European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 8, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday Juty 1988 the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers 1 knew someday i would write to you but i have been saving my letter for the right moment. The Nghi moment came when i read the  from the woman who was outraged because you warned people against trusting strangers. Where is the spin of giving a helping hand she asked. Are we not our brother s keeper. You refused to change your mind and i am grateful. 1 trusted a stranger. He told me his wife and daughter had just been killed in an Auto Accident i recently had been divorced. We both shared sadness. We had a Bond. We were Good Tor adiother.". A month later he was captured by the Fri. At the Lime he was carrying a Teller addressed to me. The Fri came to my Home wanting to know about our relation ship. After questioning me they were satisfied that iwas not involved in his  what was his background four counts of Bank Rob Bery seven counts or murder. Two of the victims were his friends whom he buried after killing them. But Wail there is More. After he was taken into custody his gang showed up at my door. My sister and brother in Law walked in As they were trying to Kidnap me. They foiled the attempt and probably saved my life. 1 notified the Fri of what happened. My nightmares Over but it has left scan that Wilt be with me for Ever. Please continue to advise against trusting strangers. You provide your readers with common sense and Wise counsel. Don t Ever Stop. Could have been number eight Lewiston Maine dear could Hare to Turki for sharing your hair raising experience. It san la supports mar Contention that stringers out be dangerous. How us that we do longer can be Good Samaritana but. As John f. Kennedy did it s a Dan germ and untidy Warta dear Ann Landers my brother and i do not Wear underwear. We be Lieve it is just an uncomfortable custom left Over from the Olden Days to protect people against the scratchy Siufu thai clothe were made of then mom say it is unhealthy to go without underwear. Dad says it is indecent. What do you say Ann land ers Brothers in grand rapids Dor grand. I say Wear underwear in the interest of Good Hygiene. Thu i for girls As Well n Beys. 1 never did care for that my where Miu Whitzer aame says nothing comes Between her and Fer Jeau dear Ann Landers this is for the person who complained about Exten Sive repairs required on major appliances 1 Hope you will Tell her about Macau major appliance consumer action panel. It was formed in 1970 with the help of the us. Office of consumer affair Sand we assist Consumers who have problems with their major household appliances. We have handled More than 36,000 complaints and 80 percent of the complainers received Sui factory results. Our address is Macau 20 North Wacker drive Chicago 60606. We Welcome your beefs and will make every extort to help you get satisfaction. Please enclose a self addressed stamped envelope is a Fliterman chairman dear Elsie thanks for the information. I Hope Yon an prepared for a blizzard of letters. My re fort to get it. In we a w Warta b it a Fri so Firtl of Cucui 4lf�rt to Oriol to Sun info strip ""0 m2". Page 11 letters children need discipline readers say i just read he letter from the lady asking Ever Onelo be patient and understanding of children. You have some valid Points but i disagree with the rest. Before you write me off As anti children you should know that my husband and 1 have four Chil Dren Ages 10, 8, 5 and 2, so we can draw on experience not just what the books say about child rearing. You Ore right we can t expect kids to act like adults but that does t mean they have a License to run wild. From the time a child becomes Mobile whether crawl ing or walking he must learn self discipline. This is not a trait that mysteriously appears when he turns 12 or 13 after being allowed to do As he pleased for All the year before lha. There is no such thing As Complete Freedom not even for children. All Freedom has limits and As a Parent you must teach this to your children. If a child docs not learn to recognize and respect limits on his behaviour before reaching the teen Yean he will have no end of trouble from then on. Not Only will he be a problem to himself but a pain to the rest of society. You also commented on another writer s experience with a Small child in a snack bar. The Man was approached by a Small child he did t know who started to eat his French Fries. I agree the parents were right not to get angry but it is possible to Cor rect a child Misbehaviour without anger. If an strange child pulled that stunt on me. Id give my food Bill to the kid so Wrens. You Felt the child was showing a sense of autonomy and Independence and his parents were doing a wonderful Job of making that child feel special secure Strong and  the Only thing that child is teaming is to be a selfish Little thief who thinks Only of himself. He is taking something that does t belong to him. Even my 2-year-old knows better than to do that. Why make a big Deal about a few French Fries do you want to wait until the child lakes something More valuable before you Leach him 10 respect other people s possessions no i Don t get upset Over spilled drinks at Burger King or similar snack bars. I be spilled some myself. But my children know that screaming and running around Are not acceptable Public behaviour unless they want to lose the privilege of going to the snack bar again. The other patrons have their rights too and my children Are expected to learn to respect them and age 2 is not too Early. My children Are not Angels. They gel into just As much mischief and Are just As curious and uninhibited � any other kids. But i refuse to let my kids Catlike outlaws nor will i ask others to condone my children s inexcusable behaviour. I be had to Deal with my share of misunderstanding on the pan of others too. My kids know they Are special. They Are Strong secure and accepted not because they can gel away with taking advantage pen pals i Wuu Hup i pita trim Ilow do Mrad. I in is in the.  e. Us brim   i Muul Phi pm Rem a run count Row. I a w attn of. My l�0e��v  Point Erin Mana a Young. Kuhn i ind Ermna 5TilTrtr-wm Ort Tell. Pump Loil we of others but because they know we love them an care enough about them to set limits and and see that they respect them mrs. Jack Ritsema Span Dahlem a Germany my husband and i Are parents who strongly believe it s important to teach our child manners and values such As respect for others privacy and belongings and at least enough common Courtesy not to become a nuisance to others. Restraint and control Are also important in certain situations these traits build character self respect and dignity. All Are necessary to become decent and responsible adults. Teaching basics can be started As Early As the Tod Dler years. Children age 5 and under Are much smarter than the writer gives them credit to be. It takes a lot of time and Effort to explain your wishes to the child Over and Over again. But it s Well Worth it. It s too bad most parents Don t take the time. In Stead they choose to spank or scold. We Don t believe these to be effective methods of teaching and Don t use them on our child. There is nothing wrong with children acting wild and Rowdy but not at the expense of others. There is a time and place for everything. Having a sense of humor is Fine but we All dont laugh at the same joke. What May seem funny to some might net be so funny to other. What we teach or Don t teach our children will definitely effect their adult lives. Wild and "6ut of hand children often turn into "wild1 and out of hand adults. Sign me a Mother concerned about her child s future. Name withheld ill Eshelm Germany i agree children Are not Little adults and adult should not expect children to behave perfectly at All times. However i do expert parents to control their children in Public. Not allowing your child to run shrieking through a line Al the Bank or Between the tables at a restaurant is not stifling your child s creativity or Independence. It is leaching the child How to conduct himself in Public. Toddlers Are not Loo Young to learn. Any child old enough to talk is old enough to say please and thank you and he or she can learn to sit quietly at a table to a restaurant a piece of paper and a Crayon or a picture Book do far More for promoting creativity than running around grabbing food from other people s plates. Parents should be in control of a situation not the child. Common sense dictates that asking a Small child to sit quietly through a three hour dinner in a restaurant is asking too much. Use your head. As much As is practical or possible limit what you ask of a child to a Lime period you know he or she can handle. Children do scream cry have accidents and throw temper tantrums occasionally. There again it is up to the parents 10 handle the situation. If your child can not be calmed quickly where you Are take the child away from the situation to the restroom or outside until the child calms Down. There is no reason to inflict your child s stages on the Public at Large. 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