European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 11, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday March 11, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letter dear Ann Landers i am a 43-year-old Mother of a teen age daughter. I have been divorced since she was 2.1 never meant to be promiscuous but 15 years of love affairs can make a record look pretty bad. Each new affair was meant to be the affair to end All  each new Lover was expected to be the key to my happiness and the solution to All my problems. Because of this attitude which i have since changed i be came involved in sexual relationships too Early too soon. Then i would end up getting Hurt or hurting the Man. I realize now that men Are always ready and eager to have sex. I Don t believe most of them intentionally Hurt or exploit women but if a woman is too willing and too eager to please a Man finds it difficult to understand that she could want More from him than just a Good time in bed. It s taken a Long time but i m finally willing to admit that our mothers and grandmothers weren t just prudes they were smart. In their Day couples went through a courtship or dating period that enabled them to get to know each other before becoming sexually involved. I m sure this saved a lot of pain and grief and made for stable and lasting relationships. Today the sexual revolution notwithstanding it s still up to the woman to have enough self respect and self control to set limits and decide for herself if and when she wants to say  my daughter already knows this. Thank goodness her Mother does too. Happier and Wiser dear h. And a thank you for a sound and solid letter. It s filled with the kind of Wisdom born of experience. I wish i could have said it so Well. Dear Ann Landers you say nurses Deal with pain suffering and death every Day. True but burnout is getting to be a serious problem. We Burn out not because of the sick people who Are demanding it s All the other Junky stuff we have to do. Do you realize How frustrating it is to be called on the carpet because you did t put the Date on a Jar of applesauce in the refrigerator or because you forgot to Chart a note one Day on the condition of a person who has t changed physically or mentally in six years i want to take care of patients and give them the time and attention they deserve. I am not interested in looking Good on paper and attending unnecessary time consuming meetings. If we Don t get Back to the basics of the profession nobody will care to go into the Field and there will be darned few nurses. Fed up in by. City dear . Noting the Date on Hospital food and making Chart notations Are basics of the profession. The care your patients deserve includes keeping track of such details. Stick with it and handle the Boring but essential aspects of the Job. This makes for competent nursing. Dear Ann Landers a letter from my Mother in Law says i am making a list of All the things you be done Over the years that Haven t set right with  i think she s trying to get her son Back. In my opinion our marriage is better than most. How should i Deal with this Saginaw Mich. Dear Sag it sounds As if the woman is trying to trap you into a four door family fight. Don t Rise to the bait. Say nothing to either your husband or your Mother in Law about the letter. Be Sweet As pie. It will drive her nuts. Readers wishing to write to news America Syndi Cate columnist Landers May address their letters in care of the stars and stripes Apo 09211, . Forces reminder Heidelberg no suggests contest for an filler time the letters to the editor has always been one of my favorite parts of the stars and stripes. One gets an insight into what is bothering one s fellow Cranks throughout the american Community in Europe. A recent edition contained a letter " style segments irritate viewer which triggered this letter. 1 quite agree with the writer in his anti Pathy to the style segments. Previously my response to such displays on an has been limited to personal Comfort activities . Trips to the refrigerator or latrine that s head for you sailors or lapsing into a slightly deeper level of the Normal glazed eyed catatonia of the typical Couch potato. The Advent of Remote control devices expanded my Range to switching to Ard or Adf for a few minutes. Now 1 have another idea prompted by the recent letter and All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be signed. We do not read unsigned letters but we will withhold your name on request and protect your privacy. All letters Are subject to editing. Robert Harlan s response. Or. Harlan attributes styles airing to the desire to conform to the Normal on the hour or half hour Start times for major shows and More fill time than filler mate  he promises that an will continue to search for More interesting filler material without mentioning that an is limited in its monetary resources. In fact if i remember previous responses to complaints correctly an is pretty much limited to what is provided to it free of charge. Why not hold a contest in which Mem Bers of the american Community Are invited to submit three four or five minute Short subjects to use As filler there Are lots of people out there who have purchased their own Vars and Home video cameras and probably Harbor secret desires to be the next Grant tinker. After discarding those efforts that Are new rules considered on records recently an article appeared in your paper indicating personnel at Dover fab del., were having difficulty identifying the remains of the victims from the Gander air crash. The article stated that the medical records of the service personnel were on Board the aircraft with the soldiers which is in violation of military regulations. If this is Correct then Why when soldiers have a permanent change of station from their duty station do they hand carry their medical dental records to the Best of my knowledge there is not a duplicate of these records anywhere in the world. These records contain valuable information in the identification process of victims in such disasters. Why Aren t the records mailed by the medical dental clinic to the next duty station so that in Case of such a thing records May be obtained if the records being carried for an entire unit Are against the regulations then Why is it different for a plane full of soldiers on a permanent change of station staff sgt. Wayne t. Spears or. Heilbronn Germany editor s note staff sgt. Kenneth p. Arndt Coic response cell 1st personnel come he Usa eur replies while the presence of the dental medical records on Board the same flight As the soldiers in the recent Gander air crash was not in violation of existing regulations that disaster identified a substantial flaw in our procedures. To prevent this problem in the future Many alternatives were considered including your suggestion of mailing the dental medical records to the new duty station. After careful review the following requirements were implemented dental facilities Are now required to retain on file a duplicate pan graphic radiograph for soldiers travelling in conjunction with a permanent or temporary change of duty. They will verify this by annotating the co processing checklist. Dental records will not be taken on temporary duty regardless of the duration. Soldiers should be reminded of the importance of having a current id card in their Possession and wearing identification tags at All times but especially when travelling on official business. The writer s concern for fellow soldiers and their families is commendable. Past experience As Well As detailed current considerations indicate that mailing records is not the answer. New procedures now being implemented will prove the Best solution for the army and soldiers. Reader disagrees with Mia Story i wish to express my total dissatisfaction with the article entitled mias May be freely living in  i am appalled with your Choice of head line and with the general tone of the article. I am angered with the congressional delegation s comments which promote the blatant lies of the communist government of Viet Nam and i am even angrier with the medi a s one sided interpretation As presented in this article. Vietnam has to have a Way to save face with the world Community. They need a Way out or escape from condemnation for keeping american pos for so Long. Their Way out is to lie by insinuating americans deserted to their Side. In this article the vietnamese indicated americans might be still living in Remote areas which Are beyond their control. The communist government of Vietnam is in total control of All of their country. Let s say that americans May have been placed by the vietnamese in Remote areas. If americans were in Remote areas without communication weapons or transportation they could not escape. Therefore if it is True it does not mean that they Are freely living in Vietnam. Our government must stand firm and de Mand the release of All americans in Viet Nam Laos and Cambodia. It will take the full Force of american Public opinion to get All of these men Home. Poor is the nation that has no heroes. Poor is the nation that has them and yet forgets. These men Are heroes still waiting to come Home. These heroes need our con Cern our prayers and our sincere efforts to get them All Home. Barbara White Karlsruhe Germany pen pals i would like pen pals. I am is years old. Raquel Duran Fatima Village Plapis Dumaguet City 6501 Philippines i would like to correspond with other people anywhere. My hobbies Are playing Tennis swimming music making friends Reading and collecting things. I am 11 years old. Julie Young hic Ullh Avn in Apo .,  09457 i am 19 years old and would like to correspond with people All Over the world. Misael Duran Fatima Village not of broadcast Quality or have been subpoenaed by Cid or the vice squad one might have an entire new week s Worth of filler material. I would make it a two tiered contest with separate categories for rank amateurs and those connected with television production for an or the various Public affairs offices which the military has in Europe. It would not be fair to pit pfc. Boo Docker against a professional. On the other hand we Don t want to exclude any potential sources since beggars can t be choosers. A related source could be the Public affairs audio visual activities of major Mili tary installations in the United states. Upon receiving reassignment orders to Camp swampy one might then be Able to recall viewing a Short subject extolling its Good Points on an. One could then either be reassured that one s next assignment will be enjoyable or climb up on the roof with the magnum and a week s Supply of ammunition As appropriate. Finally a suggestion for the stars and stripes. In addition to identifying the individual and organization of those providing responses to letters to the editor Why not include a mailing address those who have a legitimate complaint could then petition its source directly without bothering stars and stripes. The True Crank of course will spurn this approach or Send the source a copy of his or her rocket thus assuring you a Supply of material for your letters to the editor. Staff sgt. Christopher Warren Heidelberg Priapi Dumaguet City Philippines we would like pen pals from All Over the world. Elena m. Israel Meriam a. Jayma Delfa c. Aningalan Marlyn Rio University of Mindanao Tyggum College Tagum Davao 9401, Philippines i am 27 years old and would like to correspond with people in other countries. My hobbies Are swimming surfing Reading and corresponding. Douglas Daigle . Box 215 Maury . 28544 european edition capt Dale k. Patterson us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey s. Zakem us Deputy editor in chief . Blackwell m. Proctor . Mcdermott production manager managing de. Circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. Contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views of or endorsed by the . 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