European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 15, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse Monday. September 15, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers dear Ann Landers i have a unique problem that has me slumped. It started eight Monlai ago when i began writing to an old Friend from grammar school. He was my first love. We had lost touch with each other until his name and whereabouts were made Public through the Media. The Man is serving time for killing his wife. The problem is this i have in fallen deeply in love with or. F he feels the same Way about i know he has changed a lol since grammar school and considering where he is now i realize i am talking a big Chance. Bui i can t get him out of my mind. Nor do i want to. I love having a Man in my life. I Haven t been this Happy in Ages. 1 weighed the pros and cons of establishing a love relationship with or. X and it comes out in hit favor. What i m worried Ghoul is my family s reaction. My son is 16. I have talked with him about the situation. He is in favor of the relationship but says he worries about my safely i need to know from you if this Romance stands a Chance. I have a lot of Confidence in your judgment. . sorry you be Given me too few facts on which in base a legitimate evaluation. Several need an swering. For example hew old Are Yout How old u or. A How did he kill Bis wife did be cot her Throat was he driving a car while drunk or did he put arsenic in her Coffee did he plead guilty or does he claim he is inno cent when will he be free does he have a Trade or a profession will he be self supporting when he gels out or Are you going to support him have you been sending him Money since he s been in prison if so How much what is his martial history when you provide me with the answers to these ques Tion i will be in a better position to advise you. Please tend me this column with the answers and a self addressed stamped envelope. Dear Ann Landers my son is completing his second year of teaching and Hopes one Day to be a High school principal. Bob told me last n ight that he is going to ask his 2 1 year old sweetheart to marry him. Marcia is a Lovely Young woman attractive kind successful in her Job As a salesperson and deeply de voted to my son. But her grammar and vocabulary Are comparable to that of a 9-year-old. Example me and Bob went to the Park n stuff. I should worn a rain coat n i enjoy Marcia s company but i find myself feeling embarrassed when others Are within hearing Range. I keep wondering How Long it will be before Bob feels uncomfortable about her inability to speak properly. We went through the trauma of our older son s divorce last year and 1 certainly Don t want Bob to suffer the same Fate. Do i have the right to bring this matter to my son s attention before he makes a formal commitment would he consider it interference and be even More determined to marry her please answer As soon As possible. My gut feeling is Dev concerned keep your up zipped Mother. Bob is Well aware of Hemard. Mar Dyrithe of Eltoh Tanguie. Of lowly. A not bother him. So Gna Aad Bear it and Hope a Merrit flit fee t r. Gnava the Best. Joe Sera Leim. Military wife urges others to show Pride As our third Lour in Germany approaches its conclusion 1 wan i to comment on a disturbing change which my husband and i have noticed Over the past is years. When i married my husband that Many years ago he had just completed Boot Camp. At that time he told me that he would always consider me his equal partner in his chosen career the Armand that meant we would both try to live up to the standards of the serv ice. I promised that i would do my Best to always be a credit to him in All respects. Although i know that i sometimes slump cd a bit i can honestly say thai i tried my Best to keep my Promise for myself for my husband and for the three children who came along Over the year. Thus 1 feel that after Alt these years i can feel like the wife of a . For that matter i like to think of myself of a my self satisfaction is reinforced by my husband who jives me ample credit for keeping the Home fire i Burn unfortunately As i look around the military Community i fee that Many wives mothers and families have lost sight of their obligations As family members of professional soldiers. I am most disappointed by the image portrayed by Many military wives. When i Stop at the Exchange commissary and other Public areas the appearance of these wives is. Frankly atrocious. For the most part the Man in uniform wears clean pressed uniforms and is in reasonably Good physical shape is courteous and generally creates a positive image. Whether that is due to his own initiative or because Uncle army demands it is irrelevant. The final product is not bad. But All too often walking beside him or shopping atone is a woman who has her hair in curlers a Defi Nite no Nois dressed like something the cat would t drag in possibly trying to look like an overage teeny bopper and or is grossly overweight pronounced fat. When i see such poor examples of femininity i wonder How and Why such women have lost their self Pride at such an Early age. I m amazed that there in t a greater amount of adultery among our menfolk. I can t even full those who do play around if their wives look like bag lady rejects. To my counterparts other military wives i pose the questions do you look in the Mirror before you leave the House do you look in the Mirror when you step out of the Shower do you like what you Sec does your husband like what he sees if you run into your husband s commander what docs he think do you wish you d stayed Home or Are you confident in the image you portray what do you Shink people say about you behind your Back is it she looks great or what a Slob i m particularly disappointed by the number of Young wives who arc so overweight Aslo Border on the disgusting. It seems that during the warm summer months Many seem to be proud to display their Over Sii cd Rumps and flabby thighs in shorts Tiai they out grew in High school. As i Sec it. There Are three problems with such a display of flab. First you arc an embarrassment to your families yes even your kids can Sec if you look ridiculous in shorts. Second you Send the message thai you really Don t care about yourself or what other people think in in other words no Pride. Third your own health can be endangered by excess weight. If you Are overweight in your 20s and 30s, what will you look like 20 years from now assuming you live thai Long will your husband Slit be proud to be your husband or will he look with envy at the Young things around him maybe he already does that and How about your hair nails and makeup it May be in to let your hair look As if you just stepped out of the Shower but in or not it Fooks awful. It s also the sign of a Lazy woman. I could go on but my message should be Clear by now. Are you proud of the Way you look is your family proud of you if not Don l make excuses about raising kids or you la exercise next year Etc. There is no excuse for looking bad. Wife of a and proud of it Heidelberg letter offended Sembach vat worker this is in response to the letter from the employee of the value added lax office at Ramstein. I Loo work at a vat office Sembach and frankly am offended by that letter. I m not even a customer think How offended they must feel Sembach s vat office does not seem to encounter jerks not even once a Mont but we do encounter customers who Are unaware of some of the rules and regulations associated with a vat Relief transaction. Yet after explaining the process to our customers which t think is partly what we get paid for they Are not angry but almost always very understanding since they re All part of our military family and Deal with rules and regulations on a daily basis. To help our customer better understand the Cess we be devised a game showing the vat process from the beginning to end and display it in our lobby. We also furnish our customers with a vat proce Dure letter which is written both in English and Ger Man. In addition we usually ask our customers on the phone whether their invoice is addressed correctly and remind them that we do not accept German Marks or personal checks for automobile purchases. We have done a study and found that a vat trans action takes five to eight minutes to Complete and therefore schedule our appointments 10 minutes apart. Sembach s vat office is open by appointment from 0900 10 1300 hours and for walk ins from 1400 to 1600 hours. So far we be not had a customer come in at 1615 hours and expect to be taken care of even though we do sometimes run Over our closing Lime due to a Large amount of walk in customers who Are not turned away. We find our customers very Friendly understanding and reasonable and invite everyone to come visit us at our Sembach vat office where we know thai our customers Are our follow countrymen not some Nide we re not Friendly by Chance it s our first Rule. Our customers arc always greeted with a smile and we try to go the extra step to make heir lives just a i talc More pleasant in a sometimes not so pleas ant environment. Thank you for letting me voice the Sembach Side of the vat office. Rose w. Hoskins Sembach a Germany pen pals kindly new a in you in pm column. I in id hmm of ind my Hobbs a Coffeng a Anu nv0 is Bull not Flot Oneal of. Tiu pain i a Roux 11 10 try Ripon nun pen Linn i around a raid. I in 17 Pun old in i Intoy a my. Writing inter Iarj dancing. My gut Felm. To it pm of of mini my a twi a Iwu Nung. Dining Colung. I. A kudu Pru ind St. D. M714tru. Peru adv plus coffin. Buiting m97. Punu Baku. Apo a 7m. We Topham to Goth my. Swul �t5. Etc no in Iris it. 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