European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 27, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday january 27, 19b6 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers we need advice on what la do about my husband s 7-year-old son by a former mar. Ridge. John and i lived together far three years and have. Been married since1983.Junior was Only 2 when his parents � were separated. Dur if ing these past tour years we have developed a very stable relationship. He is with us twice a week for dinner and every other weekend. I noticed recently that Junior has been drawing away from me and forgets inc hello and Good Bye kisses. Finally his dad asked him Why. The boy replied Mommy says whenever i kiss Louise i Stab knives into her heart. When i get Home she always asks me did you Stab any knives into Mommy c heart today " should we Stop the kisses so Junior can Tell his Mother he did t Stab any knives into his Mother s heart we want an affectionate relationship but we Don t wish to add to the boy s problems. Blue Ridge country woe dear Dine Ridge you Amsl not allow your Stepson s thinking la be warped by his manipulative Mother. His father should explain that a kiss is a itry personal thing and that when Junior kisses you in has nothing to do with his Mother or anyone else. If he boy shows signs of being de pressed i suggest counselling. He May need professional help to learn How to keep one fool in both Camps without suf Fering from divided loyalties dear Ann Landers i be been married 34 years. Several Days ago i noticed that the Diamond had fallen out of my engagement ring. It s one third of a Carat. Luckily my husband found it on our bedroom floor. I took it to a jeweler who has been in our town for at feast 50 years. He has a Good reputation. 1 asked him How i could be sure that i got my own Diamond Back when in was reset. He smiled and said d just have to Trust him. My Diamond was set in a Circle of White Gold. The jeweler suggested reselling it on pranks to muck the Stone look larger. When 1 Gol it Back it looked Fine. But after a week in did t took like the same Stone. Somehow it does t have the old sparkle. What do you think 1 should or an do a Wisconsin Reader dear Reader i seem highly unlikely that a jeweler who has been in business for 50 Yean would switch stones on you especially one third of a Caral. That s Worth about w50, assuming the Stone is of Fine Quality if you Are suspicious however Lake the ring to another jeweler and ask if what you now Hare is a real Diamond or a phony dear Ann Landers our son broke his hand while wrestling with 8 Friend. He is 13 years old so i am now officially the Mother of a teen Ager. Cod help me while we were in la doctor s office go line the cast on i saw a sign with the following message attention teen agers if you Are tired of being hassled by unreasonable parents now is the time for action. Leave Home and pay your own Way while you still know everything a fan in Fremont Calif. Der Calif loved ii thanks for sharing. Letters writer urges greater Protection against terrorism re of the Sun and so rpm Apo Onil. Forc All Idle to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. We do not read 7nd�3 total by. In will withhold your name on request and protect your privacy. All tellers arc subject to editing. Could the Young airman who died in the terrorist bombing of Rhein main a in August i983.be alive today Why do our generals Wear Bullet proof vests and ride in Bullet proof cars Are we at War after serving Tor More than 24 years in the United slates air Force and As a re tired senior no 1 have some questions that i believe our military leaders should look at very seriously would the Joung airman who was Mur dered at Rhein main be alive today if he had been wearing a flak jacket helmet and other associated protective clothing i do not think the question can be answered but the possibility s in arc. The protective clothing was an everyday part of the uniform in Vietnam and 1 am quite sure it was responsible for the saving of More than one life. The sap seems logo in for Comfort and looks instead of Tili my protective clothing that is for the majority. Our generals Wear protective clothing and utilize vehicles that arc Bullet proofed. We practice for War continuously and Are briefed Aslo our Mission and Why we arc in Europe. Yet if in is looked no realistically the individual airman May survive a Chemi Cal attack Only to be killed by a single shot or blast. We Are at War. Terrorists around inc world have declared War against the . And the military Here in Europe is a primary target. It is time we in the Usan dressed for War and saved the pretty uni forms for parades and ceremonies. How Safe would you feel if nil airmen were issued Wear or if a realistic Survey were taken of the average airman who has been in the service from three to six years i believe it would be proven that the majority officers and enlisted alike have a very Low knowledge of the weapons hey might be issued. Without extensive training they would not be Able to break Down and re assemble a weapon. Some would not even know How the weapon functions. The average individual receives training during Basic and May never see or touch a weapon again during his or her service time. There Are facilities on bases that re quire the airmen who work in those facilities to provide Protection for them. How Safe Are we if we Are attacked the number of individuals who Are weapon Wise will be Greally overshadowed by those who Are not. The Usan needs to return to the basics with a lot of emphasis placed on the fact that it is a military organization and if called upon has to be Able to perform As a righting Force. 1 f War Bra is out in is a til tie Loo tale to Start training name withheld 1 inc Spoyer Germany  s note col. Ralph n. Dual ii. Director. Security police opera Tion Liq i sue replies we in us ape genuinely share your concerns about the safety Anil Security of Toth our people and resources. We Are sincerely committed to providing the Best Protection possible for All of our fun Rapcion twit interests. In living up to his Man Date we approach our continuing commit ment o improve Security from a realistic and responsible platform. However to discuss specific protective measures and  in an open forum such As this would be neither advisable nor prudent. Still your letter certainly deserves a thoughtful reply and we will attempt o address your questions and comment accordingly we Are painfully aware on a daily Busis of the possibility of innocent victims be coming targets by circumstance Loun act of terrorism this aet occurring without warning in any of a number of places. Certainly we could respond to this threat by outfitting e cry Man woman and child with fully armoured it lira head to toe we could build mini fortresses for them to work and Lite in. We could move them to and from these hardened enclaves in fully armoured transports. Hut is this the answer we think nol. To restrict movement and lifestyles of our military communities is to take away that very intangible Ilia we Are Here in protect Freedom. As americans this is a privilege and right to which we hate be come accustomed. To Remote this Liberty in the face of a few cowardly fanatics would be to submit to one of their Basic goals. This cannot happen. Are we at War to that we would sly emphatically no we Are peacekeepers on a Mission of Del errant presence within the nato Community. Those groups that currently oppose us do not represent a Sovereign government nor do those governments thai May sponsor writer has air safety suggestions a recent writer wants aggressive de sense and offence against attacks by cow ardly punks against unarmed women children and yes men. All who travel internationally Are concerned. I have two suggestions to offer in fur therance of the cause try to get International agreements to have All diplomatic shipments submitted to inspection even As you and i Are from or to All countries. Travellers from non signing countries should be prohibited on civilian aircraft in International travel. Pen pals i would Ilka pen pal Irum other to gun left i m24 Tiri Aid. Mirga Rei maihll45 Woodland a attn upon so.  Globe t would Ilka id Corr Pond Ullh allot from abroad. I amj3 and pm crr. My two butt Art dancing pen pal writing  i pop Mui to Liila it flour gulrtrrf1 733 Lawain is. A full Davao cd Teni  i would he Dan my from bit Ovar me world. I Amii Vetari old. I work m an Pikal Liu Moat Ullh an Fitch Rognle  j. Of Iro int Gerarad a Axhi put ii.  South suimr1 Elfi Hov Pfar Anoai. Metro Man la philippine i would like pan pals from ail Over la world. J am30 Yuan old. My nibble Ard Coo no Linin dancing and Pii Eiting Ira Moi. Rub d. , negro i Oriental Punj Pippine allow Volunteer passengers to carry loaded guns by agreement in Advance with concerned agencies. I m willing to do this and i m sure other military and former military or police persons would feel belter to do so. A trained or formerly trained person with n defensive weapon is no More liable to puncture inc skin of an aircraft or to inadvertently shoot an in Nocent person than arc the punks who Are being allowed to secretly carry loaded weapons onto the same Craft. Think about it i m for a Little More do and lest talk name and location withheld i would ilk to correspond Ullh others in different count run i am ii vean old. My Hobbet , Pat Tang and wlm Ming. Roi Eiarl Etala Flo Otbo. Alan negro Oriental  i would like to Willa la elder in different count rat. 1 am is vean old and a roman  Datro Urlo Jal us. Valenci Carcar Cebu philippine 1 would Ike to correspond Ullh Olsen from . 1 am 13 a an old. Jun Cero fare Aall Nguol. 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We will never however subject our interests to the unreasonable or the extreme. Such is neither necessary nor in the spirit of what we stand for As Ameri can in response to part two of inc question concerning arming and qualification train ing n sufficient amount of Usan person Nel do receive weapons training prior to rotation and arrival within Hie Safe theater. Again o discuss specific numbers would be unwise As this information is of possible intelligence value in response to All threats within the command. Although mass arming of personnel i always an option we would nol embark on such an initiative without first ensuring that our personnel Are trained in Accord Ance with established Levels of proficiency. These standards Are the same As those that must initially be met by individuals wha Are currently armed on a daily basis in the performance of their specific duties european c capt Dale k. Patter Joh us Hedbor Nch Lal Cash Jeffrey s. 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