour earlier with the baby to take her to the baby Sitter go to work come Home do laundry the dishes take care of the baby. Make dinner stay Home at night by myself. I can t take it anymore. I m ready to go Back i turned around and said All you do is complain. Look at what i brought you. You re in a new country. You have Nice clothes furniture jewelry and i gave you a Beautiful baby. Are you Ever Gonna be Happy and she said yes Whin i have you and your and then it hit me. I be been buying her All these Beautiful things to show her my love but she can t feel or hold it. I realized then that i was married but trying to play the single life Loo. As i write this letter i Hope that just one person can Sec himself As i have. In the next couple of months. I went to the e-5 Board and failed and look the it test and failed. Next i was put on the overweight program and besides that after work i would go and have a couple of drinks with the Guys. They would say come on Mike. Let s go have some i said no thanks. I m going Home to my wife and Little what s the matter you Hen pecked no. I have to get my uniform ready for work tomorrow and spend some time with my what i m trying to say is. I be slopped drinking German Beer which is Strong and High in calories. I la have a mixed drink now and then but it s Nice to know i can do without. That s a Good feeling. I be lost 16 pounds in the last two months due to More exercise and passed the it test. People arc saying How much better i m looking my re enlist mint is coming up and they asked me if i m Gonna re enlist . Present duly assignment which i m thinking about. I Hope to go Back to the e-5 Board soon. I also realize that marriage is give and take so 1 help As much As possible with the chores around the House and devote More time with my wife and i talc girl. And most of All i feel better about myself and have More Pride in my family and career. I would like to take up More of this space by saying thank you to my Darling wife for being there when 1 needed her most and giving me All her support. And a special thanks to my supervisors who saw that i needed help and gave me the help thai i needed. Michael a. Toner /.weihrucckcn. Germany a Young woman has her ankle tattooed in a Newport r.i., Tattoo parlor. She s no member of the Herd i was Reading an article in a recent Edi Tion of the stars and stripes called. An Art that s Only skin deep about Dave mind by the owner of a Tattoo parlor in an English Village called Barrow. In this article maj. Or Larry Roberts who is chief of dermatology Al Raf Laken Heath stated that in his opinion most people who get tattoos Are seeking identity or pinned on pens i am writing to inform you of what appears to be an error in a recent edition in which a title reads Biro Ball Point pen inventor Dies in Buenos Aires at 86." the first sentence then acknowledges Jose Ladislao Biro As inventor of the common Ball Point pen your article goes on to say thai a Biro said he sold the patents for the pen to the Parker co. In 1948." Biro May have sold the Patent to Parker co., and Biro and Parker co. May have accomplished the marketing of the pen but in formation from Yankee Magazine september 1985, Page 191, reveals Fiat one John j. Loud of Weymouth mass., patented the Ball Point pen in 1888. It was 50 years before a successful version was thanks perhaps to or. Biro for not even an army can Slop an idea whose time has come but thanks certainly to or. Loud who obviously went unrecognized and probably went . Col g. Robert Kluun Brussey your average Well adjusted individual does t get in addition he quoted from a medical journal As staling that those who submit to lat looking in clude a High proportion of emotionally unstable Ana immature individuals homosexuals if this is supposed to inform the Public thai you would have to be either Gay or crazy to get a Tattoo please Lei me speak for the Many men and women such As myself who have la Loos. I am nol Gay and gave my decision to get a Tattoo a great Deal of serious consideration before going ahead and getting it. While i had several reasons for getting them let me assure you that seeking Iden Tity with the so called Herd was not one of them and i do resent the implication. 1 do understand and respect or. Roberts stand on tattoos and feel thai More people should give More serious Houghl before gelling one. But some of us who have them consider them an artistic form of expression and not a Tickel to get in with the . Paula Jean toy Ramstein a Germany pen pal a Job Biachi a i would mkt to court Toone with pen Pait irom All Over it work. Do re Sorlom co cart la Parlow Stora real sir eel duma0ul cd
